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what men think of women's belly rolls...

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GoodGriefSunshine · 05/11/2019 16:05

I'm hoping there are some blokes out there who can enlighten me on what men actually think of women's bellies if they are not taut and flat. When you are surrounded by images of flawless beauties, what do you think when a jelly belly is revealed?

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lazylinguist · 05/11/2019 16:07

Well unless they've got washboard abs themselves, it would be a bit hypocritical to object to anormal, non-washboard female belly. I imagine most men don't really care.

mamandematribu · 05/11/2019 16:10

I imagine it's not a-particularly pleasant sight.

ScreamingCosArgosHaveNoRavens · 05/11/2019 16:11

I just asked my husband, who has a 28 inch waist (just v. skinny rather than muscular though) and he said 'they're not archetypically beautiful but they don't bother me.'

ComtesseDeSpair · 05/11/2019 16:14

Well, what do women think of men’s beer guts / moobs / pattern baldness? I imagine that plenty of women would rather a bronzed, toned Adonis but are realistic; and men likewise. Also suspect that the idea that people get together with others of similar attractiveness to themselves plays a part - men who are not themselves stunning are probably going to give more leeway to women’s physical flaws.

Pinkyyy · 05/11/2019 16:14

Why do you care?

BillieEilish · 05/11/2019 16:17

'Belly rolls'? Who has belly rolls?

I and my friends have normal stomachs. Not fat and not washboard thin. Are you exaggerating by saying 'belly rolls'? Sounds unattractive to me.

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GoodGriefSunshine · 05/11/2019 16:24

Lol, BillieEilish and Pinkyyy I'm asking because a friend of mine is single and starting to date again after being married for 20+ years. She is working herself up into a state over the fact that she is 50 and out of shape - ie: doesn't look like a Victoria Secret's model!!! I told her that men are surely realistic and that by the time anything intimate was going on, he would care about her but she is still very anxious about it. So I thought I would get some men's opinions here and hopefully I could use it to prove to her that she need not worry. She does have a bit of a belly and I would have thought loads of people have belly rolls....sitting on the loo, I look like a chubby Buddha Grin

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GoodGriefSunshine · 05/11/2019 16:25

She seems to think that all other 40/50 year old women are pilates and gym honed fitness models.....

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Pinkyyy · 05/11/2019 16:27

So I thought I would get some men's opinions here

On a site that's overwhelmingly female?

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GoodGriefSunshine · 05/11/2019 16:30

There are men on here. There are frequently posts by men.

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BillieEilish · 05/11/2019 16:34

Isn't there a Dadsnet? Maybe post on there.

At 50 and peri/menopausal, her stomach is not going to be at its best, mine is flat but somehow wider these days from 45 plus Grin

Oh, and 15 minutes of plates a day on the sitting room floor will help!

BillieEilish · 05/11/2019 16:35

pilates, not plates Grin

LittleAndOften · 05/11/2019 16:35

If men were this restrictive over finding a partner there would be an awful lot more singletons about! A relationship is about the whole person as a package, and their body shape is really a tiny part of that. Your friend will be much more attractive to potential partners if she is confident and loves herself as she is. Frankly, does she want a relationship with a man who can't see past his perception of an ideal shape?

TheOrigFV45 · 05/11/2019 16:36

I imagine most men would find her lack of confidence in herself more of a concern than a belly.
She needs to be happy in herself. If she's not then I think she should work on that before dating.

Sleepyquest · 05/11/2019 16:40

I think men are actually less bothered than women think they are!

Quirrelsotherface · 05/11/2019 16:47

Why do some posters get so hugely defensive whenever anything to do with being fat is mentioned?! Fwiw OP I can understand your friend's anxiety over it. I would love to know what men truly think about it, rather than what they say because they 'have' to.

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GoodGriefSunshine · 05/11/2019 16:57

Thank you Quirrel I also don't know why people get so negative. This is an anonymous forum where people can ask questions that are sometimes not possible IRL. This is a very normal worry women have and it would be nice to have honest answers from men. Why is that so offensive? If a bloke came on here and asked what women genuinely feel about men going bald or some other random thing, I would just answer. Not give the poster a hard time for wondering.

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KylieMinow · 05/11/2019 16:59

My (skinny) DH loves to squish my rolls (size 18)

I also have had a few girlfriends, all over size 16 and I enjoyed their bodies greatly. I like something to grab.

MeClavdivs · 05/11/2019 17:07

If a bloke came on here and asked what women genuinely feel about men going bald or some other random thing, I would just answer.

Yes but the example you've chosen is not something that's exclusive to women, that's why it's ridiculous.

A better analogy would be "what women genuinely feel about men's crooked teeth" or "greying hair" or similar.

dad2hen · 05/11/2019 17:10

Man here sorry i am not on dadsnet O.O From my experience women tend to see them self's just two ways. Ultra skinny and sexy or really fat and ugly. They can use any word in-between to describe themselves even saying 'curvy' means fat (it really doesn't)

I always say looks are important and call anyone out who says they are not as if you're going to approach someone in public or online you have to be attracted to them a little in the first place! (with the exception of a friend, workmate etc... that you talk to a lot and become attracted to their personality.) BUT looks are not about being small, medium, muscly, bigger there's a lot more to it!! especially things like the way they dress, hygiene, face, hair and so on... some people dress really awful and others know how to flatter their body shape what ever it is by dressing well.

I never had a type, but I prefer women with a bit of shape and not just straight down whereas I have friends who are the exact opposite. Google models are they good looking? yes google plus size models are they good looking? yes.

MrsMaiselsMuff · 05/11/2019 17:18

I used to be fat and now am not. Honestly, as many men appreciated my body when I was fat (and all the bits in between) as do now!

FFSnotanotherone · 05/11/2019 17:19

I find that as long as your underwear comes off and they get to see you naked that men are generally appreciative

Kaykay06 · 05/11/2019 17:21

Why does it matter what a man thinks? If you have belly fat and you don’t like it do something about it. Don’t worry about what other people think, what matters is how you feel about yourself and if you are willing to do something about it.
The way I look is my issue and I don’t eat/dress/worry about what other people think about that. If I feel good then that’s the main thing.

EdWinchester · 05/11/2019 17:24

Well unless they’ve got some sort of fetish, no man’s going to go ‘phwoar!!’ over rolls of blubber. But I think women notice their own perceived flaws more than men do.

MyRaGaiaStarFishPieA · 05/11/2019 17:25

I have never been slim and toned, even in my youth i was a 14-16 and now im a 20-22 at 40. I have never ever struggled to get male attention. My OH loves my belly rolls/muffin top/jelly belly. He loves my bum and my boobs. He is basically just delighted that he has an awesome woman to snuggle and sex up.