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what men think of women's belly rolls...

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GoodGriefSunshine · 05/11/2019 16:05

I'm hoping there are some blokes out there who can enlighten me on what men actually think of women's bellies if they are not taut and flat. When you are surrounded by images of flawless beauties, what do you think when a jelly belly is revealed?

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Shockers · 05/11/2019 17:27

I think being attractive has far more to do with confidence, than shape. I also think health is attractive- shiny hair, glowing skin etc.

Hamandcheesebaguette · 05/11/2019 17:31

Well unless they’ve got some sort of fetish, no man’s going to go ‘phwoar!!’ over rolls of blubber. But I think women notice their own perceived flaws more than men do.

What a strange thing to say.

I much much much prefer a "chunkier" man than a muscley adonis and that's the actually truth, different people like different things.

MrMumble · 05/11/2019 17:31

'Belly rolls'? Who has belly rolls?

Erm...I do. I'm actually slim but have a massive overhang of skin from a very large baby and c section. But thanks for making me feel even more abnormal.
DH still says that I look great but who knows if he actually means it, although he doesn't look the same as when I met him and I still think he's gorgeous. I've found it very difficult to get used to my changed body though.

Widowodiw · 05/11/2019 17:34

I honestly don’t thin men care as much we are led to believe. I think a man is more concerned about a woman being confident within themselves who doesn’t care if they have belly rolls. Look around if men cared no one over a certain size would ever get any.

TheWorldAsh · 05/11/2019 17:44

I much prefer a belly with some jiggle. Flat bellied, skinny women don't do it for me in general.

However attraction isn't that clear cut. It's a variety of factors.

Elieza · 05/11/2019 17:45

My ex told me he didn’t care about my fat belly or wobbly cellulite bottom as none of those things matter it’s who I am that matters more. So I’m of the opinion that it’s confidence men find attractive. My exes never bothered about my flab either. And my flab is not why we split up incidentally!

Grimbles · 05/11/2019 18:01

You dont have to be fat to have belly rolls

ClapHandsAndSaveTheFairies · 05/11/2019 18:05

If my male partner had an issue with mine,id point out that his apron hangs larger than any of my rolls and squidges.

I've been on the receiving end of judgy men who want one thing but look worse than the women they disregard rudely.

Oldraver · 05/11/2019 18:10

Like Kylie I have an OH who loves my baggy belly and loves to stroke it. He is a skinny minny 28" waist

I also have a G/F who is chunky and has a lovely rolly belly

fantasmasgoria1 · 05/11/2019 18:12

I have stretch marks and a bit of a tummy, not loads but I was worried when I met my fiance and he said so what! He has a bit of a belly himself so it would be hypocritical. I'm a size 12 and tall so I still look slim.

formerbabe · 05/11/2019 18:14

She is working herself up into a state over the fact that she is 50 and out of shape - ie: doesn't look like a Victoria Secret's model!!!

How totally bizarre. Does she never leave her house and see plenty of ordinary looking, non supermodel women walking round with their boyfriends and husband's?

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GoodGriefSunshine · 05/11/2019 18:15

I think when you are over about 40, your skin and flesh hang a little differently so you can be relatively slim standing up or in clothes but siting down or contorting in various sexual positions it all goes bulgy and squidgy Grin

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GoodGriefSunshine · 05/11/2019 18:15

dang, cross through fail...

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Pandaintheporridge · 05/11/2019 18:16

They will have chances to reject your friend fully clothed before there is a prospect of seeing her naked (as will she them) and should have a fair idea of what lies beneath, unless she wears spanx all the time!

PlasticPatty · 05/11/2019 18:17

Just wait until you're sixty...

OP, tell your friend to get on with it. We're travelling in one direction. Today, she's the youngest she will ever be again.

Bluntness100 · 05/11/2019 18:19

Op, if your friend is anxious about this, she can try to do something about it becayse irrelevant of what people say on here, if she meets someone and it moves to intimacy her anxiety may increase.

In general yes men prefer healthy weight women, we know this. As women in general prefer healthy weight men, Of course there are both men and women who don't prefer this, preferring over or underweight but in general this would be a good yard stick.

However it's irrelevant because does she really want to be with someone who wouldn't wish to be with her as she has belly? Attraction is much more than a single part of your body, it's about overall looks, presentation, and then personality etc, especially as we get older. She's not looking to meet some horny teenager i assume, but someone she can develop a deeper relationship with. And that's about much more than her tummy.

BroomstickOfLove · 05/11/2019 18:22

Not a man, but I'm bisexual and am not at all attracted to women with "model" body shapes. I tend to go for either women who are either very athletic with visible muscles or women who are curvy with proportionally big hips and bum, which usually goes with soft thighs and tummy - the softness doesn't look like women in a magazine, but it feels nice.

GothMummy · 05/11/2019 18:23

I have a male friend (perfectly normal, straightforward bloke and actually pretty slim himself) who only fancies women who are a size 16 or over. With big boobs. That's just what he likes. His current partner is a a size 20.
Attraction is a big field with room for us all. Your friend will be fine.

Skyejuly · 05/11/2019 18:29

I was a size 8 previously but piled it on in recent years. I am so much happier having a wobble. My husband loves my wobbly belly. Certain positions make it roll but it's just a tummy I dont think he really cares and if I lost it I think he would miss it Grin

PickAChew · 05/11/2019 18:37

At 50, they're a good filter for precisely the sort of men you don't want in your life.

GothMummy · 05/11/2019 18:40

Well said, PickAChew!

bloodywhitecat · 05/11/2019 18:45

56 and in a relatively new relationship. I have put on about a stone and a half in the time we have been together and DP prefers my figure now to the skinny person I was when we met.

adaline · 05/11/2019 18:46

Well unless they’ve got some sort of fetish, no man’s going to go ‘phwoar!!’ over rolls of blubber.

Rolls of blubber? Is that kind of language really necessary?

I imagine most women have rolls when they sit down or bend over. Very very few people have washboard stomachs!

Bluntness100 · 05/11/2019 18:48

I imagine most women have rolls when they sit down or bend over

I don't think that's what the op is referring to to be honest.

Bloomburger · 05/11/2019 18:48

DH says he doesn't take much notice. Prefers ladies not too skinny. He says he likes boobs and tummies often accompany those so it's all a nice package.

I had a tummy tuck but that was for me. He says it looks nice and he's happy I'm happy but he didn't really want me to have it done for aesthetic reasons more for my mental health.