what men think of women's belly rolls...

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I'm hoping there are some blokes out there who can enlighten me on what men actually think of women's bellies if they are not taut and flat. When you are surrounded by images of flawless beauties, what do you think when a jelly belly is revealed?

what does it matter what men think? Confidence will trump everything and is far more attractive.

There will be very few men aged 50 who have perfect bodies and many will be more bothered about their own insecurities than anything else.

I think I look fab and I am really not perfect (close...)

I just asked my husband what he thought about my belly rolls. He said “what belly rolls”. He is a clever man 🥰

Hmm I always think men would be repulsed by mine but theirs does not bother me one bit so maybe I am insecure about it for no reason and most men couldn't care less

I am so much happier having a wobble
I am glad I am not the only one who feels like this about my belly!

I think friend is too obsessed with what people look like on social media. I've told her to look around at everyday 50 somethings. We are all a bit lumpy somewhere. And the skinny minnies are wrinklier than she is!

I'm having occasional frightfulness with a 64 year old lady and neither of us are slim , she has a lovely warm soft tummy that hangs down a bit and and other warm round things and its all rather jolly , no objections at all .

Seconding this

'I find that as long as your underwear comes off and they get to see you naked that men are generally appreciative'

Men's bodies as they age aren't the same either.

I never had a type, but I prefer women with a bit of shape and not just straight down

My type is slim with a flat stomach. I doubt I would be that fond of the OP's friend's "belly rolls". However, I doubt that anybody as fussy as me would have started the relationship in the first place.

In short, I don't think she has anything to worry about.

Post this on the Sex topic; you'll find loads of men hang out on there

I find them quite attractive actually.

My lovely brother, when he was a young child (and quite chunky) was asked about the plumpness around his middle. He said 'that's my 'give''. It's a phrase I've often used, if anyone has remarked on the fact that my middle is a little bigger than it was (after five children). It's my 'give', If I didn't have it, I might split...

Following with interest as I look slim when dressed, but have a tummy overhang and not so pert massive boobs from 3 kids that I can do nothing about. I do worry men feel disappointed when we get to the naked bit! And I worry about it. am considering a tummy tuck but it’s major surgery.

I make up for it in other ways

Not sure where envy came from!

I'm like a skinny chubby person. I look slim and petite but my skin is soft and flabby. I've had 4 kids and my hubby still gets turnt on so what I look like is not a big deal. He loves my squishy tummy as it is.

Hmm I always think men would be repulsed by mine but theirs does not bother me one bit so maybe I am insecure about it for no reason and most men couldn't care less

They bother me. Repulsed is far too strong a word, but I don't like a belly rolls on a man. I dare say there are some men who don't like a belly rolls on a woman.

I think, personally, that on a woman the rolls seem somehow softer

I just asked dh. He has a 'type' in that he likes boobs and he likes bums. Always has. As another poster says, he accepts they often come with tummies and thighs and he is no Adonis himself so he really doesn't give a shit.

I have the type of figure he likes. I've been a small 12 and a big 20. I was a 14 when we started going out 20 years ago in our early 20s and am a 14 now 2 kids later. From a pure aesthetics pov I think this is his preferred weight for me as smaller reduces boobs and bigger becomes a bit too big (am fairly short).

He still fancied me the same and wanted to shag me just as much whatever the weight though. The only thing which he didn't really like was me visibly pregnant but that was more to do with the wriggly baby than the shape.

I think that the more closely you look at any single part of a body the less it seems attractive or unattractive. And when it is a very part attached to someone you love it is hard to hate it.

You see when it comes to men and bald heads, moobs, etc, the only thing that would put me off is if they tried to hide it. If they accept their "faults" (although these things are normal with mens bodies and not out of the ordinary) then I would barely notice and my focus is on the things that I like about that particular man.
But I do understand the fear. I'm in my 50's and single, I work out a lot and am fairly toned but I do still have a stomach that is not flat, not big but not flat. No man has ever been negative about it.
A body that is instagram perfect is actually a turn off to me.
My current partner likes soft bodies and prefers the bits of me that wobble
If things get to that stage then he would probably already have a fairly good idea of what her body is like because of all the snogging and groping

My lovely brother, when he was a young child (and quite chunky) was asked about the plumpness around his middle. He said 'that's my 'give''

I love this

I’ve belly rolls and I’m skinny! They are really annoying me. I created a lot of “give” @Zaphodsotherhead when pregnant and now I’m a bit “deflated”.

When I do planks my stomach hangs in the most obscure way. I had/have separated stomach muscles also and I’m just not normal.

To those saying - who cares what men think - come on, the woman is going back out dating, of course she’s going to wonder!

Loving the replies - very interesting.

I do wonder if dieting or exercise is ever going to reduce my issue. I had a lovely flat stomach before babies and I weigh the same now as before. Maybe age is just against me, I’m 45.

But ultimately, my kids climb into my bed every morning, pull up my top and lie on my tummy, they claim it as “their” tummy, they love it’s squishy and warm and soft and it’s made me actually love my body. I often think of them when I touch my belly rather than self loathing thoughts.

Thing is the men that are only interested in looks and a young body won’t date her. There will be a number of the certain type of men that only consider younger models. But she doesn’t want them anyway. They are all jerks. Then their will be the ones who want a serious relationship with someone on her level and are less concerned about the odd belly roll.

It's a good way to pick out the men not worth dating anyway.

My underweight DS has belly rolls so I think it's something everyone has.

I think your friend needs to ask herself what she's looking for in a partner. Does she want an Adonis with a six pack?

Because at 50, Adonis's with 6 packs come with more baggage than the arrivals gate at Heathrow. In order to look like that at 50 you need to be sacrificing A LOT. You need to meticulously watch what you eat and drink, you need to work out regularly for hours. You need to be quite OCD about it. Does she want someone who she can relax with, or someone to go to the gym and count calories with?

Honestly, I've been a size 6 gym bunny, and a size 16...pint of beer bunny...and the quality of men, in terms of personality, kindness, acceptance and understanding I attracted at a size 16 were FAR better than the looks obsessed men I attracted at a size 6.

She needs to decide what SHE wants. Not worry about who will want her.

Rolls of blubber? Is that kind of language really necessary?

Exactly this. What a fucking horrible, inflammatory way of putting it.

I'm currently a size 14/16, have been anything from a 12 to a 22 in the past. I've never had any issue finding a partner.

DH tells me I should stop being so self-conscious of my wobbly stomach because it's "cute"