1st birthday of Df angel baby.

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Today is my Df Angel babys 1st birthday and I've bought two cards one for her dd and one for df and her partner, however I don't know what to write.
So does this sound ok?

I just wanted to wish your very special girl (babys name)a happy 1st birthday. I know it's been a hard year for (you, partner and ds) but know that I'm thinking of you all and always here if you need me.

I lost my baby at ten weeks and would have been horrified to receive a happy birthday card.
there's nothing happy about her birthday to me; just really gut wrenching pain and all the "what ifs".

I would avoid ‘happy 1st birthday’ and say something more along the lines of ‘thinking of you today, I am always here for you etc etc’.

This.

I too have lost a baby (late miscarriage). I tend to remember him privately by releasing a balloon in a secluded spot (I have other children and don't want them to become embroiled in my grief) on what would have been his birthday. I often find myself talking about him, just mentioning his name, though I have no actual memories of him. My friends don't tend to get involved, I don't think they wish to cause me any further upset, more along the lines of following my lead which I appreciate (because this is how I like to do things, privately). I would say follow your friend's lead but wording such as thinking of you etc. is probably more appropriate. Though I think about my ds at some point every day, the first anniversary of his birth/death/what should of been his birthday. were probably the most difficult for me...I still wonder about all the 'should have been's' thinking things like x would have started school this year, I don't think these thoughts will ever go away, I have had to learn to live with them.

Lost my first child and my darling friend is the only person who remembers my DC’s birthday every year and acknowledges her by her name. She sends me a message to say she is thinking of me. A card to a deceased child doesn’t feel right. You sound like a lovely and caring friend and I totally understand it’s so hard to know what the right thing to do is.

That's nice OP, glad it worked out and I'll be more aware in future

I have a friend in the same situation and I send a card every year. She wants people to remember her baby and says she likes knowing others are thinking about her x

I'm glad the day went well but I have to say I feel deeply sad for the poor family hearing about their lovely celebration. Heartbreaking.

My grandson would have been 12 this year and my DD’s best friend sends her a birthday card with his age on every year. That makes my DD so happy and she is so pleased her friend does that.
No one knows how they will grieve and what they will need to carry on with their life after the loss of a baby/child. Good friends are always needed though and OP, it sounds like you’ve been a good friend indeed. Xx

OP you are a good friend.

And hi to @Blueroses99, was thinking of you and your beautiful son during the wave of light this year. Hope you are very well x

Hi @stealthbanana and thank you. I will never forget the kindness and support from the Mumsnet board, at the time and over the years

@JollyHolly30 you must be sick in the head to think I am not genuine, how absolutely dare you. Absolutely disgusting comment. You do not know me, you should be ashamed to even think such a foul thought

Your posts and the way you so desperately over reacted to the OP say everything I need to know about you.