Holding in farts

[Kittykat93]

I am so sorry to even make this thread but I need help. I have IBS, and have recently started dating somebody. We spend a couple of evenings together a week, and things are going well and I do feel comfortable with him.

However. I spend half the night squirming around feeling like I need to let rip! That sounds gross and I'm sorry but I really am a windy person and I can't help it I hate it :(

It's really painful and obviously I do go to the bathroom to let some go but I can't spend the whole night in there!

This problem sounds ridiculous I'm aware, but it's actually really getting me down. I was falling asleep last night and all of a sudden was awoken by a huge trumpet sound which I very quickly realised was me!!!!! Its because I'm holding them in all night!!

Please, how do I reduce this problem? Give me all of your remedies. I'll try anything.

Thank you if you've managed to read that to the end :)

Octoberlovers, agreed.

Great thread,
I bought some cbc oil because I was having trouble sleeping , well it has hardly helped my sleep but to my complete surprise it has helped my ibs symptoms. I always assumed my problem was food intolerances but hey ho it’s made me think that my stomach problems has always been anxiety. Maybe that’s why it’s the oil has helped. I still fart but only as little as any one else.

Feel for you. Mines been playing up this week. Second windeeze, avoid fizzy drinks/ things that will set you off. I used to skip breakfast but a new tablet I'm on makes me hungry and I've noticed it's improved since I've been having three meals a day (strange)!
Can you also try talking with your boyfriend about it?

Interesting about the cbd oil!! Thinking about it I think it's a vicious cycle sometimes. I feel anxious about being gassy, which then in turn creates more gas!!!

I might bite the bullet and just tell him that it's bothering me. We are both grown adults so it seems silly to be getting so worked up over something like this.

I also am really shocked when I've been googling and it says the average person farts around 8 times a day. I am literally more like 80 times some days!!!!!

I haven’t RTT so apologies if this has been suggested already. I take acidophilus which has been a game changer for me. It provides a massive shot of friendly bacteria to the gut this calms inflammation. I have been diagnosed with mild ibs and really notice when I don’t take these.

You can hold them in all you like but you do realise it also happens in your sleep, don't you???? I have trouble keeping them in, they usually insist on coming out through severely clenched buttucks as a very indignant squeak!

Trapped wind? If only......

Only thing which has ever worked for me is seeing early on if the date can tolerate me farting. If someone can't cope with me having wind sometimes, then that person is not for me.

Me and my OH have a real laugh over farting. It's juvenile but I don't care.

In fact, we discovered Alexa does fart impressions and spent a whole bedtime laughing our arses off like kids.

He's the one for me.

I don't have ibs but I am the windiest person I've ever met. Also said by alllllll of my family and extended family and DH 😂. So I know how the cramps feel from holding them in!!!!

Sorry not much help but I'm glad I'm not alone with my fart troubles

Okay that's what I need to do!! Get an Alexa and blame the farts on her!!

@DrFoxtrot I have IBS and my GP recommended a low FODMAP diet. I'm really struggling though, I've looked for a good family friendly recipe book but I can't find one. They all have ingredients like coconut flour in them and my local Aldi is yet to sell such exotic things! Do you have any good recipe suggestions

@duckme I just looked at the list of bad foods and did a vague elimination diet - my triggers are definitely onions and garlic and other things to a lesser extent including apples, chocolate and bread. I have found that after virtually cutting out bread, I can now eat small amounts with very little issue. I alter most recipes by reducing or omitting onions and garlic.

Stress was also a big factor, since being in a properly supportive relationship and having work stress settle down, I'm much better.

I was awoken to an unmerciful fart the other morning.

It obviously woke himself as he put his arm around me (possibly didn't realise what had woken him).

Fuck me but it was loud.

Have you tried peppermint capsules?

BTW it was my fart.........

I'd just tell him that you're a farter.

He'll either turn up his nose or laugh. You want a guy who does the latter.

Mine was a kind of fart that was loud and prolonged. I think a balloon sized amount of air was released. With trumpets. When he put his arms around me I wasn't sure whether he had just woken up or felt sympathy for me.

Yes I think you really need to just brazen it out and tell him.

It's a bit like when you tell a guy he's going to be a father. I'M THE FARTER. Lol

I can't sleep when a man is in my bed, so I get to hear a lot of farts from my partner. His just aren't as catastrophic as mine though.. Little farts.

I might mention it over text to avoid the blushing. Just need to get round to the conversation somehow it's not really something I just want to blurt out

If it's carbs, as it is for me, avoid bread and pasta and it should improve.

I wouldn’t do it over text, it’s making a bigger deal of it than it needs to be. Next time he’s over say you’re bloated and make a joke that you’ll do it in the bathroom to save his nostrils. See what he says-he might say go for it here, he might be relieved that he can now fart. At least then you can get the farts out, even if it means frequent toilet trips. Good luck.

Agree 100% with the poster who said avoid sugar and sweet stuff. Giving up sugar completely removed the problems for me (IBS and wind).