Holding in farts

[Kittykat93]

I am so sorry to even make this thread but I need help. I have IBS, and have recently started dating somebody. We spend a couple of evenings together a week, and things are going well and I do feel comfortable with him.

However. I spend half the night squirming around feeling like I need to let rip! That sounds gross and I'm sorry but I really am a windy person and I can't help it I hate it :(

It's really painful and obviously I do go to the bathroom to let some go but I can't spend the whole night in there!

This problem sounds ridiculous I'm aware, but it's actually really getting me down. I was falling asleep last night and all of a sudden was awoken by a huge trumpet sound which I very quickly realised was me!!!!! Its because I'm holding them in all night!!

Please, how do I reduce this problem? Give me all of your remedies. I'll try anything.

Thank you if you've managed to read that to the end :)

Tell him! He might be holding it in in front of you to be polite!

DH has IBS and it's worse when be has meat. DS and I are veggie so DH eats the same as we do at home. I always know when he's been having maccies with the work lads (obviously I don't police his food intake but the farts are something to behold not envy.

Tell him! You might find he likes it. Yes really. I had a bf once who actually told me it turned him on 😳 He was weird in other ways so didn’t see him for long

Peppermint tea or capsules!

I too suffer from wind and hold it in. I always worry about what will happen during sex if I've been holding my farts in all night. Too much pressure on my stomach or being in certain positions would definitely force them out. Not to mention be uncomfortable!

Can’t top ‘can I help you’ and who wouldn’t love a guy who wants you to feel comfortable farting!

I can recommend FODMOP - I followed the one from the clever guts diet book. Farting and stomach pain now at a record minimum (though for me this means no dairy and how I miss cheese!)

Don't tell him.

Eat slowly! No fizzy drinks! Go to toilet for N2 before you arrive!

Omg seriously don't tell him.

Been with my husband 7 years and never farted in front of him!!!! I have IBS - also have mebeverine.

Just let rip..... it's a good way to test if he is a keeper!

I genuinely couldn’t be in a relationship with someone I couldn’t fart in-front of. It’d be like living a secret double life. I want to be able to relax in the comfort of my own home.

On another thread someone mentioned silicol gel - it seems to be helping my gastric reflux and wind. I bought a small size bottle from the manufacturer to make sure I got the real thing. But I also wonder if feeling more relaxed as I've found a 'cure' is making a difference. I think feeling anxious or stressed aggravates my problem.

Ok, here are my solutions in no particular order:

1. Take some form of anti wind medication (e.g. Windeze) an hour before seeing him, then another one during the evening. It should get a lot of the farts out before you see him.

1. Probiotics. Saccharomyces Boulardii are particularly good for reducing wind (and other IBS symptoms) and work miracles for me. You need to take them every day, twice a day.

1. Look into food intolerances. Tomatoes and peppers are often overlooked culprits as well as the foods that are well known for causing wind or food intolerance.

1. Of all else fails, if you hold your bum cheeks apart and let rip, the resulting fart should be silent. This means that you can go into the bathroom or a different room and release the wind silently.

Good luck my friend.

@FeeFee832

Your being ridiculous....

Please OP tell him, if he doesn't like it, then his not a keeper

@OctoberLovers you're being ridiculous.

Hold it in! You will end your relationship.

This thread has made me laugh out loud!!! Needed it aswel as I was feeling really low this morning, so thank you 😂😂

Those on medication, is it helping? I have IBS but stopped taking medication years ago as felt it wasn't helping, i just learned to live with it and keep buscopan close at hand! But since coming off my anxiety medication it's getting worse (guessing partly anxiety led) and i am getting very bloated and uncomfortable plus frequent toilet visits, thinking i should get to the GP.
I do take the windeze but don't find they help so if anyone has any other tablets they can recommend........

For my IBS zantac was the only thing that worked.

Keto works for ibs.

@FeeFee832

Hold it in, crap!

It wont end my relationship because my partner is a normal man and understands that women pass wind and would never want me to be in pain.

I poo infront of him 🤪 Which would shock some on here.... But we have a loving relationship where we are totally relaxed with each other and font hide anything.

Farting is such a minor thing. Ffs

OMG DON'T TELL HIM! God forbid you fart in-front of a MAN!!

When DH and I got together he told me I had to burp and fart in front of him because it was natural and his ex never did and said it was disgusting when he did 🤣 so he wanted to make sure he wasn't going to end up with that again!

Id hate to have to constantly hold it in you must get belly ache a lot 🤦🏻‍♀️

I have IBS and once farted on my boyfriend's willy.

Someone up thread mentioned the holding the bum cheeks apart trick. I tried that once (when on my own to see if it worked) and the result was a high pitched long squeaking sound from my arse!!! Everyone says it makes them silent but not in my case

Or you could pebble dash the bathroom 🥴

My DB did a humongous one at their work. The smell was so bad that the company thought they had a drain problem and called in dynorod!!

Have you heard of the FODMAP diet? It's been life changing for me although it's not easy and best done with the help of a dietitian. It's evidence based but for some reason a lot of GPs don't seem to have cracked on to it. It's vastly reduced my pain and wind.

Never heard of that diet but I'll have a Google, thank you :)