Is he using me for sex?

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Name changed for this as don't want this on my posting history.

In January a man who was working with me sent me a picture of his penis. He told me to delete it and not to tell anyone as he didn't mean to send it to me.

Then we started talking more at work. And in march invited me for a drink we had quite a bit to drink and we had sex.

Then he messaged me about a week later saying he was Horny. And he sent me a video of him wanking.

Then the week after he invited me to his again and I gave him a hand job.

He left where I worked for another job so we stopped speaking/messaging.

Then in July he messaged saying he missed me and he was horny and I went to his house and we had a catch up and I initiated sex.

Then in about August he sent a picture of his penis and a video him wanking and the next day we had sex. And the week after we did aswell.

In September I asked him if he wanted to go out on a date and he said he didn't have time but he did for sex him because he was horny again.

Is he using me for sex? I think I fancy him but not just for sex. What should I do?

Yes he’s using you and probably other women.
Sorry 😐
Have some self respect here, you deserve better.

Yes, that's just about sex not a relationship

Well he's not using you as company for a visit to the opera, is he?

Yeah sounds like he is. Him sending wanking videos is repulsive

Yes. Stop having sex with him he is just using you.

Is this for real ???

He is just using you for sex. You'll never get a relationship out of him.

What you do next depends on wether you want a FWB thing or not. If you do then carry on, enjoy the sex and don't expect anything else. If you want more than FWB then stop seeing him and look for someone who doesn't just want a quick shag.

You know the answer to this already. And ewww to the videos!!

Move on and find someone who treats you like a lady.

You really need this ask? Of course he is!

For goodness sakes, he is revolting! Of course he is using you for sex - it's possible you are using him for the same but that will not be a satisfactory 'relationship' for long.

How revolting for anyone to send photos of their 'bits' on the phone. For goodness sake, it's bad enough when a fourteen year old does it (& they get into severe trouble if caught), never mind a grown man.

I thank my lucky stars I don't have to date in this day and age. Who would want to receive a video like that .

Yuk he sounds vile.

When he said no to the date and he wasn't busy for sex though I did say no i was busy aswell.

In January he had a partner when he sent the picture to me.

I don't just want sex I want a relationship.

Is this real ?, only I can't believe you don't know the answer to this question. Your relationship is based upon nothing else but sex. In all fairness, he's not even trying very hard: dicks pictures, invites to come running, you're just available and if that is what you want, then its fine, but if you are holding out for more, you're going to end up very disappointed.

He sounds a right charmer. Sending you dick pix and videos of him wanking? Eurgh. He must be a stupendous shag for you to keep going back for more.

In answer to your question, YES he is using you for sex. He probably has a girlfriend and you're just his go-to person when he's horny and she's not.

I don't just want sex I want a relationship.

With a dirty pervert who exposes himself to women by sending them unsolicited photos of his genitals?

Blimey. Why not just grab the nearest dirty old man in a mac off the street?

He sends you a video of him jacking off and you go have sex with him? Seriously?

Youre why men think women like that crap.

ew, have some self respect.

Block and move on, if he wants sex let him find a hooker & pay for it

Have some respect and don't be his booty call.

There is no way you're getting a relationship out of this. Just out of curiosity, why did you respond positively to the photos and videos? I'm not judging, I'm genuinely curious.

Of course he was and it sounds like you were using him for sex as well.

and sorry to say but he was sending those videos to several other people as well ...

Oh ffs, IF this is a real post you are absolutely ridiculous.

He doesn't have a girlfriend as I've been looking on Facebook and it says single. His ex is now in a relationship with someone else.

He's been calling me today and I haven't answered.

Should I tell him I want a proper relationship not just sex?

This is like the Jeremy Kyle show

You know how women often say, why do men send unsolicited dick pics, surely it never works to get a woman into bed? You’re the exception that proves the rule, OP!

He’s using you for sex, please bin him off.

Should I tell him I want a proper relationship not just sex?
BLOCK and move on