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Is he using me for sex?

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BlackBugs · 01/10/2019 15:54

Name changed for this as don't want this on my posting history.

In January a man who was working with me sent me a picture of his penis. He told me to delete it and not to tell anyone as he didn't mean to send it to me.

Then we started talking more at work. And in march invited me for a drink we had quite a bit to drink and we had sex.

Then he messaged me about a week later saying he was Horny. And he sent me a video of him wanking.

Then the week after he invited me to his again and I gave him a hand job.

He left where I worked for another job so we stopped speaking/messaging.

Then in July he messaged saying he missed me and he was horny and I went to his house and we had a catch up and I initiated sex.

Then in about August he sent a picture of his penis and a video him wanking and the next day we had sex. And the week after we did aswell.

In September I asked him if he wanted to go out on a date and he said he didn't have time but he did for sex him because he was horny again.

Is he using me for sex? I think I fancy him but not just for sex. What should I do?

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CallMeRachel · 01/10/2019 16:51

You're just a living alternative to porn.

I would bet my life on him having several women on WhatsApp who he indulges in this sexting and occasionally meets up with.

I hope you've not sent him anything if you naked or doing anything to yourself. Men like him pester for this and share it for lad points.

You've been had. Please find someone who likes you for you, not as a play pal.

pepsirolla · 01/10/2019 16:52

He is using you like a free prostitute!
Really you are worth much better than this creep.
Tell him to piss off. Block his number and Facebook. Raise the bar go out and meet a guy who will respect you. Be strongFlowers

Original poster
BlackBugs · 01/10/2019 16:52

No idea why I went to him for sex after he sent the videos and pictures.

I fancy him now though but I'll try and forget about him as he's already been calling and I've been rejecting them.

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slingthegin · 01/10/2019 16:53

Block him and get yourself an STI check.

TokyoSushi · 01/10/2019 16:56

OH OP, you sound very vulnerable and naive.

No good will come of this, block him and move on.

Lillygolightly · 01/10/2019 17:00

Yes I would say he is using you for sex as it’s clear that at this point in time the only thing he seems be missing from you is sex. Also to be frankly honest it sounds like it’s all on his terms, he sends you a pic/video/text and you go running.

If he wanted to date/have a relationship with you he would be suggesting candlelight dinners, drinks or a trip to the cinema NOT sending you dick pics and vids of him masturbating.

Also that very first dick pic he sent you, he didn’t send it by accident, he sent it on purpose to test the waters. The accident excuse was a get out clause in case you reacted in horror and disgust.

Chalk it up to useful experience OP and move this one on to the trash can.

SherbetSaucer · 01/10/2019 17:01

@BlackBugs I don't just want sex I want a relationship

If you’re wanting a relationship you’re going massively the wrong way about it. You’ve set the tone. You’ve got to be smarter than this...

... and besides! This guy is NOT and probably never will be relationship material! I mean come on OP, wake up!!!

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BlackBugs · 01/10/2019 17:01

I'll block him as he keeps calling me.

I thought he would want a proper relationship though

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SherbetSaucer · 01/10/2019 17:05

I'll block him as he keeps calling me. I thought he would want a proper relationship though

There has never been a love story start with a dick pick! Raise your standards OP and better men will appear!

chocolatesaltyballs22 · 01/10/2019 17:06

It's this for real?

Esspee · 01/10/2019 17:07

If this is real you need help OP.

pepsirolla · 01/10/2019 17:09

He won't he is a user. He gets what he wants without a relationship so why would he bother. As said above block him forever get sti check and move on. Demand and expect better treatment next time.good luck

gamerchick · 01/10/2019 17:11

I don't just want sex I want a relationship

If you're for real then stop fucking him. You're just a booty call and go for an sti screen.

gamerchick · 01/10/2019 17:13

There has never been a love story start with a dick pick!

No, but then I've never heard of any woman who welcomes dick picks from a new bloke either. I know men are really proud of their bits but they're not a pretty sight are they?!

SherbetSaucer · 01/10/2019 17:16

@gamerchick No, but then I've never heard of any woman who welcomes dick picks from a new bloke either. I know men are really proud of their bits but they're not a pretty sight are they?!

I don’t get their obsession with their bits? Especially with no context. Like a photo of a dick on its own is about as interesting as a photo of a paving slab!

MashedSpud · 01/10/2019 17:17

If a guy sends you a dick pic you can guarantee he’s sent it and will continue to send them to other women.

Superzowie · 01/10/2019 17:22

I thought he would want a proper relationship though

What on earth has given you that idea from his behaviour.

I mean, this is all fine if that's what you're up for but, if you think he wants a relationship, you are very, very wrong.

BringTheBounceBack · 01/10/2019 17:23

Are you serious?
You even give the time of day to a man who takes pics of his dick and sends them women? That kind of thing speaks volumes about a man!
Have some self respect, why in fucks name would you want a relationship with a man like this

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BlackBugs · 01/10/2019 17:27

I wanted a relationship with him because I've started to fancy him and I thought he treated me well but he isn't as he only wants sex.

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SherbetSaucer · 01/10/2019 17:31

I wanted a relationship with him because I've started to fancy him and I thought he treated me well but he isn't as he only wants sex

He sent you dick pics and videos of him wanting without consent! Not only does he not treat you well he doesn’t even respect you!! A relationship has to be based on more than if you fancy the person!!

Amazonfromkent · 01/10/2019 17:32

You can't be serious op!?

Rachelover60 · 01/10/2019 17:38

Op, you cannot be serious.

Grown up people who want a 'proper' relationship do not start of by sending pictures of their genitals. They ask them out for a meal or a drink and talk (at least for the first eight dates).

I'm beginning to wonder if you are winding us up. If so, you are succeeding :-).

AFistfulofDolores1 · 01/10/2019 17:41

Until you demand more for yourself, and until you demand more from others, you'll get men like this in your life - which is a pity because you clearly want something else.

Thegullfromhull · 01/10/2019 17:48

It is true op.
You should lock yourself up in a cocoon of duvet with a load of chocolate and self help books about forging good relationships.
Don’t come out for a week.

Backtoschooool · 01/10/2019 17:51

So what did he do that was ‘treating you well?’

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