Is he using me for sex?

[BlackBugs]

Name changed for this as don't want this on my posting history.

In January a man who was working with me sent me a picture of his penis. He told me to delete it and not to tell anyone as he didn't mean to send it to me.

Then we started talking more at work. And in march invited me for a drink we had quite a bit to drink and we had sex.

Then he messaged me about a week later saying he was Horny. And he sent me a video of him wanking.

Then the week after he invited me to his again and I gave him a hand job.

He left where I worked for another job so we stopped speaking/messaging.

Then in July he messaged saying he missed me and he was horny and I went to his house and we had a catch up and I initiated sex.

Then in about August he sent a picture of his penis and a video him wanking and the next day we had sex. And the week after we did aswell.

In September I asked him if he wanted to go out on a date and he said he didn't have time but he did for sex him because he was horny again.

Is he using me for sex? I think I fancy him but not just for sex. What should I do?

Ahh you sly little fox! I know who you are ! 😂

God love you, BlackBugs, did you just come down in the last shower of rain?

Of course he is using you for sex. He doesn't want a relationship with you. He is only interested in your body. I don't think he's been terribly unclear about this. He's under the impression you and he are fuck buddies, which tbh, you are.

I'm sorry - ditch him and find a man who wants a relationship. This guy isn't for you.

How old are you ?

The first picture I'm sure was an accident. And he said it was

He accidentally took a picture of his dick yeah?

Yes he is using you. Get to a sexual health clinic asap. Before you do that tell him he is a sad needle dick and block straight away.

The picture he sent was not an accident either. He was testing your boundaries.

Oh dear. If any male colleagues sent me a wanking video I would die of disgust. Just gross.

If I got an unsolicited dick pic I would not be impressed at all either. I mean men's bits are not exactly pretty.

Basically this is a guy who instead of asking you out & dating you has sent you unasked for sexual material for his own sexual gratification.
He was probably quite pleasantly surprised when you actually had sex with him!!
You obviously wanted sex which is fine if you're an adult; but this man is probably not looking for a proper girlfriend... he may also be shagging other girls.

Get some self respect & walk away. You need to have some boundaries & some standards if you want a man to value you enough to have a relationship with you.

No one accidentally sends a picture of their dick to anyone.

If you send a photo like that, you make damn sure it is only going to the intended recipient.

I agree it was a test to gauge your reaction.

In fact, you should have reported him at work, not seen it as a compliment and began shagging him. This is about the nastiest thing I can imagine tbh.