What's your life like?

[QueenOfIce]

I'm nosy interested. I see people from all walks of life all over the world and as I see them doing whatever they're doing I wonder what their life is like. Are they happy, do they enjoy their job etc..

What's your life like?

I try to live on the bright side and have lots to be thankful for like my kids and family but financially it’s super hard and money does make the world go round so yeah. I live day by day. That’s all. One at a time.

Life is pretty good overall.
Relationship good.
Family difficult. I don’t have much in common with many of them, except DNA.
Work is boring but not particularly stressful. I hate working full time and would love to be able to afford to retire.
We have just lost the Ashes

Where do you want me to start:

Financially in a good place and able to pay bills and mortgage with enough left over to not have to worry about too much month at the end of our money

DS has given us years of angst, panicattacks, aggressive violent episodes, bruised and assaulted me. Now come out as trans and dealing with the raft of school issues that causes.weve dealt with police, social services, CAMHS, numerous school people.

My mum hasn't spoken to me in 10 days over a petty argument. Has deleted me from fb but still gets everyone else to show her what I've posted. Which is pissing me right off.

I'll be honest I am fucking exhausted. I've just come of ADs after 2 years and honestly thinking maybe I shouldn't have.

The days I have moth my DD are my favourite. She is a very sensitive and intuitive little girl and always ready to dish out a hug and her own wise words. I love both my children but she really keeps me going sometimes.

Life has its ups and downs but is pretty good generally

I'm in a fortunate position that we can afford for me to work minimal amount, so I predominately volunteer, doing something I absolutely love. It's also term time only so I get to spend plenty of time with my children too.

Health wise isn't great, I'm not the picture of health, pretty overweight which in itself causes medical issues, mental health has finally seemed to stabilise though thankfully. DS2 also has long term medical needs which take over a bit but we're growing to live with it.

We live in a nice place, not my dream place, but suits us for now...!

Miserable
Mind blowingly boring
Screamingly frustrating
Hateful really

Mine is pretty nice on the whole.

My marriage is happy. He makes me feel very loved, he’d do anything to make me happy, he puts up with all of my old nonsense and he makes me belly laugh every day.

My friends are all strong, funny capable women, the sort that people want to be around and who always know what to do in a crisis. They have picked me up off the floor more times than I care to admit and I’m lucky to have them.

We’re not in any debt. I have hobbies I love. I have excellent relationships with my brother, sil, step mil and step fil. I have the most amazing mum and as much as she drives me bonkers, I’d be lost without her. Our nieces, nephews and godchildren are genuinely lovely little people. Home is my happy place and I’m surrounded by things I love. I’ve had a couple of serious health scares but nothing I’m not recovering from. I don’t ever feel bored or lonely. I don’t want for anything. I’m happy in my skin (or not unhappy enough to stop eating Twixes and start a decent skincare regime). I try to see the humour in most things.

I don’t enjoy my job. It’s pretty soul destroying. But the benefits are fantastic and it pays enough for me to enjoy my life. I’d like a better relationship with mil but accept that it is what it is. I’d love a house to land on my next door neighbour and for someone to steal her ruby slippers but unless we start having tornadoes, that’s unlikely.

The only truly shit things are the terminal illness of one loved one and the mental health of another (which is not going to end well). I’d give anything for them to be happy and healthy, so petty worries about work etc mean nothing next to those.

I try and make the best if it.
I have a part time job I love. It pays low but i live it. Alhough part time i often find mysrlf upping my hours to 50 a week. I like most the people I work with and have a few good friendships and small work family.

My work is also my saviour because if i work i dont need to spend much time at home.

I hate my home. We have been ripped off by the surveyors when we bought it (not flagging massive problems) and every workman we have had in (recommended) has fucked us over on done level and some even trying to steal from us. I drive hone with a heavy heart especially if I have any time off work. As soon as I drive onto my street I feel my anxiety levels rise and my heart just sinks when I go in the door.

I've been so low about this house that I'm too scared to even try selling it. I've lost all my gumption and just feel trapped.

I holiday loads so I don't need to be at home. My life must look like a dream from the outside. Luckily my job means I get very cheap flights so I travel often and vastly. There is no way if I have 2 or 3 days off I can spend them here.

My 4 kids are my life but all grown up now. My last 2 are off to Uni next week so I have the mixed feelings of pride and sadness.

I have a small circle of friends. Wish I had a few more because I do feel quite lonely at times.

I'm 47 and had cancer 3 years ago so some times feel like 77. I'm all clear currently so intend to get alot more travel in whilst I can, it's just a slower pace right now.

I think from the outside my life looks like I'm sorted and amazing. People think my job is glamorous and exciting and all my travel. I am grateful for both those things because it is what is literally giving me a reason to live. Sadly my anxiety makes some days so tough and a Real battle. Ageing parents, life admin and this fucking shitty house sets my anxiety running wild with no off button (although I can find a pause button when at work or on holiday). No one in real life though has any idea I suffer from anxiety because I do a bloody amazing job of hiding it. I always put on my smile and try hard to be positive around people because no one likes a winger.

Writing this down is quite an eye opener even for me, but its the truth of what my life is really like.

Gin could you just get an estate agent in to value it? You don’t have to go any further then if you can’t afford to, or if your anxiety prevents it, but for the sake of one appointment, your life could potentially be so improved. And if it’s not possible to sell right now, you can start making a long term plan.

Tomboytown

Sorry, I’m just really bloody nosy! Feel free to ignore me.

Everything is happening after my divorce. I'm selling my house, moving across country to a fabulous new job to a place that's buzzing yet rural.
At 57 I'm the happiest I've been in years and so excited about the future.
It's all going on, I never thought at my age I'd be doing all of these things.
I've made a load of new friends post divorce because misery guts isn't there with his long face and dumb silence to put them all off.
I really feel like I've been given a second chance with life.

Pretty good.

We're all healthy.
Kids are fabulous.
I have a job I like.
Love my house.
Adore my neighbourhood.
Like where I live ( abroad)
Have enough disposable income to be comfortable.

Utterly miserable but no actual reason. On paper, am mortgage free, retired early, am still in my late 30s, have a free time, have even raised children within my family who are now young adults, all at uni/work.
Generally bored and currently aimless, after years of a very stressful job.

I like my life.
I'm a housewife.
Most people on here would consider it mindblowingly boring.
But I like it that way.
I like calm and quiet, I like days when nothing much happens and I love silence. And most of all I am happy in my own company. People and the noise they make makes me stressy.
Bring on boring

Usually it’s great, love my husband, four great kids, like my job, nice friends and supportive family. At the moment though my baby is sick and I’m in hospital with him so it’s not that good.

Not perfect but I wouldn’t throw my hat in the ring to change lives with another person at random.

The good things are:

• Nice husband who is incredibly handsome and balances me in personality
• Lovely baby
• Pretty great (mortgaged) flat (for our budget!)
• A few groups of good friends, and a couple of very close friends
• No major health concerns
• Financially doing ok, not rolling in it but not living hand to mouth either
• Just got first class honours in my masters
• Stable, well paíd career in the civil service

Some minor and not so minor downsides:

• NC with my parents and one sibling bc of abuse
• In laws mostly nice but live overseas...
• ... so no proper holidays, just extended staycations at their house
• Baby is a rubbish sleeper
• Some frustrations with husband, probably in part due to the endless sleep deprivation
• Some envy of said friends who without fail all either have masses of family support, be it financial or moral. We get neither
• Husband can’t work in his profession bc we moved for my career

Pretty good I escaped an abusive relationship 2.5 years ago it turned out he was also abusing the kids when I was at work. The last couple of years have been hard but finally feeling happier and the kids are happier too. Only bad thing is I'm always broke as I had to change jobs for the kids and this week until Wednesday I have a fiver to my name so hope there are no emergencies I need to pay for.

I am late 30's, 3 healthy kids, loving DH and all the pets I found want.

I have the career I've always dreamed of and only have to work 15 hours per week around the DC. I have all the pets I could want.

My house is all I ever wanted and more than I could have ever aspired to during a tense and sad childhood. I have days where I feel beyond lucky, and says where I am so hard on myself that I should be 'doing' more. I don't know if I'll ever shake that feeling.

Over the last 5 years, I've dealt with a lot of twists, turns and I've been pushed to the edge by my DH's mental health difficulties. But I've survived it, and for now, that gives me a feeling of relief and some pride.

I would love to stop feeling inferior/ comparing my life decisions to those around me, but it's work in progress.

Overall, I'm content, with moments of happiness. I know how quickly things can change and I think that holds me back from truly embracing the good stuff / good times.

Mine is a mix of amazing and awful.

Negative:
I've been ttc for 6 years and am unlikely to be able to have children.
I have some debt
My dm is an alcoholic and is becoming someone I don't want to be around
My health overall is a bit rubbish
I don't particularly enjoy my job and the benefits aren't good enough to make up for it
We earn ok but not enough for me to be work part time as I'd like to

Positive
DH and I get on very well, I still love him loads and look forward to seeing him
I have good friends I can count on
I have less debt now than I did 3 years ago!
Our earnings are enough for a nice enough life - we travel a fair bit
I get on well with most of my family and all of the in-laws
I have 2 dogs who can cheer me up on even the worst day
I've made a lot of friends at work and it's not boring in my office
My health is slowly improving

I consciously spend a bit of time thinking about the good things in my life now and focus on those.
I've made a lot of progress in the last few years - we used to have so much debt our outgoings were more than our wages but we've worked hard to pay the majority of them off. I've lost weight, my medications have decreased, I carve out time for me and my friends (which I didn't before). So overall I'd say my life is improving and, with the exception of unsuccessfully ttc, life is a lot better than it could be.

I'm happy enough. It used to be horrible. Six years ago today I was homeless, an addict and a prostitute- today I'm sitting in my little flat with my baby and my dog, I've been clean 4 years. I've got back in contact with my siblings. I'm skint but it's been worse and it'll be better again. Life is very beautiful.

Job I hate, step kids who irritate the hell out of me, work full time but never any money for treats, need to lose weight. On the plus side, adore my husband, wonderful son and chuffed to bits to own a house.

Very happy with my partner, pets, friends, finance, health and lifestyle. Have a good relationship with adult dc.
A few niggles job wise but I am only p/time so it's bearable. Also a separate thing which is a bit stressful for the time being but should be resolved fairly soon.

I love this, it's made me really consider my life!

I'd say my life is mostly good.

DH, DD and I are really happy as a family unit. We have lots of time together and laugh loads. DD is amazing.

DH and I are happy, although sex life is a bit meh at the moment, we are never alone!

I don't like my job but it pays well, is super flexible and allows me to see DD a lot.

DH is self employed and we have good months money wise and not so good.

In a lot of debt, but working on clearing it. I'd like to be more stable financially.

Like where we live but would prefer to be somewhere remote in the country, finances don't allow that at the moment though.

I don't have any hobbies and would like one!

Pretty good.

I have a caring, funny, quirky DH who I am in love with and who loves me.

I have a beautiful 14 month old DS who is the absolute light of our lives.

We have a nice house even if it isnt particuarly tidy all the time!

I have a stable job which can be very stressful and I could do with more money but I am able to only have to work 3 days a week. We arent rich but we're happy.

There are things that I would change and things that I worry about but over all I know I'm privileged.

Hmm. I think have lots of lives, all very different.

I have a professional life. At work, I am responsible, experienced and good at what I do. It looks like a glam role from the outside, but it really isn't. It pays very well, and I am part time, which is great. To others in work, it looks like I have it all.

At home, I have an undiagnosed DS1 with I suspect dyspraxia and ASD. He needs a lot of encouragement and nurturing. DS2 has classic autism, learning difficulties, sensory difficulties and a food intake disorder. He takes a lot of time, effort and patience. We don't anticipate him living independently as an adult

DH is a very high earner, but works long and unpredictable hours with a two hour commute. We don't see him as much as we'd all like to, and he needs to be available for emails and calls and whatever at evenings (if he isn't already at work), weekends and on holiday.

DH being a high earner means that we have a cleaner, ironing lady, gardener and can employ tradespeople if we need to. Except that despite having the money to do this, I don't have the energy. So the decorating, much needed new flooring, general maintenance that is adly needed doesn't happen.

My own family (as opposed to DH's) are all, without exception, 250 miles away. I miss them enormously. I know that nobody is getting any younger and that health deteriorates with age and this makes me very sad and frightened.

I have no energy to do anything other than the day to day and mundane. I am nearly two stone overweight for the first time in my life. I can't be bothered to do anything about it, but it makes me miserable. My life is becoming smaller, due to DS2's needs; we just aren't the same family as we were 'before' and have less in common with our friends.

I've taken on another charity trustee role and I shouldn't have, it is too much to stay on top of.

My to do list is enormous.

Mid 30s, long term partner and 2 DC (one of which I am guardian).

Small house rented by local authority which i plan to buy and do a lot of renovations to as i love it here.
Have lots of siblings, we are all close. Sometimes there is stress and arguments but nothing too serious that we'd permanently fall out.
Step parent has drug issues and doesnt take care of themself so that's a worry, they are also quite selfish and we've had trouble or police at the door on many occasions because of them.
A mother who I am mostly close to but can turn on me from time to time.
In laws are lovely and supportive level headed people who I get along brilliantly with.
Poverty on my mothers side so always trying to help in various ways even though I dont have much myself.
I am currently unemployed but studying and hope to improve our financial situation eventually but also to do something which will help others.
I keep my house tidy and kids are fed, clothed and happy.
I only have a couple of friends but appreciate and cherish them so much.
I'm trying to lose weight and have given up smoking, this I am currently successful at.
Good relationship with partner and lots of love to share in our little house, even if we are skint.
After years of depression and anxiety I am currently in a happy place with life.

Some good bits, some bad. Probably when I write it all down will look worse than I actually feel

Bad

• Alcoholic mother
• MIL with dementia (at 70)
• DH thinks he has arthritis (at 42) & complaining every night of aches & pains. Seems to find it hard to be happy atm
• DS2 has suspected autism (generally a very happy child though)
• DS3 (5) going through a bad stage behaviourally. Lots of screaming tantrums etc.
• Unsure finances. DH has a contract for now but only till end of month, unsure after that
• Not enough family time. Mainly due to DH & DS1 watching/playing football. Bit of a sore point.

Good

• Absolutely love the job I do (although it's 0 hours, usually 4+ hours/week & just above NMW)
• Totally in love with DH & sex life pretty good too. Wish he was happier though
• Dses mainly lovely kids, doing well at school, happy
• Lots of friends & friendship groups. Good social life
• Surviving financially. Managing to pay down debts. Have been a lot worse previously.