What's your life like?

[QueenOfIce]

I'm nosy interested. I see people from all walks of life all over the world and as I see them doing whatever they're doing I wonder what their life is like. Are they happy, do they enjoy their job etc..

What's your life like?

Mine is very peaceful and happy. I'm 60, a retired nurse. Married to a lovely man, nice house , enough money to live on comfortably. We do as we please, spend good times with our grandchildren. It's all good.

Pretty good.
I have 2 wonderful DC (1 and 3).
My DH is kind, caring, funny, gorgeous and an amazing father.
I (mostly) love my job and have recently been promoted to a senior position.
Health wise, no major complaints.
Financially, we are very fortunate.
We don’t have a huge friendship group but the friends we have are loyal and a lot of fun.

On the downside, we are expats and we sometimes struggle with having no family around, both in terms of ‘missing out’ on stuff and having no support with regards to childcare.

@boddtm yes! Exactly what you said. We were quite late having kids. Had many years together previously. But mindfulness means I feel more at peace now than I ever did back when I had no responsibilities. It’s ace!

I'm content which I have never been before. I'm 61, live in a lovely house near two beaches and amazing countryside. Very happily married, love my work, slim, finally and in great health. V

Shit. Hate it.

It's taken me 46 years to say this, but I'm happy.
It's a lot to do with accepting that you don't get everything you want, and just because things aren't perfect, it doesn't mean they aren't perfect for you.
I have a house with a mortgage that I dislike, but I love the people in it.
I can afford the mortgage and bills and have a holiday, a nice car and a few small luxuries. I can do this on my own if needed so have some financial stability.
I genuinely love my dh, we haven't been together long in the grand scheme of things, but I've found a best friend in my dh.
I work from home, it's a job I enjoy and my boss is great. I could get 20k a year more, but my work / life balance wouldn't be anywhere near as good, and I'd be stressed.
I have two dcs, one with ADHD, which is difficult, but my dh is awesome with her and we are getting some support.

I always have one sticking point in my life in that I hate having to work! I have a good, interesting job but I just don't want to work

Aside from that life is fab. I'm 42 and getting married next year to an amazing man who has brought joy to my life. My dc are 16 & 14 and are very easy lovely teenagers. Parents both alive and I have a wonderful relationship with them.

I'm a healthy weight and run regularly (dome do for 13 years now). I just bloody hate work 😡

My mum died a couple of years ago after a 12 year illness and at times I really struggled to be happy, I was constantly worried about her waiting for the phone call. I was with her when she died and I think of it as she saw me into this world and I had the privilege of being there when she left.

Now as far as I'm concerned the worst thing that could have happened to me so far has happened and so I have a different view and approach to life now.

I'm not naturally unhappy and so my cork has bobbed back to the top and life is pretty good, I cannot complain.

As far as carrying a few extra pounds..I was made for comfort not for speed, I'm healthy and have a good support system I am annoyingly #blessed

It's good. I am married to my best friend, have two great kids who generally get on really well, they are healthy and happy and I love them to bits.
We have a fab house in the country, I work 3 days school hours and do odd bits and pieces in between.
Dh works hard to provide for us all but next year I will be going back to work full time so we will a lot more income.
We have two dogs who make me almost as happy as the kids. Maybe more....! 😬
We have nice holidays, a motorhome shared with my parents and time abroad every year
We are a little stretched financially but not for too much longer

Much better and happier since I started having therapy. It gives great perspective. I live with a person I love even more than when we first met (decades ago), the teens can drive us crazy sometimes but they have all grown into good, resilient and big-hearted people who I am immensely proud to have in my life. We’re not flush but we get by doing jobs we both enjoy. I have friends that enhance my life and who I enjoy spending time with and sibs who I love and who love me in return. It hasn’t always been like this but at the moment I’m in a calm harbour very content with my lot.

Life seems to be getting better for me currently, had a psychotic breakdown 3 years ago. Nearly lost my home and daughter ( was very lucky that have my dh stick by me through it all) we've now got our second child, we moved away to start a fresh and I start university next week! Money wise it's still not great but we're making progress.

Happily married for 10 years
SAHM to 4 (1 under 2, 3 primary school age)
Very close to my family
We live in a nice place but our house still needs a lot of work (renovating but slowly)
Financially comfortable although definitely not rich

But I get horrible anxiety. I worry about my daughters so much and I wish DH and I had more time together. Sometimes the day seems filled with jobs and chores that can feel rather meaningless. I wish I had more time.
The children are growing up so fast, life is speeding away. I want a slower life. Less stuff, more time to be together. I want to travel more. I hate the rushing around that everyone lionises these days. I hate to be busy. I just haven't found a way to create the life I/we want yet.
These are nice concerns to have, I know. But it's my experience nonetheless.

M childhood although wasn't traumatic it wasn't ideal either

I have been very lucky in my adult life to be most happy (although I do fight this myself)

Have a husband who adores
Me.
Live in a lovely area
And have amazing friends xx

In saying that I've worked hard for all of the above it hasn't been easy.

I'm not very lucky to be in a job that I give back to society my life's not prefect I stress over money, can be very exhausted,
But overall I have a very privileged life.

Interesting reading different responses. Mine is pretty good, but if I swapped places with someone, their view might be vastly different. I'm 50 (just), have been a completely sole parent in all ways for 22 years, DD has never given a me a minute of trouble. Only had six weeks of maternity leave and have worked full time ever since.

I've been in recovery (AA) for 12 years, have learned acceptance through that, and that other people's actions simply cannot be controlled by me! Fantastic and supportive friends, good job, lovely flat, and a habit of writing a gratitude list regularly to keep me on track.

In case I sound pious, my drinking days were hell for everyone involved.

I feel unloved unwanted and unappreciated.

Family just see me as a gravy train.

Love my youngest, that’s all I live for.

Only stay in relationship for kids- something I swore I’d never do.

I love my job but it’s very stressful long hours long commute and I’m due a promotion which keeps getting kicked down the road.

House too cramped.

In desperate need of a holiday.

Hardly see friends, hardly ever socialise and I’m a very sociable person.

Overweight bad diet no exercise.

Health is good now but feel like that won’t last forever.

Lucky kids are all healthy and parents still alive.

Drifting atm, spend too much time on social media while life is slipping away.

Don’t need to worry about where next meal is coming from though so really shouldn’t complain.

Love my life and I’m very grateful for it! Have no real worries. The only niggle I have is I’m bored senseless at work at the minute so dread it coming round. Sunday’s I pretty much spend dreading Monday.

Pretty crap tbh.

Worse thing is that I have a very sick relative atm who won't be with us much longer.
Rubbish job that I only stay in because it's sociable hours around my family.
Dp who I love dearly but don't trust 100%.
Lovely son who I adore but is quite hard work lately.
No spare disposable income.
Drink too much and need to lose weight.
Lost touch with a lot of my old friends.

I try to remind myself of all the things I have that I should be grateful for but life is pretty depressing right now.

I love my life.

I’ve got a great job as a senior manager for a local authority which not only pays well but let’s me work with people I like and makes a difference in the world. I’ve got a second job lecturing in my specialism which keeps me fresh and I do an odd shift as a youth worker for fun.

I’m studying for a doctorate which is making me think properly.

I’ve just moved into a lovely house and I’m getting it done up.

My husband is great, really supportive and very fit. My kids are old enough not to need me physically there so I get time myself. They’re also doing ok and pretty good fun.

I listen to audio books on my commute and have really good and varied friends usually end up doing something every weekend with one. Money isn’t tight any more.

It’s not perfect, I need to lose weight and get back to my weight training, my relationship with my mother leaves a lot to be desired, but over all I’m happy. I look forward with enthusiasm.

I have an awesome fiance and that part is great. I have sporadic contact with my son because he can be a bit selfish, when not working he priorities his friends and latest girlfriend which I guess at his age is normal. My daughter is lovely. I have a rabbit and kitten who I adore. My mil is great. But..... I have bpd and spinal problems and I'm in pain a lot. My mental illness rules my life a lot of the time but I refuse to let either thing stop me from doing as much as I can. Aside from the last year I have always worked full time and did a degree. I am obviously fairly strong and determined because during the first year of university my sciatica started, I was on morphine because the pain was indescribable even the consultant said it was one of the worst cases he had ever seen. I had an operation and the pain settled to a very tolerable level until recently when it's all flaring up again. I'm walking with a stick again but I'm not letting it stop me going out and about! But I'm not getting horrifically abused anymore so there is that!

Ok. I have an amazing DS (10) and we have a lovely house. I love my job, I’m so lucky to have it. DH had a promotion last year and has a fantastic job and we’re finally comfortable. We’ve got 3 foreign holidays coming up in the next 3 months having not been abroad for 3 years. It comes at a price though, he’s often grumpy and stressy and wants to sit around all weekend watching TV.

I have SAD so I don’t cope with the winter months very well at all and this summer has been pretty bad up north so I’m already struggling.

DS is about to do the 11+. He’s been working hard but his results are all over the place so I just don’t know if he’ll pass. I just don’t want him to be disappointed and if he doesn’t go to the grammar school, our high school options are very limited, so that’s a stress at the moment.

Where we live is a bit shit, we have to travel for an hour to do anything that DS wants to do because there’s nothing for older children to do around here.

The best thing at the moment is that DH has agreed to get a cleaner because I hate cleaning with a passion!

6 years ago I was not in a good place, was miserable in an on/off relationship which I finally ended for my own good and got made redundant, the following year I met dh on 1st day of new job and life is 100% better

orangecake123

You should be very proud of yourself I’m sure your Grandmother was!! You have had all those horrible experiences in your life and you have still managed to go to medical school!! Stay with the mantra Eat,Study,Sleep, repeat!! And I’m sure you will be the best version of your self!! Consider your self hugged and I know you will do well in your 5th year at medical school.
Don’t let the past define the rest of your life !! You sound like a wonderful girl.

@orangecake123 oh I hope you read my message! I grew up with absolutely no love. No dad, mum wasn't well, no grandparents, I had awful uncles and aunts. I had no one.

What I learned is : it does not matter what anyone else thinks of you, all that matters is that you love yourself. All you need is you! You can have the worst family ever and still have a good life. Do not worry about them. Love yourself and give yourself the life you want. Give yourself the love that they were not able to. I send you a hug

Miserable and hopeless if I think about it, which is why I spend so much time on here, so that I don't.

Neither crap nor brill really. We have money worries and a fair bit of debt but at the moment we're healthy and our marriage is OK. The dc are OK but one has additional needs that can make life difficult at times. I feel unfulfilled and like I've wasted lots of time and now my career has stalled whereas everyone else's has taken off.