I feel very lucky. We are happy and content.
I have a good DH, a lovely DD (2), close family and a big circle of friends, all of which come without any drama.
We are both good earners, with the potential for promotion for us both, and potential for DH to be a very high earner. I love my job. It’s challenging and interesting, but come home time that’s it, no stress to take home with me. We don’t need to worry about paying the bills, have some savings, can afford a reasonable holiday every year, and can treat ourselves to meals out, new clothes etc within reason. Childcare fees make things a bit tight currently but once that reduces we’ll be in a really comfortable position.
Our home is modest in size, but big enough for the three of us and room to extend. We are right on the beach and have stunning sea views. I still have to pinch myself when I watch spectacular sunrises and sunsets. It never gets old. I love our home, and we renovated fully when we moved in, although there are still little bits that aren’t quite right and it’s never felt ‘finished’. We did a full Marie kondo declutter and that’s been literally life changing. I’ve also lowered my housework standards slightly and we’ve come up with and stuck to a routine, so now the house is always clean, tidy and organised, but without me feeling like I’ve spent all my time on chores.
Socially I’d probably like to see my friends a bit more than I do, and more equally to DH who sees his far more. That’s partly my own fault though. He has several hobbies and I’m pretty boring. That’s something I’d definitely like to change.
Health wise I’m pretty lucky at the moment, however I eat far too much sugar and fitness levels are shocking. After a good weight loss after having DD I’ve crept back up to the overweight BMI category and I need to sort that. That’s the area of my life that needs the most work.
I consider myself quite a lucky person. I fell into my chosen career, and while I’ve always worked hard I sometimes feel I don’t deserve where I am. However, we had a really bad few years when DH nearly destroyed everything with compulsive gambling. He goes to GA and hasn’t bet for a number of years, has paid off all debt, but I’m always aware that things could go tits up again if we get complacent. There are some health problems with our parents, and both of my siblings are having a tough time of it at the moment and I worry about them.
Like PPs, i swear by mindfulness. Daily stressors, big issues, I can deal with it all so calmly and feel so... in control. I used to be so anxious but now I just go with the flow. Dealing with GA / GamAnon helped with that too. We both live by the serenity prayer!
Hope things look up soon for those of you who are feeling shit
. When DH was gambling I honestly couldn’t see how we’d ever get out of the hole, but we are different people now living a different life