Friend blocked me after a gift

[Redshoesandtheblues]

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

Managed to read the whole thread and now I’m invested

Well?

RitmRatmo No worries. I've been called all sorts on this thread.

It hurt at first. I was looking for advice.

Not nice to be told you are a stalker, obsessive, mentally ill ....etc etc.

Hope you're ok OP

Ash I'm still trying to get to grips with it and post a response that answers most of the questions.

I'm trying, but making a hash of it so far.

Intrigued!

@Percivalthebabyspider.

Thanks. Im not going to lie, I'm struggling to condense what has happened.

Sorry. Hope you are ok

Are you ok OP- you sound a bit shaken?

Red - in no way did I say or imply that you were weird/a stalker/have mental health issues. I don’t understand why you’d extrapolate that from my first post in which I pointed out that objectively there are lots of aspects to this scenario that are unusual and gently pointed out that you might find it helpful going forwards to focus on what drew you to this relationship dynamic and what you could do in the future to better address the needs this relationship fulfilled for you.

I’m sorry if this upset you. I was trying to explain how unusual and potentially unhealthy this scenario this appears to the objective eye and to be genuinely supportive of you going forwards.

Orchidflower yes, I am a bit.
I've an emotional issue going on with a pet, so I'm more sensitive than usual.

I wasn't referring to you Ritmo.

Just talking generally.

I wish I'd never posted, but I was at a loss.

I’m sorry to hear you are so shaken about whatever it is you’ve found out. But again I echo my previous point that you should be careful about how invested you are in this unusual dynamic with a friend you’ve not met. Whatever it is that you’ve discovered, it wouldn’t be healthy for it to seriously affect/shake you to the point that it might dominate your thoughts. I urge you to emotionally disentangle yourself a little from this person and from this ‘relationship’ and put a bit of an emotional buffer in between you and this person and her issues. Don’t get too overly-invested financially or emotionally in whatever is the case here, as I fear it will continue to bring you worry and upset and to not be healthy for you in real day-to-day life.

^RitmRatmo No worries. I've been called all sorts on this thread.

It hurt at first. I was looking for advice.
Not nice to be told you are a stalker, obsessive, mentally ill ....etc etc.^

Ah, sorry, I thought when you used my name it’s because you were addressing me.

Ok, OP, let's hear it.... I've been following thread for a while but never commented

(Shamelessly placemarking for the conclusion)

Me too!

Merry, I'm trying!! But its complicated and I'm trying to work out best way to describe it.

You lot are shameless!!
But did make me laugh.

So did you drink the gift?

I'm speculating, but is she in love with you and her DH has found out?

Start at the beginning. How did you find out?

I don't think I've ever refreshed a thread so many times.