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Friend blocked me after a gift

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Redshoesandtheblues · 07/09/2019 08:51

I wouldn't normally post about personal stuff this minor, but I am genuinely confused.

I sent overseas pal an email gift card for something she had raved about. A consumable item. No time limit on card.

She didn't acknowledge it.
Busy, I thought. And just waited for her surprised reaction when she found it.

To be clear, I took cues from her recent photos,so it wasn't off the wall. And it was in relation to something she was about to do. Either this gift card or flowers, I thought.

I spent time zooming in on makers of item, finding them and then phoning overseas and emailing, to sort out a gift card.

She blocked me!
Unblocked me to ask for her most recent gift back and told me to eff off!

I'm pretty stunned. But also worried.

Im currently unblocked , but I'm not sure how to handle this.

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EarringsandLipstick · 24/09/2019 22:03

What?

@Redshoesandtheblues feeling a bit 🤔 about your update and also not really understanding it?

justchecking1 · 24/09/2019 22:04

So the "send me back my last present and F off" was intended for affair guy? Who she had stored in her phone under your name?

Was she even aware of the mix up or did she think she had blocked the other man?

EarringsandLipstick · 24/09/2019 22:05

C'mon OP - really?

What's to process? And how did you find out? And why the blocking / unblocking?

Badolddays · 24/09/2019 22:05

I don’t think I get it.

justchecking1 · 24/09/2019 22:06

Or was it a double bluff and she knew she was sending it to you but wanted her husband to think she was sending it to OM?

Does her husband even know there is another man, or does he think you and her are having an affair?

I'm so confused

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Redshoesandtheblues · 24/09/2019 22:07

Im sorry. Ive given as much info as I can. I didn't get chance to grill her.

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NameChange84 · 24/09/2019 22:09

Not really getting it either. So shes having an affair and has pretended it was with you to cover up?

The whole thing is insane.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 24/09/2019 22:10

Im as baffled as I was before. It made sense in some way from quick conversation we had.
But I'm now wondering myself.

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EmmaC78 · 24/09/2019 22:11

I am confused by the update too. Although it sounds like whatever has happened you are better off without her in your life.

Blatherskite · 24/09/2019 22:11

She's saved OM's number as your name so that their chats look like they're with you?

Her DH has found them, thinks you're having an affair and has told her to stop talking to you?

She had to tell you to fuck off to appease her DH? Why ask for the cocktail kit back?

Starlight456 · 24/09/2019 22:12

I am confused too.
Sounds like distance is better

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Redshoesandtheblues · 24/09/2019 22:13

No!! We are in different countries.

So when a text or call came in from Red, her husband ok about it.
But somehow- i dont know how- he found out it wasn't me all the time.

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allthesharks · 24/09/2019 22:14

Maybe she asked for the cocktail kit back to prove it was from you, rather than the OM (based on postmark?)? And in some way, maybe that would have proved to her husband that you were the one sending the gifts and not the OM (in her mind).

What I don't understand is why she couldn't have called you or sent you a message (which she then deleted) to explain what was going on.

Do you know how long she's been having an affair? Has she roped you in to sending all these gifts so she could get away with the OM sending her gifts too?

NameChange84 · 24/09/2019 22:15

I think you should just drop the friendship now. Not understanding why you would forgive whatever exactly has happened. Not sure if its you that's implicated in the affair or not but really the whole thing is just a bit of a waste of time and energy.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 24/09/2019 22:15

Gah!! He thought she was talking to affair guy and telling him to eff off.

Told you it was complicated!!!

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allthesharks · 24/09/2019 22:16

Ah, I don't know. It's too bloody confusing.

allthesharks · 24/09/2019 22:17

What have you said to her? Are you still blocked?

spottysept · 24/09/2019 22:17

Ok, so now you know she's safe it's time for you to block her, on everything! She's crazy!

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Redshoesandtheblues · 24/09/2019 22:20

No personal emails,as joint.

She could have phoned, im sure, but didn't.

Im letting her off, because she is not my main concern at moment.

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Blatherskite · 24/09/2019 22:20

So she told you to fuck off because you and OM share a contact on her phone. She didn't actually want to tell the OM to fuck off so she said it to you instead to make her DH think she was saying it to the OM?

So why was the DH so off with you when you rang him if he knows you're innocent? Because he thinks you knew about it?

MrGsFancyNewVagina · 24/09/2019 22:21

I reckon your phone call to him made him realise that she wasn’t talking to affair guy, but he was waiting and letting her play it out.

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Redshoesandtheblues · 24/09/2019 22:24

And she knows how I feel about cheating, so im not surprised she kept it all quiet.

Not sure we will recover from this.
I know i said I forgave her earlier, but I think I was just relieved she wasn't in psychiatric ward.

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