Am I being an idiot going to meet this man?

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I went on holiday to Tunisia in May. Met a lovely waiter at the hotel and I asked him out on a date. We went for a coffee, had a kiss and nothing more.
Since then we have video called every day. He seems genuinely lovely and I'm due to go back next month to spend a week with him. Except I'm getting cold feet.

He is 10 years younger than me and wants a ltr with marriage and children. I'm mid thirties and have a teenager, I don't know if I want to start a family all over again. I'm settled with my career and happy.
I've heard and read all the horror stories about being used for visas etc so I'm aware that he might not be genuine. He hasn't asked me for money and I would never give him any.

My friends have warned me not to go due to safety concerns.
When I write it all down it seems so stupid to go but then he could be one of the few blokes that is genuine.

Do I just go and see how things go or do I cancel my flights and bin him off?

He is 10 years younger than me and wants a ltr with marriage and children.

I’ll bet he does.

Please please do not convince yourself he is different.
My old flat mate did the same, exact same situation as you.
She spent half her life on face time arguing. She lost her job, friends, everything. All she did was drink wine from a mug (because he didn't like her drinking and she told him it was tea) and have him on face time. He was a player and she knew it, she would spend hours drunkenly screaming at him. She still fell for it over and over and married him, which lasted of all five minutes of course.

She ended up jobless, friendless and paranoid. She was convinced he and his friends were watching her and had hacked into her computer camera etc.

The only people she ended up talking to were people she met on the Tunisian love rats website.

I really hope she's doing well now, it's been a few years.

no fool like an old fool.

A young Muslim man is not interested in marrying a white woman 10 years older than him with teenage children who he has met once.
You need to understand this.
It is NOT Muslim culture to marry in this way. His family will kit approve unless they know it is for money and a visa.
Many Muslim men and women do date before marriage and if it's arranged it certainly will be arranged with someone like you.

This is bonkers. You need to see this for what it is and realise what you sound like.

After the marriage Mum signed over her house to him (he said that in his culture women couldn't own property and if she respected him she'd do it🙄) and he promptly flogged the house, emptied the bank accounts and fucked off.

Why would anyone give someone their house?

That’s truly awful.

Well.. my cousin was a single mum of a little girl living in one room when she met a random handsome Nigerian man on Facebook....

She travelled to meet him in a neutral country with her daughter, married him & quickly got pregnant with a little boy. He got a visa & they moved into a council flat & he works in security. They've now been together for over 10 years with ups & downs as they are both very assertive but it works.

BUT they were the same age, he was from a middle class family & has a lot of family in London anyway. His mother treats her daughter as her own grandchild.

Because she loooooved him Biology.

How did it go op?