Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Original poster

Circumcision Advice

198 replies

Bylamplight · 02/08/2019 21:54

My little one is due to be circumcised next week, does anyone have any good hints or tips for keeping him comfortable after?

OP posts:
Celebelly · 03/08/2019 00:12

Mine wasn't a link to anyone who committed suicide. You are confusing me with another poster. Mine was about a chap who was circumcised as a child and is still facing problems from it now, which is entirely relevant to a discussion about circumcising infants without their say.

But anyway I'm off to sleep now. I'm sure this thread will either be gone or much more interesting in the morning!

bluegirlgreen · 03/08/2019 00:13

@GrapefruitIsGross

Another one who has never had a circumcised man! Grin

Celebelly · 03/08/2019 00:16

@bluegirlgreen is doing the anti-circumcision movement more good than my posts ever will, thanks to the sheer batshittery and weird comments about her partner's performance in bed Grin

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about this subject:

General health
bluegirlgreen · 03/08/2019 00:18

@Celebelly

Yep I am sure this thread will continue to get even more hilarious, with all the OTT, hysterical reactions on here, to something that multiple millions of men and boys have had done, for religious AND social reasons.

A poster calling me 'ridiculous' for saying I prefer a circumcised penis, but not saying anything to the people saying circumcision - that happens to MILLIONS of boys every year- is 'mutilation' and 'child cruelty' is actually quite hilarious.

I am filing this thread under 'you couldn't make this shit up!'

And please (those who had their sons circumcised,) do IGNORE the hysteria and scaremongering on this thread. It's actually ridiculous and borderline funny truth be told! Grin

Night all Smile

GrapefruitIsGross · 03/08/2019 00:18

Another one who has never had a circumcised man!

No, I just try and talk about my partners with a bit of bloody respect, even if this is an anonymous board.

Mummoomoocow · 03/08/2019 00:21

@Celebelly I understand that I mis-labelled you as the poster and accept my mistake

themmatricc · 03/08/2019 00:21

my hint is dont its male genital mutilation is wrong

themmatricc · 03/08/2019 00:23

A poster calling me 'ridiculous' for saying I prefer a circumcised penis, but not saying anything to the people saying circumcision - that happens to MILLIONS of boys every year- is 'mutilation' and 'child cruelty' is actually quite hilarious.
thats exactly what cutting the end of a penis is mutilation and its not funny you sicko

catofdoom · 03/08/2019 00:24

I have a strong chance of getting great cancer. Nobody lopped off a boob when I was a baby.

Because they left it to be my choice.

Because it's my body.

catofdoom · 03/08/2019 00:24

*breast.

Circumcision if not medically essential is child abuse.

Nosquit · 03/08/2019 00:30

I think for medical reasons then it’s fine, and yes those medical reasons CAN include “there is a high risk of DS having problems in the future so we have decided to remove that particular risk.” I’m sure the OP and their DP have thought about it thoroughly and weighed up the pros and cons and I wish them luck.

However when it is done for religious or cultural reasons - just wrong!! Tbh I don’t see how this is ok when FGM rightly isn’t. To me there’s no difference, it is damaging/changing the sexual organs of another person without their consent or good reason!! Yes millions have it done with no ill effect but those in FGM culture would argue millions of girls have that done to no ill effect (depending on the extent this can actually be true apart from loss of sensation during sex - though it doesn’t make it right) - can you see how silly those arguments are? Yes some on here have argued OTT arguments but... how would you like it if someone made a permanent change to your body for no real reason just because and without your consent? You wouldn’t so why do it to a baby/child? (Again, reading the OP posts I fully support her as I believe she does have a reason and has thought it through medically. I might not chose to do the same myself with my DS, but that’s irrelevant.)

TheCraicDealer · 03/08/2019 00:31

Bore off, @bluegirlgreen- do you have the ability to read other posters' minds, as well as X-ray vision to look at men's gentials before you ask them in for a coffee? Grim.

It's also attitudes like that that perpetuate the high rate of a completely unnecessary surgery on babies in the US, as well as it being "cleaner" or "prettier". If you go on any US antenatal board it's an echo chamber of bullshit like "my next door neighbour's cousin needed it done as an adult so makes sense to just whip it off now, it's painless for babies, etc". The concept of bodily autonomy just doesn't enter their heads. All these women stressing about having a bit of blue cheese or one too many coffees during pregnancy, planning on cutting off a part of their newborn's body for no good reason- I can't understand that mentality at all.

bluegirlgreen · 03/08/2019 00:42

There are a few people here who don't like it when someone has a different opinion to them AREN'T there?

You say all kinds of nasty shit about mothers who choose to have their son circumcised, I mean REALLY nasty shit, but then when someone says something YOU don't like, you get huffy and angry.

Pretty typical reaction from some on here.

I can see you are getting upset at meeting your match, and having to deal with someone who doesn't fall into line and agree with the masses on the thread.

So you will be pleased to hear I am off to bed now. Night night ladies. Calm down now. No need for so much anger. Smile

PickAChew · 03/08/2019 00:44

Maybe don't chop bits off him?

themmatricc · 03/08/2019 00:49

You say all kinds of nasty shit about mothers who choose to have their son circumcised, I mean REALLY nasty shit, but then when someone says something YOU don't like, you get huffy and angry. yourne not virtuous supporting mgm youre like i said before a sicko

CanYouHelpFindThis · 03/08/2019 00:56

Bath him as soon as he poo's, literally.
And as well as that 3 baths a day....
The sink maybe an easier option than the bath.... Just to quickly remove poo

Vaseline so his willy doesnt stick to the nappy!

PickAChew · 03/08/2019 00:58

And think about the irony. Cutting his penis magically doesn't hurt as a baby, yet you're asking for advice how to make it not hurt.

Seahorseshoe · 03/08/2019 01:14

My son had a dorsal slit at 16, an operation to lose the foreskin, as it was way too tight, always had been. We'd started seeing at dr when he was 7, because, you know, it would be horrible to have done as a teenager!

The urologist was dead set against circumcision, he said it can dull sensation and didn't want that for him.

Anyway, that was years ago and he's been fine since, no post op problems, the stitches were fine. Job done and, actually, for all that I wanted to avoid him having it done as a teenager, he was able to fully understand the reasons behind it and took it all like a champ.

FagashJackie · 03/08/2019 01:17

I would wait and see if there are problems, then consider surgery rather than just do it. It broke my heart when they gave my dd the vitamin k injection, I had been looking at her thinking, if anybody ever hurts you I will kill them, to letting the hv stick a needle in her ankle.

Wait and see. It is not reversible.

rhombusesarebuses · 03/08/2019 01:18

I was with a circumcised man at one time and I found it difficult. When we were intimate his penis skin was taut and immobile. That meant that anything I did to him caused him pain unless he used plenty of lube. So we couldn't be as spontaneous as we would have been otherwise. A simple hand job was loads of faff and caused a mess. I don't want to go into any more detail but I'll just say that without a foreskin part of the mechanics of a penis don't work, going by my experience.

My friend was circumcised for medical reasons in his twenties. The operation gave him huge relief so he felt very positive about it.

OccasionallyIncomplet · 03/08/2019 01:49

Circumcision for non medical reasons is genital mutilation and is barbaric. Parents should be ashamed of their selfish and narrow minded desires. This is aggravated when the child in question is too young to be able to make their own informs decision (which I would suggest is 18).

Personally I feel the parents should be prosecuted under the same legislation that outlaws FGM.

flappi · 03/08/2019 02:02

It’s not against the law in the UK to circumcise a boy . The majority of men in the US have been circumcised.

Before everyone jumps the gun , and criticises religion and OP , just try and answer OPs question , if you can .

Live and let live . Because if you don’t embrace differences in opinions and views then you are no better than the racists and populists seeking to divide humanity .

flappi · 03/08/2019 02:06

I know that in some places the NHS has COMISSIONED circumcision for baby boys in the UK ( for non medical reasons ) to provide safe and effective places for parents who choose to have this done in a safe and controlled manner.

I’d say if anyone wants to have it done for their baby they should have a chat with their doctor / gp to understand the implications and find out or seek advice on the safest places to have it done .

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 03/08/2019 02:17

Good grief. I have never seen such OTT reactions on here EVER.

Anyone would think the OP was slicing her son's foreskin off with a blunt razor blade! You do know the OP is on about MALE circumcision right? Not female (which IS mutilation!)

Comments like 'Why would you mutilate your baby?' 'This is child cruelty!' 'You are disgusting,' (and similar comments) are ridiculous.

Multiple 100s of millions of people have their sons circumcised, mostly for religious reasons, but sometimes just social reasons. THREE QUARTERS of American men are circumcised. It's not that big a deal !! Really!

In the same way, I also can't understand why people make such a big drama about women being beaten to death by their partners. Two women are killed by their partners every single week so it's obviously a very common and normal occurrence. Why do people bang on about it as if it's somehow a bad thing, when it's such an everyday thing? It's just something that hundreds of thousands of men do, it would be ridiculous and hysterical to make a fuss about it....

FagashJackie · 03/08/2019 02:18

flappi I disagree with you completely. Do not live and let live if it involves hurting people. Then stand up for people not getting hurt.

It is not a difference in opinion, it is about cutting a part off another human being, that he can not grow back.

I disagree with any religion that proscribes it, or any parent who blindly agrees to it.

I do not agree with hurting babies, with potentially life long consequences.

Swipe left for the next trending thread