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Fun touches to your wedding

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StrongInside · 31/07/2019 10:29

Hi,

I’m only starting to plan our wedding. Kind of have an idea in mind- everyone wearing sunset colour scheme, lemon and orange slices in water in vases for table decoration among some bright flowers

Let’s share some ideas for quirky, pretty and/or fun ideas to make a wedding setting ‘pop’. Having our day in Scotland so it can rain and be bleak, want something Pinterest-worthy to make the wedding colourful and interesting, without spending too much.

As an example, I made artificial flower corsages using online supplies for a relative and all her female guests (very small wedding, no bridesmaids) as keepsakes from the day. That was their wedding favour instead of getting something noone needs like a mini alcohol bottle or a sweetie.

Thanks!

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Caramellow · 31/07/2019 13:02

Why should we be more accommodating than our guests?

Because you're the bloody hosts!

Bezalelle · 31/07/2019 13:02

Bridezilla alert!!!

Caramellow · 31/07/2019 13:02

I can't imagine caring more about a scarf than a friend.

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StrongInside · 31/07/2019 13:09

ParadigmGiraffe, burgundy sounds nice! Indigo blue too, think I’ve seen the redhead on Suits pull it off.

Love the brolly idea, totally pinching that!

SinkGirl, thanks for the tips! I am very confident in people we are inviting having no problem with our theme.

Weird responses, honestly. I imagine that the majority of you would have fun at a good old hotel wedding with long speeches, sit down meal, white table cloths and a traditional iced-to-death tiered white cake. I’m envisioning more of an Offbeat Bride-type of wedding runs to check if they have a message board there.

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iklboo · 31/07/2019 13:09

It sounds more like you care about how your wedding looks than getting married.

SubisYodrethwhenLarping · 31/07/2019 13:10

So is your DH going to wear a copy of Joseph and his technicolored dreamcoat from the musical?

Is your dress all the colours of the rainbow too?

I would hate the idea of being told what to wear to a wedding by the bridezilla especially if the men were given/provided with the colours

Why are the men different?

I wear black, grey, chocolate brown and dark olive green so not any colours in the rainbow

Buzznbells · 31/07/2019 13:11

Wow there's a lot of miserable people on here today!
Plenty of weddings have colour schemes, most only apply to the wedding party itself but sometimes the wedding party can be 20+ people so as OP has stated that this is a small wedding with close family and friends there's probably not a lot of difference in number of people wearing the colour scheme (which in this case is not restricted to one or two colours like so many weddings).
That's quite a wide colour palette - you can have shades of red, orange, yellow, pink or purple - colours I see at most weddings! Hardly a massive undertaking to find a dress, shoes, pashmina, fascinator, shirt or tie in any of those colours. The OP didn't state they had to be head to toe in one particular colour!
Can't think of any original ideas OP but just felt you were getting a hard time about your wedding. So many Mumsnet posts that encourage the bride to have the wedding she wants and not meekly follow tradition or bow to family pressure and yet people then start criticising your choices.
Love the idea of bunting and umbrellas in your colour scheme. Instead of slices of just oranges and lemons in water, I would suggest whole fruit - vases filled with oranges, lemons, strawberries etc or even just fruit bowls, decorated with flowers or candles on each table with the fruit corresponding to the sunset colour - Google fruit centrepieces. Bubbles are always fun, especially if you have children invited.Maybe fairy lights in those colours as you can them use them at home as well?
Good luck!

Morgan12 · 31/07/2019 13:13

Nah but I would have fun at a wedding that has nice food, cheap drink and no waiting about for the bride and groom to get their 9 million perfect Instagram pictures. Which I can imagine is exactly what you will do. Maybe with everyone lined up according to colour.

Caramellow · 31/07/2019 13:13

Would I have more fun at a wedding where the bride cared more about the happiness of her guests than making them to dance to her tune? Yes. They're supposed to be your guests, not puppets.

JudgeRindersMinder · 31/07/2019 13:14

I was at a wedding last year where they asked that you write your favourite song on your RSVP. They had a fantastic live band who then played a great mix of music for the reception

Aragog · 31/07/2019 13:17

Males will just be given a colourful buttonhole

Why not make it fair?
Men get a free colourful button hole and the women get a free colourful scarf - as you say, they can be got cheap from Primark or similar.

Caramellow · 31/07/2019 13:17

Wow there's a lot of miserable people on here today!

So OP states that she doesn't care about any guests who have the audacity to not play along, and we're the miserable ones?

Also, I have never been to a wedding with a dress theme. It's not the norm in my experience.

Aragog · 31/07/2019 13:21

Why should we be more accommodating than our guests?

Because you are the hosts. As such it is your role to do so!

It’s essentially a party we are throwing,

Clearly the party and the way it looks is more important than the actual wedding, by the sounds of the thread anyway!

Bluesheep8 · 31/07/2019 13:21

I thought the wedding was going to be huge with the talk of themes and colour schemes and outfits,so was surprised to read that we're talking about a small family wedding of 15 people. If this was my family member, I'd go along with being told what colour to wear but I wouldn't be 100% happy about it!

Aragog · 31/07/2019 13:22

Plenty of weddings have colour schemes,

Fortunately they still aren't the norm, not weddings with themes. Having been to dozens of weddings over the years not one has yet to have a theme or colour scheme!

ExpletiveDelighted · 31/07/2019 13:23

I agree about games - we had a pool table, giant jenga, giant connect 4 in the bar where we had the evening reception and they went down very well.

Foslady · 31/07/2019 13:26

, honestly. I imagine that the majority of you would have fun at a good old hotel wedding with long speeches, sit down meal, white table cloths and a traditional iced-to-death tiered white cake.

Hahahaha!!!!!! You couldn’t be further from the truth if you tried!!!!

I just made sure all my quirks were only costing me, not my guests.

I wore red and gold - white was overrated!!!
Piano at the local country chapel rather than organ so we could hear people sing.
Play list whilst signing the register that reflected hobbies and interests, how we met etc (inc Top Gear theme tune (Jessica by the Alman Brothers if anyone is interested!).
Magician/ballon modelling for the kids (and a hell of a lot of adults!) in between the day and night do.
Ceilidh-a for the night do.

And that’s just the bits that spring to mind!

We may have divorced since but people still say it was a hell of a day!!!!

Silvercatowner · 31/07/2019 13:26

none of them will be offended by going with our wishes

Not offended - irritated I would think. But they won't let on.

Foslady · 31/07/2019 13:27

And I also called a halt to the pictures - it was too hot and people were getting hungry!

Starbonnet123 · 31/07/2019 13:28

We went to a wedding where the bride had made heart shape shortbread biscuits for the adults with her and and the grooms initials in icing , they were gorgeous people were looking for seconds but they had all been eaten , for the kids she'd done goodie bags with a colouring book crayons and stickers .
They went down well too .

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StrongInside · 31/07/2019 13:28

Motherofkitties, that’s why I want colour- we’ll be in the countryside near a lake or river somewhere, and having everyone in vibrant colours (dark purple and dark blue included in the sunset scheme) would be beautiful, in my opinion.
Thanks for the flower suggestions, they were definitely among those I would have on the tables and in my bouquet.

Malteseardiet, great idea!
Crumpet, lottery tickets sound good!

Caricaturust and magician aren’t something I considered doing, but would be fun for all👍

TheInvestigator, sorry to hear about your wedding not going ahead. Lego is my DH’s interest, so that would be cool.

MsSquiz, ace! Did it cost a lot for the dessert table? We want to get several cakes from Costco or somewhere else instead of the formal white iced cake, so that could be similar to a dessert table. Everyone will hopefully have a family-style meal, then gather around a firepit while music plays in the background. Not many of the invited like to dance, and I’m ok with that.
Garden games, can’t believe I forgot about those, thanks!

Ohcanada, thanks, even some other baby forums (not sure if I can name them here but they are well known) are much more tolerant and supportive than here.

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Trumpton · 31/07/2019 13:29

I love the idea of a big basket of colourful pashminas to help yourself to . eBay have them at less than £3 each so even if you over bought that would be cheap enough and a good thing to keep afterwards .
And rainbow golf umbrellas .

The photos with all the colours would be fun .

Titsywoo · 31/07/2019 13:31

We had casino tables which went down well. Had fake money printed with our faces on.

DustyOwl · 31/07/2019 13:31

Some ideas that worked for us and our friends; (Please don't slate them, they worked on the day.)

A hot water urn and vintage tea cups all day long, much appreciated by some, especially the drivers and my aged aunts/uncles.

An invitation to make a cake, if they wished. This became quite a challenge. (The men got more competitive than the women.) One of our friends built a cake mountain with models of us on top from our stag/hen do. Interestingly, my husband wore a naked woman suit on his stag, so everyone thought our friend had made a model of me naked.

The best men, DH and I planned a surprise song (no family knew) during the ceremony. Everyone got a kazoo (bear with me). We wrapped the kazoos in the words to "Can't take my eyes off of you," and everyone played along. We found people didn't mind playing a kazoo even if they didn't want to sing.

We didn't have a seating plan.

We didn't have an official photographer, people just took pictures and we got copies (no hanging around.)

Our friends organised a guard of honour of snowboards.

We made loads of bunting from all sorts of fabric. All the colours of the rainbow, some more traditional designs than others.

We had people chose songs they wanted to hear. (We couldn't play them all but we got an idea.) There was LOTS of dancing.

I think that's it.

HeadintheiClouds · 31/07/2019 13:33

This has to be a pisstake?? “We haven’t thought about food or entertainment yet, we’re too fixated on getting everyone to wear orange for a laugh (what’s funny about this?), and floating orange and lemon slices in water jugs”
If it’s real, op, please go straight back to the drawing board, it sounds beyond awful.