Music:
"You listened to people
Who scared you to death and from my heart" George Michael kissing a fool - relates to my first love - we had much opposition from both families, partly age (they said) but also partly class divide/snobbery.
"All of George Michael’s ‘You have been loved’, so beautifully depicts a grieving mother’s pain, gets me every time." Very well and succinctly put.
"as well as the bit in Praying for time: "cause he can't come back, as he has no children to come back for""
Also
"I believe in the gods of America
I believe in the land of the free
But no one told me
(No one told me)
That the gods believe in nothing
So with empty hands I pray
And from day to hopeless day
They still don't see me" with all that's happening politically here and in America it shocks and saddens me that over 30 years later, rather than things being better we seem to be heading full pelt into them getting much worse.
"Running down corridors
Through automatic doors
Got to get to you
Got to see this through"
Athlete - wires - it's so eerily accurate for I would suspect anyone who's had a sick baby/young child. It came out a good few years after dd was born but it still gets me right in the throat.
From film:
"You have to look with better eyes than that" from the abyss. In the film it relates to perceiving wee spacemen as a threat rather than considering they may be friendly. But I extrapolate it to life generally and so many people who see the bad before the good - and I include myself there.
"That's the upside to having a nervous breakdown. I just don't give a fuck!" From the movie copycat (I may have paraphrased slightly) - I can absolutely relate.
"When you try your best but you don't succeed
When you get what you want but not what you need
When you feel so tired but you can't sleep
Stuck in reverse" fix you - Coldplay
how I feel far too often, pretty much all the time at the moment, I find that song so hard to listen to.
"These wounds won't seem to heal, this pain is just too real
There's just too much that time cannot erase
From 'My immortal', but actually every line breaks my heart." Totally agree with this one.
Isthebigwomanhere - a different Kate bush song, but the friends I love most are geographically far away and I miss them so much.
"Don't give up
'Cause you have friends
Don't give up
You're not the only one
Don't give up
No reason to be ashamed
Don't give up
You still have us
Don't give up now
We're proud of who you are
Don't give up
You know it's never been easy
Don't give up
'Cause I believe there's a place
There's a place where we belong"
pretty much sums up both how I feel and the messages of support I get from them. Thank goodness for social media! It's often criticised but it has literally been a lifesaver at times for me.
Allgooddogs - as the child of an alcoholic father Tracy chapman fast car really gets to me, the difficulty I had was when it first came out, nobody knew what my family were dealing with and I didn't want them to and I spent a lot of time avoiding the song or excusing the tears I couldn't prevent if I couldn't escape it.
As I get older and have increasingly too many losses and funerals under my belt, it gets so hard to hear the favourite songs of those lost loved ones, even if those songs are upbeat even silly ones - think you guys know what I mean?
Tv quotes:
Friends - "And... it kills me that I can't give her a baby. I really want a kid. And when that day finally comes, I'll learn how to be a good dad, but my wife, she's already there. She's a mother without a baby" took me a while to get dd, plus I have dear friends who've struggled with fertility and that line just gets me every time even though I've seen it loads.
Fresh prince - "You know, It ain't like I'm still five years old, you know? Ain't like I'm gonna be sittin' up every night askin' my mom "When's Daddy comin' home?,""
And
"How come he don't want me, man?^"
^
I'm sure many know the scene. I find it so heartbreaking because I've seen dd go through pretty much exactly this...right down to her dad recently getting in touch and then letting her down all over again!
My warmest support and deepest condolences to all on the thread who've dealt with so much loss and pain. 