Uncomfortable realisations about myself

[RedHeadDiana]

Do you ever have one of them moment's were you have bad realisations about your character. Ive realised. ...

I'm lazy
I'm intolerant
I'm selfish

I am my own worst enemy - voice in my head constantly tells me off, puts me down, and I'm not sure I'm strong willed enough to stop it

^^ This ^

I also procrastinate, have no 'sticking power' to finish tasks, self sabotage and lack ambition.

I have high intelligence, yet I've got virtually no higher qualifications and I'm scrabbling for zero hours, part time jobs.

I decide almost instantly if you are someone I want to get to know. Eldest is starting school in September and a few school mums have struck up a conversation. I've made almost instant decisions on whether to engage fully or not. I really have a 'type' when it comes to friends and I want friends, not acquaintances so if it's just polite chit chat, I don't want it.

I think about money a lot and just want want want. I do constantly remind myself how lucky and grateful I am for everything I do have. But renting privately has made me obsessed with property and money (or the lack of!) which I think stems from the unsecured nature of renting!! Wish I could just chill out though.

I am great at faking excitement for others, yet deep inside I am completely jealous of their humongous houses, holiday houses, exciting adventures here there and everywhere at the weekends, ponies etc etc. Just how the other half live....

I have come to the realisation my DH is pretty shit in many ways and I've spent many years giving him the 'benefit of the doubt'. (It ain't happening love!)

I like quiet and no drama which is the EXACT opposite of my family, meaning I sit seething when I have to listen to others stories...

I have no tolerance for ignorance which I think in some ways makes me as bad as them, as in I won't hear the other side to an argument.

I have stopped smiling at people in the Street because I actually think most people are wankers and don't deserve the effort

I want my house to look a certain way because I'm a control freak. I stress everybody in my household out because of it and I feel them walking on eggshells sometimes. I judge other people's dirty bathrooms and kitchens.

I really can't be arsed with personal grooming most of the time- leg shaving, hair washing & styling, looking after my feet etc and I realise it must be a bit gross for my DH

I judge people who don't like animals- especially cats and dogs

I hate cooking and would much rather live on M & S ready prepared food

I get a sinking feeling when one of my Kids makes a new friend and their parent wants to strike up conversations etc. I hate the whole 'getting to know you' chats these days!

I want all the chocolate to myself and hate having to share it- despite it being the polite thing to do 🤷🏻‍♀️

Thanks for this! Cathartic!!

I'm:

• lazy and scruffy
• incredibly quick to anger
• defensive and incapable of acknowledging fault at the right time
• clearly in denial about how much weight I'm putting on
• not as clever as I think I am
• hypocritical
• impatient
• selfish
• terrible for procrastination
• arrogant and opinionated
• generally just very negative
• stubborn. Stupidly stubborn.
• not deserving of my DP who is an absolutely wonderful human being
• a bad friend that makes very little effort to keep in touch
• finding this very cathartic!

I’m a pushover..
I’m a people pleaser
Have very little self respect and care more about others than I care about myself

My motivation comes from pleasing people

And at the stage of life where I’m feeling too resentful about it because I decided to respect myself and that seemed to have shocked everyone and rocked the boat.

And I have a big big void inside of me... looking for someone to care about me ... Just for me... that it’s become toxic and unhealthy and ... perhaps a little attention seeking.

And I decided to step back and heal my own void and look after myself better and be my own caring parent

I sm prone to sulking. I've become very lazy intellectually. I don't cope well with stress, or with feeling unwell (which didn't matter too much until I got cancer).

I'm motivated entirely by spending money and time on myself. Nothing pleases me like spunking a big wad of cash on fun for me. Ds comes a distant second, others almost nowhere. Thinking about ways to get more cash therefore preoccupies me.

With maturity I have learned to spend more on other people but I'm still easily persuaded that they don't need it as much as me. There's also a part of me that is convinced they'd actually like to spend money on me, talk about me etc.

I have a reputation as fun and thoughtful because I will throw parties, invite people out etc. Yes, because I can spend on myself.

There isn't a lot else to my character. The rest of it is trying to hide those parts. Or total nihilism - at bottom I believe everyone is better off dead.

Wow can’t believe how many here have said they think they’re lazy. I am lazy! But other people always seem to tell me how busy they are and how much they have on so I thought it was just me!

I do, I've realised that :

I feel bad for my children for making a shitty choice of an ex (their dad) they could be having a better quality of life if I had been someone with a modicum of respect and love
I am a pushover
Don't stand up for myself
Always put myself last

@Blastandbollocks hear hear, me too. I've put on three stone and look a mess

Women beat themselves up unnecessarily, Boris Johnson and similar just please themselves...

I can't bring myself to care about most things though I do about my appearance so am quite vain.

I probably love my cats more than anything on the world.

I lack motivation at work and at home.

I procrastinate.

I don't really like being around other people.

I'm lazy and never stick with anything.
I'm very judgmental and opinionated but try not to let it show too often.

I really admire the honesty of people here. I really struggle to be as honest myself.

I get enthusiasms for things which never last. I run out of steam quickly and become disenchanted/bored.

I am impatient and judgemental

I am a moaner and chronically negative

I spend far too much time trying to make everything alright for everybody and can't accept when enough is enough

I am too controlling

I like things my way

I I find most of life a massive disappointment, particularly other people.

I'm defensive (working on it though)
I have f all willpower

We need a what you like about yourself thread to help posters realise their good points. Not just the negatives we see here.

It's easy to overly critise ourselves, it's not so easy to find our good points, say them and actually believe it.

Ok, made one here

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/3646392-comfortable-realisations-about-myself

I get exhausted by other people's emotions.
I find keeping in touch with friends a massive chore.
I can be really judgemental.
I don't think before I act, or I think too much before I act.

I’m impatient, it’s tragic as Dh is a shocking faffer of the highest order.

I drink too much
I can be passive aggressive
I resent my kids (they are hard work)
I loath overly emotional people
I hate being hugged

I’m antisocial

In work I’m secretly incredibly competitive and also crave praise and assurance that I’m the best at what I do.

I’m not honest - I’ve worked for more than a decade with someone whose personality and values I loathe but she has no idea. I do challenge her on the values but as she has no respect for me she either thinks I’m joking/over sensitive and ignores me —I am her boss—

I’m greedy

In my personal life I’m lazy.

In my professional life I work too hard and expect the same from everyone else and am always disappointed when they don’t go the extra mile when really they are doing all that is required of them

I’m spoilt and therefore selfish.
Firstly I was spoilt by my parents and now I’m spoilt by DH who caters to my every selfish whim.

This one is really embarrassing to write but I'm gonna do it......

My farts stink!!!

I genuinely believe this is one of the reasons my partner left me and I will have to remain single because of this. I like to think it's because I eat plenty of veg and is the sign of a healthy gut, but I might be kidding myself.

I’m lazy too
No willpower
Yet I’m ridiculously impatient.
Is that why I have no willpower? Because I don’t have the patience to work at something long term?

I’d like a thread to help us improve and work on aspects about ourselves that would improve our lives if we changed them.

@ILiveInSalemsLot
Start the thread you want to see!
And link it here - do it, be lazy no longer!

I am judgemental of other people's reproductive choices.
I am addicted to codeine.
I am unsympathetic towards first world problems. Your house only has one toilet? Fuck off, there's plenty of people in the world with no toilet.
I once agreed with something David Cameron said.