Do you think you are a good mother?

[jennymanara]

And whatever your answer why?
I am just interested really.

Good enough. My 42 and 38 year old travelled 50 miles to join us in N Yorks for a music festival and stay overnight for 2 days
So I can’t have been too bad.

Yes. It pains me a great deal; I agonise over the decisions that I make for the kids but despite what could be some difficult circumstances (I'm autistic, their dad is a horrible narcissist who is mainly absent from their lives other than when he wafts in to cause disruption and upset), they are both great kids. They are thriving at school, have ambition and goals, they have real security in their relationship with me and we are mainly a happy family. They know they are my priority and that they are loved. I could be more gracious, less stressed and less honest about things but in the main I think I'm doing ok.

I do my best to be one. I may not always be the world's most wonderful mother and there is a lot of trial and error, but I am doing my best and that's what matters. Having enough sleep helps immensely (when I can get it, she says with baby on boob).

I oscillate between think I'm awesome and feeling utterly ashamed and disheartened. Depends on the day.

Yes, I think I’m a good mother. I think it helps that my parents were good parents to me, so I have excellent role models.

I have moments of good mothering most days.

I feel the guilt that I could and should be doing better most days too.

I think I'm a good mum. My 23 years old rarely talks to me though so I'm clearly not. And my 4 year old is always cuddling in with me. So mixed feelings on that.

Pretty good, but I am fortunate - good, stable childhood myself, with good parents, a supportive dh, a reasonably comfortable financial situation, healthy dc with no additional needs, good relationships with extended family, etc etc. I'm not so sure I'd find it easy to be a good mother if I'd had to deal with half of what some mothers cope with.

I'd say my main good points are that I talk to my dc a lot, have sensible boundaries but don't sweat the small stuff, don't have a temper, and am supportive of their interests and development as individuals. Weaker point: I'd like to have been more spontaneous and imaginative (drop everything and let's go and do something different and exciting etc). I think I can be a bit of a boring parent sometimes .

Mine made it through to adulthood!

I don't know 😳

My child is 1 and is healthy n happy. So yes I am. That's it. My step kids like me n are also fine.
I have pnd so am learning a good mother means not being perfect but functioning for the best.

Generally yes I do. DS is a lovely lad and I do my best to take care of him, physically and emotionally. He’s 10 though and I’m not sure I’m going to handle the teen years very well. I’m a worrier and I don’t know how I’m going to cope with the conflict and boundary pushing. He’s been very easy going so far!

My two are in their 30s, happy, in good jobs and we get on well. So yeah, I don't think I've done too badly.

I think I'm a good mum. I have four well brought up hard working adults.
Although in some things i was strict in others i was quite easy going and 'picked my battles ' as it were. We never had any awful 'teen issues etc, and many of their old school friends used to and still do call me 'mum'. And my kids still enjoy spending time with us/me, so I think I did ok.

My dc are 14 & 18. I think I'm a really good mum, I work with children too and it's basically my no 1 talent (I'm fairly crap at most other things!)

There is more than one way to be a good parent. Some people have to be excellent to overcome the barriers they face.
To me a good parent is one whose feeling of love translates into action.
My kids have good relationships with me and other adults, and with each other. But they are fairly young so I'm not resting on my laurels yet.
Yes I'm a good mum. It's probably my biggest strength.

Yes. My children are safe, loved and nurtured. I make sure they have everything they need and a lot of what they want

Fucking ace. My (grown up) baby has my unconditional love. I’m docile and obliging.

I have faults, too, but I’m not going to mention them.

I don't think so. I find my baby hard work and sometimes find the needing to hold him most of the time and his demands really hard to deal with. My husband is far more patient and loving with him and my son clearly adores his dad. I'm just here for milk, I guess.

I always thought I was, until about 2 years ago when my oldest hit 14. He's so awful to me, I question myself all the time.
Although I know he is very much loved and I've done my best.

Mostly. DS is fed, clothed, has toys to play with, is taken places and given lots of love and hugs. On the days I find myself angry and exasperated with his behaviour I do wonder but I think that's just motherhood!

Sometimes. I know I do a lot of things right but definitely not everything.

Yes. My 12 year old and me are incredibly close. She has love, care, attention and everything she needs.
My only regret is that I only get to do it once.

@SparklesandFlowers You are giving your baby so much more than just milk.

DD is 2. I think I have more good days then bad days, but only time will tell.