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I got fat shamed last night

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GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 30/06/2019 11:45

To be fair, I am fat, so they weren’t wrong but do I really deserve to be shouted at in the street for it?

I had such a fab night out last night with a new group of friends. I walked home by myself around 11pm and some horrible people driving past shouted nasty comments to me and really spoiled my happy mood.

Now as well as nursing a hangover, I feel miserable about myself. I am already doing slimming world and have lost 1.5st.

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JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 30/06/2019 11:47

Urgh. People are cunts. Don’t give them a seconds thought. I guarantee if you were thin they’d have still found something to shout at you. It was because you were a woman alone, they saw you as a target for them to get kick out of harassing. Honestly, ignore them.

Kaykay06 · 30/06/2019 11:48

Pretty horrible but try not to let it ruin your mood or motivation.
I’ve put on a good stone and a bit recently and feel Huge and crap about myself so know how I’d have felt if it was me.

Well done on your loss that’s fab, I need to get a grip start eating healthy myself so you’ve done fab as I know how difficult I can be.
)it’s their problem though people who shout nasty comments at strangers are losers

hopeful31yrs · 30/06/2019 11:48

Use it as impetus to lose more weight if you're doing that anyway and upset about your own weight. If not stick by the view you can change your weight - they can't change the type of idiot they are. Sorry people are idiots.

waterlego · 30/06/2019 11:49

Poor you; no one deserves to be verbally abused in the street.

Don’t let this get in the way of what you’re doing. It sounds like you’ve made a great start with SW.

Nurse your hangover, be kind to yourself, and remember that some people are just arseholes and hopefully they’ll find a pube in their dinner tonight.

Soola · 30/06/2019 11:49

You are losing the weight though, they can’t ever lose ‘stupid’.

IhaveALooBrush · 30/06/2019 11:56

Fuck them.
Weight can be lost but if you're a cunt you're a cunt.

BlueCornsihPixie · 30/06/2019 12:03

No one deserves to be shouted at in the street

I know it's easier said than done but just ignore them, they did it because you were a loan female and they are dickheads. They would have found something to shout at you, they know weight is something that will make you feel insecure. My size 6 5'10 friend has been called fat by a boy on a night out! It's just a way to get at women.

Be proud you've lost 1.5st! And remember your great night with new friends and don't let some pathetic twats in a car get in the way of that.

TheCrowFromBelow · 30/06/2019 12:22

They are twats, what on earth makes people think it’s ok to shout nasty things at people they don’t even know?
I can’t imagine what they get out of it.
I had two men in a car park right up against my car door shouting about how my sour face would never get shagged, all because I wouldn’t smile at them when they asked me to.
Don’t feel shit about yourself, OP, they are just wankers.

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GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 30/06/2019 12:22

You’re all right, I know that deep down. I hate that strangers can do such things and not even care. They won’t remember this morning what they said whereas it’s all I can think of today.

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womaninthedark · 30/06/2019 12:24

Happened to me the other day, two men in a car going past, shouting 'Fat bitch!' at me. Heard it all before. As usual, the driver was no looker, and could do with shedding a few stone himself.

beepbeeprichie · 30/06/2019 12:26

Ah you poor soul. That is absolutely rotten. Well done on the weight you’ve lost so far. Use their complete arseholeness to keep driving forward on that, but at the same time, don’t give it too much headspace.
Put it this way- if you were in the lobby of a cinema, going to see the second film of a trilogy you were really getting into, and some knobber coming out said “don’t bother that’s crap” would you believe them and go straight home? Or would you go in anyway? I guess what I’m trying to say is- don’t listen.... using a bit of a random example about opinions

Marlena1 · 30/06/2019 12:27

To be honest it's nothing to do you being overweight. I remember walking out of a pub and a guy shouting after me "keep walking". I was pregnant and irrationally upset but I do think now, "what kind of person would get off on saying that?". I felt so unattractive and it did upset me, I would love to have had a witty comeback as he was a skinny weedy thing showing off in front of his friend. Their issue not yours.

KennDodd · 30/06/2019 12:31

Were they men?

notatwork · 30/06/2019 12:34

'I can lose weight if you want. You are, and always will be ignorant twats.'

notatwork · 30/06/2019 12:35

FFS 'can lose weight if I want'

WindsweptEgret · 30/06/2019 12:35

I don't think it's about your size. If it was men who shouted at you, then know that women of all shapes and sizes can get verbal abuse from men in cars when walking. I was shouted at as a 8 stone 17 year old.

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GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 30/06/2019 12:36

Yes they were men. Two I think but not sure as I didn’t even want to give them the satisfaction of turning my head to look.

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Soola · 30/06/2019 12:39

Let’s not turn it into a men thing, women can be just as nasty.

MyPatronusIsAnOrca · 30/06/2019 12:43

I know it’s easier said than done, but try to ignore them. Like PP above, if it wasn’t to comment on your size they would have found something else to say. Some people are just twats.

That’s on them, not you.

I remember when I was at uni, I was walking back from a night out and some men in a car started asking for my number. I ignored them and their parting shot was “nice nose”.

My colleague once in a similar situation, had some idiot shout she needs a boob job at her when she wouldn’t engage in conversation with him.

My point being if someone is a twat, they always find a way to be a twat.

JoxerGoesToStuttgart · 30/06/2019 12:45

Let’s not turn it into a men thing, women can be just as nasty.

It was a man thing. It was 2 men.

How dare you tell women they can’t name their abusers just because women can be nasty too.

HoneyWheeler · 30/06/2019 12:46

I'm sorry this happened to you. If it is any comfort, in my opinion, when people yell out nasty comments, it's not really about what they are saying, it's that they are looking for a way to exert power over you. They're driving past thinking (hoping) that they can show you that they can dominate you - they can control how you feel in that situation. It's a horrible part of toxic masculinity. It wasn't really about your body, more that they wanted you to know that they thought they had power over you. F*ck those guys, imagine how tiny and insignificant they must feel to only get that sense of power from making someone else feel intimidated.

madcatladyforever · 30/06/2019 12:48

When I worked in the NHS patients were constantly telling me how lovely I'd look if I lost weight and similar comments, I couldn't be rude to a patient so I'd totally ignore what they said about my weight and either leave the room or change the subject. They usually got the message.
It's gutting though, how dare people comment about other peoples weight.

SissySpacekAteMyHamster · 30/06/2019 12:49

Well done on the amazing weight loss. That's no easy task. Concentrate on the positives.

Arsehole will be arsehole.

FortheloveofJames · 30/06/2019 12:57

Doesn’t matter what you look like/if you’re overweight, NO ONE deserves to have abused shouted at them by bullies. As hard as it is, try and not let us get you down. Imagine how sad their tiny little lives must be to feel the need to shout abuse at a stranger in the street while they drove past. I feel sorry for people like that.

Well done on your weight loss OP

Soola · 30/06/2019 12:59

@JoxerGoesToStuttgart

My comment was aimed at the poster who raised the question about it being men.

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