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I got fat shamed last night

102 replies

GeorgieTheGorgeousGoat · 30/06/2019 11:45

To be fair, I am fat, so they weren’t wrong but do I really deserve to be shouted at in the street for it?

I had such a fab night out last night with a new group of friends. I walked home by myself around 11pm and some horrible people driving past shouted nasty comments to me and really spoiled my happy mood.

Now as well as nursing a hangover, I feel miserable about myself. I am already doing slimming world and have lost 1.5st.

OP posts:
Cherrysoup · 30/06/2019 13:53

If safe to do so, tell them you can lose weight but they're ugly. Wankers.

Monny1 · 30/06/2019 13:54

Try and not let it bother you. They are idiots and losers.

Yabbers · 30/06/2019 14:02

Just smile and be smug and satisfied that you can do something about an issue you have decided needs to be changed. They will always be twats and everyone who knows them knows it.

Zapata29 · 30/06/2019 14:02

Don't give it a second thought. What kind of people shout abuse and insults at others in the street for no reason whatsoever? Total dicks, that's who. Says a lot about them and nothing about you. You are fab and that's that Thanks

Branleuse · 30/06/2019 14:02

It IS always men. The only time women seem to do street abuse is if they are teenagers to other teenagers. Adult women so so rarely randomly shout abuse. Its always men. They need to grow the fuck up, but they never will because theyre obnoxious entitled wankers

BigChocFrenzy · 30/06/2019 14:02

So sorry, OP 💐

Men who deliberately insult women like that are just nasty fuckwits, who despise women

They would have picked on any lone woman, or group of women - criticised their face, boobs, clothes, hair .... regardless of how lovely the women looked

Those men are the problem, nothing to do with you

speakout · 30/06/2019 14:18

It is misogyny.
I can't imagine women cruising in a car calling out a man walking alone and trying to body shame.
Let's call it as it is.
OP do try to unpack this a little.
Your feelings about your weight are a completely separate issue to this harrasement.
Shame on the poster who said it should be a motivation for you to diet.
We all deserve to be treated with respect and live a life free of bullying, control and abuse.

You are aleady a whole human being. We all deal with being human as best we can. Life is bumpy. But please be furious - direct you feelings towards these ugly men.
It's not about you- it's about them.

speakout · 30/06/2019 14:21

Yabbers While I agree with your sentiment I have issue with the word twat. Same as cunt really- it is disempowering to women to have their genital name used as euphimism for all that is wrong.

EarlGreyOfTwinings · 30/06/2019 14:22

I can't imagine women cruising in a car calling out a man walking alone and trying to body shame.

you should read blogs or stories from obese men, you will be surprised. I am pretty sure I read threads on this very forum about women who have been shouted at by other women in the street (it didn't sound terribly believable, I give you that).

I know some hysterical posters like to see misogyny and feel victims of MENZ all the time, but in real life things are a bit more balanced.

It doesn't make it ok for anyone to abuse anyone else in the street, but that's not a male vs female thing.

speakout · 30/06/2019 14:26

I know some hysterical posters like to see misogyny and feel victims of MENZ all the time, but in real life things are a bit more balanced

hysterical women.

Oh please.

Soola · 30/06/2019 14:27

@EarlGreyOfTwinings

Exactly. I’ve seen and heard groups of young women belittle men in the street for being fat or wearing what they see as being unfashionable.

It’s horrible behaviour from both sexes.

BishopofBathandWells · 30/06/2019 14:32

@gamerchick Yep same, though I wasn't made up - I was leaving uni for the day and walking home, a pile of lads in a car squirted a bottle of liquid over me as they went by, shouting "slag". I was 21 years old, it was summer time so I had a vest top on. I was devastated and cried when I got home.

speakout · 30/06/2019 14:32

Soola

Where do you live? I have never heard such things.

EarlGreyOfTwinings · 30/06/2019 14:34

Where do you live? I have never heard such things.

so of course unless you experience it yourself, it can't happen. Good grief.

speakout · 30/06/2019 14:36

EarlGreyOfTwinings
I did not suggest it can't happen, I was asking a question.

Good grief.

Fatasfooook · 30/06/2019 14:42

I once heard someone randomly shouting at a women walking “ya fat bitch” - she wasn’t fat at all. Very average size. They were just shouting abuse, the accuracy of the content wasn’t important to them. You are fine, remember the good time you had with your friend and don’t let horrible twats that are losing at life ruin it

namechanged042012 · 30/06/2019 14:45

Of course it is only men, women would never berate other women for the way they look, for the choices other women make in parenting, abuse partners, intimidate younger male colleagues, abuse children or bully and shout abuse at other women.......oh hang on ...... Hello mumsnet, a lot of it goes on here 😂😂😂😂😂
Some women on this forum are them horrible, disgusting women that then shout from the rooftops how vile men are , they need to look into mirror the hypocrisy is hilarious.

namechanged042012 · 30/06/2019 14:47

Oh sorry OP, yeah they were dicks, keep going with the great work you are doing with slimmers world 💐💐

gamerchick · 30/06/2019 14:49

@gamerchick Yep same, though I wasn't made up - I was leaving uni for the day and walking home, a pile of lads in a car squirted a bottle of liquid over me as they went by, shouting "slag". I was 21 years old, it was summer time so I had a vest top on. I was devastated and cried when I got home

It's amazing how vulnerable it makes you feel. Awful experience. I'm sorry man Flowers

gamerchick · 30/06/2019 14:52

gamerchick what arses, who even thinks up shit like that

Bored men with nasty minds in this case probably. It's funny to them.

MikeUniformMike · 30/06/2019 14:52

Take no notice, they'd have probably shouted it even if you were skinny.

ControversialFerret · 30/06/2019 14:55

In my 40 years on this earth I have been catcalled, abused and intimidated.

It's never been a woman or group of women doing it.

Particularly memorable incidents:

  • being called a slag by a man walking past me, who I'd never met before, whilst on the way to the shop in the middle of the day to buy milk.
  • walking past a father who turned to his son (aged approx. 10) and said "look at the tits on that".
  • Having a complete stranger run their fingers through my (long) hair when I was sitting on a bench in a park on a nice day eating my lunch whilst on a break from work.
  • Having water thrown at me from a car whilst I was crossing the road at some traffic lights.
  • Being told I was a fat cunt when I was out running one day. A nice touch was the fact that he'd reversed his van so that he could tell me this.

I've lost count of the amount of times I've been told to smile, or cheer up or that "it'll never happen". And the many, many times I've been called a frigid bitch because I've not responded to a proposition.

Always by men.

So no, not all men are like this. But it's commonly men who are responsible for this type of behaviour.

MissKittyBeaudelais · 30/06/2019 15:03

Cunts. My son gets this. He’s not fat. He has a disability and a very unusual gait.

Carryon with your slimming world and (try not to) give it any more of your precious time.

Well done on 1.5 st loss 😊

northernruth · 30/06/2019 15:03

Sorry to hear that but don't feel bad. In the last year I've been shouted at many time (usually whilst out running) - the last time it was "smell my dick" (?????)

Last year a friend had a man walk past her in broad daylight while she was on her way to work and he said she looked like she needed to be raped.

People are twats. You sound like you have nice mates and had a good night out, Also well done on the weight loss.

Boysey45 · 30/06/2019 15:06

Sounds like you are doing great with your slimming. You know one of the women I worked with had anorexia and was very thin. She was even called a fat cunt when she was out and about. Its misogyny basically.
I wouldn't worry OP, it says more about this pathetic man than you. You can always loose weight but sadly he'll always be a cunt.