30 next year - severely depressed about it

[PurpleLady11x]

So I'm 30 next year, and I'm really depressed about being old and haggard lol.

I've been thoroughly down about this for the last few months, so my partner has persuaded me to book in a counselling session.

I'll no longer in my 20s and it's terrifying me so much that it has started to effect my day to day.

Did anyone else feel like this?
Am I being ridiculous?

Although I think you've written it in a very crass way ignorant to others around you, I do know what you mean. I hate getting older, it terrifies me, and moving into a new decade obviously exasperates it. I'm 31 but hated turning 30. I don't know why, I have ticked all the boxes society puts on us and am genuinely pretty happy, but I hate getting older. I'm scared of dying, I'm scared of becoming irrelevant, I'm scared of how society treats and views older women. I've never felt more confident in myself as I do now though, so I suppose I need to remember age is a number.

I will be 60 next year,I have moments of haggardness(today as I was ferrying teens to prom and afterprom parties all night /morning).But on the whole I'm very calm and don't think about my age much.
Councilor s don't give you answers they just help you to find your own.
I had a lot of fun only late 20s/30s!

I felt quite low at the prospect of turning 30, then again at 40, then again at 50 ..... I now realise it's infinitely preferable to the alternative. I also realise how much I used to worry about what other people thought. With age comes the ability to not give a toss and you will only be invisible to people who don't matter anyway. Enjoy your birthday OP

Actually when I was 27 (a good few years ago) I recall panicking about turning 30 - I worked in a hip, trendy architects but used to go clubbing a lot and have lots of boyfriends... I actually voiced this opinion to a few people I worked with and got a and bemused look.

TheDogsMother - I recall when I got my first grey/white hairs - at side of hairline just before I turned 40. I rang my DM in a panic, rushed to hairdresser to get them covered and was surprised I'd got them as my DM (who had brown hair) only got grey hairs well into her 40s and then hardly any.

DM told me that her DM (my nana) had started to dye her hair blonde at a similar age to me (nearly 40) because she'd started to go grey.

I do tend to overdramatise though and this was BC/H (children/husband) so I think was panicking that time was running out as a grey old woman!

I felt a bit like that before I turned 30, not to the same extent but it felt like a big milestone for some reason. I loved my 20s but my 30s have been even better so far!

I told everyone I was 30 from the age of 29. Really cushion the blow

@TheCatThatDanced Ah the hair dye. Now that's a whole other thread

30 - old and haggard? I don't understand.

Growing old is a privilege denied to many. 30 is not old and haggard. I'm 36 and I have to say I'm the happiest I have ever been. More confident than ever and more time to focus on my self now dc are getting a bit older.

I hoard every year I get like a miser. I celebrate each birthday like a lunatic freed from the asylum.

I’m very grateful to still be healthy, to still be here in my 40s.

Madness. 30 is nothing. I don’t understand these threads. So self indulgent and needy.
Get a grip OP, meant in the nicest of ways.

Of course you are being ridiculous but I suspect you know that really. You choose whether to enjoy your life or spoil it with unnecessary stress.
From friends in my school year one girl died in an accident aged 17, one of cancer in her 20s and one of cancer in her 30s. They didn't get the privilege of enjoying those milestone birthdays which, kind of, puts it into perspective in my mind.
My next big birthday will be 60, I'd sooner be 30 but that's not going to happen so I will just enjoy it!

I dreaded my 30th so much I refused to acknowledge or celebrate it. A couple of weeks later and I was SO OVER IT.

Honestly it's no different at all. You'll find out when the time comes!

Promise.

Yes I did. I dreaded my 30th so much that I said to my husband I wanted to be our the country...so we set our holiday dates around my birthday...we went to the Dominican, and it was lovely..
Once I got past 30 I was fine...it was just turning 30 o got down about...especially as husband is 3 years younger than me

I loved my 20s a lot, after having shit teen years. I had a good career, really active social life, got married and TTC.

After my 29th birthday I absolutely dreaded the big 3-0. Turning 30 I thought my youth would be gone, even though me going clubbing every weekend pretty much finished when I left Uni!

I went away for a lovely holiday with DH and had a good party, took me a few weeks but I got over myself, helped I discovered I was pregnant a week later!

30 going on 12. Self obsessed, much?

I’m late 30s! I’m the fittest, smallest abs arguably most attractive I’ve ever been My career is going from strength to strength, i have a great social network and am finally well off and mortgage free! Finally my DD is older, sleeping well and completely brilliant! Late 30s = awesome

I'm in my 50s & probably the fittest & best career position I've ever been in, most emotionally resilient, too.

I hated turning 20, actually. Birthdays after that were unremarkable.