Would you judge this parent?

[Sparrowlegs248]

If a parent turned up at a school event, such as sports day, nativity etc, dressed in untidy/dirty work clothes. Pre school or early primary age children. Parent is self employed, tradesperson. Not filthy but obviously less clean and tidy than an office worker.

Of course not, but, like a previous poster said, i’d judge any tossers that were judging someone in their work clothes.

I would think that they are very hard working. I think that’s admirable.

My husband had to come between jobs (he is a 'tradesman') to our ds sports day i hope no one judged him!

No because it's what my DH does.

I'd assume they'd done as my DH and gone straight there from work?!

Also, if they're a self employed tradesman you know this means they're taking the time out UNPAID to attend their child's event? Which is more than some parents I know who work in offices and could take paid leave do....... guess which one I judge more?

I would think that they are very hard working. I think that’s admirable

Eugh, how patronising.

No. I don't pay attention to what people are wearing/doing much anyway.

I'd only judge them if they'd come straight from a contaminated site like Sellafield, or Porton Down, without leaving their dangerously contaminated overalls in the 'dirty' zone!

Anyone else, I'd think 'good on them for turning up to support their kid'.

Absolutely, I would judge them. I would judge them as a committed, caring, present and involved parent - and think they were sodding awesome!

Of course no one would care. Unless they hogged the seats at the front for other people!

If I thought about it at all, I'd think well done for getting away from work to attend.

No, I would think it was great they'd made the effort to be there. I doubt their child cares what their clothes are like.

No. Parents wear all sorts on school run. Some look like they've just got out of bed. They wouldn't stand out at our school.

No, wouldn't judge at all.
I've seen many a parent in dirty work clothes, straight from work at school events over the years.

Would I judge them disfavourably? No.

Could I imagine someone judging them for turning up looking scruffy / straight from work / not smart enough? Sadly yes. People can be really obnoxious about appearance. It's not ok and it isn't fair, but they do. Isn't that the cornerstone of Instagram?!

I can’t imagine most people would even notice. Some of these replies are excruciatingly patronising though!

Blimey. Hope this isn't about me. I just collected DC in faded sweatpants spattered with mud. I don't think it would have occurred to me to change if it had been a nativity instead

Not at all. I would judge anyone who judged the tradesperson though!

I think assuming they were sodding awesome is a little OTT, actually. Everybody in the room has made a special effort to be there; some people’s work clothes just happen to be a bit smarter, that’s all.

No, and in fact this is my husband. But I think it might be your partner who thinks everyone is judging him because of his work gear. My dh always feels self conscious at school in his work gear. No matter how often I tell him no one cares...

Bloody hell. If they turned up drunk or naked or wearing bondage gear I'd judge them, if they turn up in whatever they've been wearing at work it wouldn't even cross my mind to think about what they're wearing. (It would be weird t go home and change just to pick up a kid from school)

I can’t imagine most people would even notice. Some of these replies are excruciatingly patronising though!

Aren't they indeed?! All the middle-class posters praising the salt of the earth tradesman type...anyone would think they're saints the way everyone is going on.

Well actually I probably wouldn't even notice, even though it would be fairly uncommon at our school - but anyway the 'professional' parents often work from home and are en route to gym or a run, or walking the dog, so running kit, muddy wellies, yoga pants are quite common too.

If someone did turn up sweaty and in dirty overalls I'd assume they were busy and had made some effort to get to the school to support their kid.

Teacher here - absolutely no judging here. One of our dads turned up to a (daytime) concert recently in overalls with oil all over his hands! He'd clearly come straight from servicing a car. I was impressed with his dedication to his child.

I definitely wouldn't think they're any more amazing than all the other parents who had turned up (and many who were unable to turn up). I don't think I'd give it any thought at all.

No I wouldn’t judge them and I certainly hope you aren’t