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[Summerbreezes]

I'm in a Facebook group that I very helpful and useful, but one of the admins is irritating AF. Practically everything she does is annoying. I can't say this to her because then I'd probably get banned.

It hurts me everyday that you chose that man over me. I know it was my decision to have you and therefore him in my life but I resent having to make the choice. And now you want to have him play Grandad to my baby?! A man who has been abusive to me for nearly TWENTY YEARS?! You must be fucking mental.

I just wish you saw him for the manipulative, vile cretin that he is rather than everyone's best friend. Although you've seen him hit me, swear at me and tell me he hates me, so maybe you do know but you don't care. I naively believe that your children should come first, maybe that's my mistake. I can only hope one day that he does something that he can't come back from, so I can stop pretending that you being happy is enough to justify how shit he makes me feel on a daily basis.

@Wallhanging Ohhhh I totally get this. I'm pregnant and MiL has sent a card for DH for tomorrow. Infuriating. She was so reasonable till I got pregnant, now she's so possessive of 'her little boy and his little boy' 🙄

God I'm loving this thread. It's really cathartic!!

You stupid lazy woman! Yes I got sick to death of you cancelling arrangements and that was the final straw. You have t even bothered to contact to ask how I am. What's wrong? You don't like it when someone has an actual diagnosed serious illness? I've never met anyone as self absorbed as you. But yet somehow it's my fault 🤷‍♀️

Our love life is crap and is not satisfying - I daydream of better and longer.

oldraver 'wet hair' christ I've just had meningitis and 2 brain surgeries. Pity it wasn't as simple as keeping your hair dry to avoid that

I'm so so sorry. I loved you so much. I still do. You absolutely took my breath away. Yes we met at such an awful time in both our lives. I was scared in the early days. That night finding you in tears with the shotgun shook me to my core. But we've both got ourselves to a happier place-separately. I think of you every single day. In a different life we could have had an enduring love-probably life long. But you had no interest in my children and we came as a parcel.
I wish you well and hope you find happiness

To the incompetent midwife who nearly let me bleed to death - I fucking hate you for ruining those precious first few weeks with my child.

Parents - you both should have been sterilised so you couldn’t procreate. You've had numerous children, yet not one has been shown any love or affection. I was your personal slave growing up. I had to listen to you tear me apart everyday, you called me a bitch daily. What kind of fucking ‘father’ calls their daughter a bitch? I hate you, I bloody hate you both so much for not aborting me and making me live this fucking miserable existence. Now I have a child I’m stuck, I can’t end my life because unlike you fuckers I actually love my child and I won’t leave him without a mother.

Extended family - fuck you for standing by while a childs life was being ruined. Fuck you for not helping me. You stood by and at times even helped them treat me like shit. I can only hope karma is indeed a bitch.

To the fuckers who tell me my PTSD is ‘just stress’, I actually have no words for the shit you spout.

If it was guaranteed i would not get caught i would torture & then kill you for the 6 years of hell i went through.

38 happy years of working in the NHS and then one year of working with you forced me to take early retirement. I hate you, you misogynistic bastard.

We don't have an equal friendship. I survive on scraps of attention when there's no one else around.
It's not fucking fair.

You're breaking my heart. I've been so open and honest with you about my insecurities, and I thought you understood. Now you're throwing them back in my face, I'm here alone alternating between crying and being sick, and you're out somewhere getting drunk. I think our marriage is potentially over before it's really begun.

How very convenient that now you are back with him you can justify yourself by saying "Yeah but he didnt physically do anything did he?" When I told you what that disgusting, degenerate and abusive cunt did to his siblings you were outraged.

Thirty years on I am looking at photo's of our daughters christening and I am still so angry that I don't have one photograph of me holding her on my own because you wouldn't let me hold her. I am so glad I left you.

poorbuthappy I could have written that. Came here to do just that. And no, it isn't fucking fair.

I just wish I could actually stop caring and not only pretend I don't.

I'm so fucking pissed right off you (exH) were so stupid not to take precautions with your very new girlfriend, late 30s who was desperate for a baby...who surprisingly 'accidentally' got pregnant. I've had our daughter in tears daily about not wanting another sibling and worrying herself sick about her relationship with you once the baby arrives. If it were a steady relationship and the child was planned I could understand. I've been very nice and supportive of you, ans spent hours and hours reassuring your DD that she will love the baby and you will still give her attention etc. but I'm fucking furious about your sheer stupidity. And I'm raging that I've had to curtail my social life and activities for weeks and not been able to have more than half a glass of wine as I'm expected to be on standby to pick our DC up if they are with you and the woman goes into labour. Oh, and that the girlfriend isn't going to ask for child maintenance because 'she isn't like that'? Ha ha!!! she's on minimum wage and the kid and the mum are going to have to eat/survive somehow. You big fool.

R, I love you so much it hurts. Every time I see you I die a little more inside, I hate that we live in different countries and when I do see you, contact has to be so minimal and I have to pretend I'm not keen on you.
I've loved you for 3 years - since the very first time I saw you and I know you feel the same way. If only I met you 2 years earlier then maybe we would be together now and things would be so different and your lifestyle and job would be more stable.
Life can be so shit sometimes. I hope you meet a lovely girl who truly deserves you one who will make you happy and love you with everything she has because you truly deserve it.
I'm forever yours R.

First of all - daily mail is a piece of sh*t

Ex Foster Carers - I hate you for everything you did and everything you put me through. How dare you lie about me to social workers, other foster children (yes I know exactly what lies you were telling people after you got rid of me!) and your ever so wonderful private fostering agency that gave you a shed load of cash every month.

Do you know what you did to me?! Because of you I had nightmares for months. I have permanent scars from self harming whilst under your care. I developed an eating disorder (after you restricted my food because you said I was fat. I was a normal healthy weight when I moved in with you) and still have mental health problems all these years later that go back to my time with you. Because of you I couldn't take up my place at university. I nearly lost my only remaining birth parent forever because of the damage you caused to me.

Don't you dare turn up at my place of work again and expect me to treat you with respect. You were told to stay away once and you had to keep coming back didn't you? Why?! Do you think it's funny that I have to leave the room in tears and distress everytime you and your birth children (spoilt brats) turn up and start causing a fuss?!

You did something truly disgusting, denied it, admitted it but said I was to blame, attacked me verbally for mentioning it, said it was only a joke, said everybody does it, said everybody hated me for mentioning it, and finally said you’d never ever apologise.

Here we are many years later and you are still hounding me, writing and saying you don’t know what happened. You’re a liar, that’s what happened.

The job isn't easy but it isn't as hard as you make out. IT skills and organisation are needed.
I really hope I am wrong and you haven't forgotten about the project
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The fact you regularly name drop some of my abusers family members in my presence absolutely disgusts me and I have no respect for you at all. Does the fact I go completely silent and look away from you and immediately remove myself from the conversation not even register in your self-absorbed natterings? I am your daughter ffs.

I find you really difficult. I simply tolerate all of you for an easier life. Honestly things will be easier when you're not here.

Your husband is a worthless lazy narcissistic piece of shit who has dragged you and your children. down with him in his pathetic quest to "become famous". And you supporting him in this ridiculous "dream" over the past 15 years has just served to help fuck everything up. Your kids have TOLD you both they're not happy, but that useless selfish shit doesn't care and is STILL only putting himself and HIS wants and HIS needs before all of yours. No body likes him.

My marriage is unfulfilling.
I can't afford wine, but I need it to cope.

It's completely fucking normal to want to avoid travelling on a bank holiday with small children. Do not make me out to be a hysterical lunatic. Things work out ok because I fucking plan them.

I am fed up of hearing about the plans for your wedding. You only ever want to see me when you want support or to moan about your family. You ask me how I am but as soon as I try to speak you talk over me or start texting your OH about stupid bunting. You seem to forget that I have my problems but your wedding takes priority in all of our conversations. Well guess what next time I won't be available to see you again. I will spend my time with my real friends. I am glad I can't come to your wedding too, especially as you have only asked me to the evening reception.