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How do I deal with a Weird creepy dad from school?

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SoConfused2019 · 04/06/2019 14:32

My brother calls me at the weekend giggling asking when was the last time you went to a certain local pub by ours. Bit random I thought then he couldn't stop giggling and eventually told me that theres a google review of the place and see photos of me on there too.

I quickly jump on google to check it out thinking he's joking and he's not, it was a kids party of someone in my sons class from last year or even before. I saw the name and recognised it right away, our kids are in the same sports team but i've barely spoken to this guy. his wife see regularly as our children are in the same class but its always her at the school, i'm actually creeped out by it as they do seem to be a facebook family - whatever they're doing there are updates and photos throughout the day! Im completely the opposite.

There are at least 4 photos of me alone, no other mums in them at all, 1 with another child who wasn't mine in the background, but for the most part i'm sitting there not noticing he's taken them, im looking away, on 1 of them im dealing with my own child who was upset but hes cropped him out and just left me. he's then added them to a google review to say the party was great and the pub was fabulous. i'm a little weirded out by this though, and I definitely don't want my photos on google without my permission!! I also dont want it to become a thing as from what I can gather of him he's very sarcastic and if he knew this had got to me would probably refuse to take them down. Can I report them in anyway?

OP posts:
user87382294757 · 06/06/2019 17:22

Ok, so in the OP, it says he is a 'weird creepy dad' and then goes on to say "I've barely spoken to this guy" he has posted some pic on google. Doesn't way how many overall, might be a few- with some pics of her alone. And that 'the party was great and the food was fabulous"

And from this the guy is a weird creep etc...Right.

pigeonscooing · 06/06/2019 18:03

757 - look at it this way. If you happened to take your dc to a kids party, and a few days later found out that another parent at the party (a man you barely know) had taken several photos of you without your knowledge and posted them online in a review of the venue, what would you think?

I went to an event last night. Numerous group photos of the activity were taken and a lot are on fb already. I'd be freaked out if someone had taken photos of just me, cropped other people out, and shared those.

Soola · 06/06/2019 18:09

@user87382294757

His wife was there so why didn’t he take photos of her and use them?

Or a general crowd scene of a mixed group of people?

No he has zoomed in on her and cropped out everyone so it’s just the op clean as day in the photos.

CustardD123 · 06/06/2019 19:47

I do think if he took all these weird stalkery photos of you for pervy reasons, it seems even odder that he's then decided to post them up on a google review - surely anyone with that intent would like to keep them private to himself?

user87382294757 · 06/06/2019 19:54

there is just a lot of mind reading going on here. Think how it would feel if you had a party with your DC and some pics were put on google for a review. Maybe google clipped them, maybe they happened to have more of one of the mums on them.

Then a mum gets in touch, she feels the pics of her means your DH is perving at her and of dodgy character. But there is another explanation. And as above what point in even doing that. If he wanted to surely he would keep the pics to himself.

user87382294757 · 06/06/2019 19:55

OP doesn't say what the other pics are, Maybe there are more and of groups etc. Maybe google just used the first few or something. Who knows.

user87382294757 · 06/06/2019 19:56

Also this was from last year 'or even before' and seems other has happened to the OP since.

Willow2017 · 06/06/2019 20:39

User
Why on earth would he post 4 photos of the same person at his ds's party cropping out everyone else plus her son?
Why not post pics of him or his wife or son since they booked the place and he was reviewing it not op?
Very strange behaviour no matter how you excuse it.

Frownette · 06/06/2019 20:43

I can't imagine the venue were especially pleased at just having odd photos of the same woman accompanying the review

Soola · 06/06/2019 20:52

@user87382294757

Your comments are very strange.

I’m thinking you were at the venue/children’s party and were the entertainer.

user87382294757 · 07/06/2019 07:29

What? Confused Why would I be there / the entertainer? Bizarre.

Well will be interesting to see how the OP got on with her friend.

Soola · 07/06/2019 12:53

@user87382294757

What? confused Why would I be there / the entertainer? Bizarre.

Because you’re acting like a Clown.Wink

JingsMahBucket · 07/06/2019 13:34

@Soola good one. Grin That PP’s messages are really strange and they’ve obviously not understood what s/he was reading.

Triglesoffy · 07/06/2019 13:40

OP you’re not one of those people who post and run, are you?

JaneyJimplin · 07/06/2019 13:45

Any response yet op?

Thatsalovelycuppatea · 07/06/2019 17:05

I wouldn't like that, it's creepy behaviour.
Never be in a room alone with him!

Soola · 07/06/2019 19:11

Come back op!

Please!

We want to know if you’re ok and if the photos of you have been removed.

MulticolourMophead · 07/06/2019 20:07

Also this was from last year 'or even before' and seems other has happened to the OP since.

But OP has only just found out about these pics because her brother found them.

Original poster
SoConfused2019 · 08/06/2019 09:31

Hey sorry been busy working... little update, my friend was back from holiday Thursday evening she asks whats she's missed so I told her about this (as she also knows the guy) so she was laughing and asked to see the photos I had to google his name so all his reviews came up... going through them (mostly pubs or shopping places... why would you review an Aldi??). I scrolled further down the page to a review of a soft play place Id used for Ds's party when in reception... Sure enough there was his review how he was at a hellish 5 year olds party andcouldnt wait to leave accompanied by 6 photos of all the children grouped together... what stood out (apart fro this being odd behaviour) is that one of the girls in Ds's class is adopted.. for there own peace of minds her parents have aways requested they be kept away rom social media, parties, fun days etc even on school websites.. nobody has ever had a problem with this and always stuck to their wishes... this girl is right in the centre of the photo (yes I know its nothing in the grand scheme of things but its her parents wishes which were made clear to us on this day and he just went ahead anyway and stuck them up).

Along with this I found 2 photos of my friends also, one at a family fun day event, another friend on a day out with them at a petting zoo... again not posed for photos so hes just taking them randomly of women. I'd not been at the school but last night after picking my ds and his friend (the son of this couple) I dropped him home so got the chance to mention it.

I said that I wasn't sure if she'd seen my message to her, she said she rarely goes on her messages to check, but my brother had found photos of me and it had gone back to her husbands and id be grateful if he would take them down, she giggled and said oh yeah thats his hobby to leave reviews of everywhere he goes, I said thats fine but find it weird to see that at a Childs party the only photos were of me and he face slightly hanged. Then I said also he's put photos up on my sons party a couple of years ago... you do know *** was at that party and she's not supposed to be on social media, so she said she's get him to take them down. That was last night around 7ish and I just checked and they are still there.

also user87382294757. if a married guy at a Childs party only took photos of you unaware and cropped everything else out, added them to a review and never ever told you about doing so..... i'd love to hear what you'd call him. You seem to love playing devils advocate and not reading the thread properly, not sure I get it but whatever... I hope you've found some other way to entertain yourself by now anyway. have a lovely day.

OP posts:
Soola · 08/06/2019 09:40

Hi op, you handled it really well. The guy sounds a complete dick and his wife a gullible fool.

If the photos are still there tonight I would tag everyone you know from the school and make a post warning them that the man’s hobby is to take photographs of the school mum’s at social events and then publish them online.

Let everyone know what a dirt bag he is.

Soola · 08/06/2019 09:43

The reason I would wait I took tonight is that he may have put in a request to have the review/photos deleted/removed but it could take 24 hours.

LoafofSellotape · 08/06/2019 09:43

yes I know its nothing in the grand scheme of things but its her parents wishes which were made clear to us on this day and he just went ahead anyway and stuck them up

It's actually really important and there are good reasons behind this.

He sounds very,very odd.

Skyejuly · 08/06/2019 10:54

I reviewed an aldi🤣

FilledSoda · 08/06/2019 12:02

The reasoning behind not putting photos of adoptees on social media is much more serious than ' for the parents peace of mind'.
You need to tell those parents that this has happened.

Tilikum · 08/06/2019 14:05

Wow, he is a complete creep. I'm glad his wife seems receptive.

I second Soola's advice if he doesn't take the pictures down; to tag all the school mums and warn them that he's secretly taking pictures of them and posting them online. If he starts sarcastically posting about you he won't have a leg to stand on. Apart from user Hmm , everybody can see he's overstepping boundaries.