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How do I deal with a Weird creepy dad from school?

111 replies

SoConfused2019 · 04/06/2019 14:32

My brother calls me at the weekend giggling asking when was the last time you went to a certain local pub by ours. Bit random I thought then he couldn't stop giggling and eventually told me that theres a google review of the place and see photos of me on there too.

I quickly jump on google to check it out thinking he's joking and he's not, it was a kids party of someone in my sons class from last year or even before. I saw the name and recognised it right away, our kids are in the same sports team but i've barely spoken to this guy. his wife see regularly as our children are in the same class but its always her at the school, i'm actually creeped out by it as they do seem to be a facebook family - whatever they're doing there are updates and photos throughout the day! Im completely the opposite.

There are at least 4 photos of me alone, no other mums in them at all, 1 with another child who wasn't mine in the background, but for the most part i'm sitting there not noticing he's taken them, im looking away, on 1 of them im dealing with my own child who was upset but hes cropped him out and just left me. he's then added them to a google review to say the party was great and the pub was fabulous. i'm a little weirded out by this though, and I definitely don't want my photos on google without my permission!! I also dont want it to become a thing as from what I can gather of him he's very sarcastic and if he knew this had got to me would probably refuse to take them down. Can I report them in anyway?

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AdobeWanKenobi · 06/06/2019 12:17

user87382294757

Do you have a link to the thread you're reading please?

user87382294757 · 06/06/2019 12:18

I did read it. Still think it is OTT contacting the wife. It may be innocent and Op would look like a fool. But I guess that was the MN advice!

user87382294757 · 06/06/2019 12:23

That's just my opinion though you don't have to agree with it! Would have thought maybe bring it up in conversation perhaps, but the email thing is a bit much. Or at the time, when the photos were being taken, perhaps.

LoafofSellotape · 06/06/2019 12:25

He cropped pics of the OP and she didn't know photos were being posted of her.

timeisnotaline · 06/06/2019 12:31

She didn’t know when the photos were being taken, so couldn’t address it then. My son had a party last week, I don’t have a single photo of one guests parent on their own much less 4 of the same. And I would never post them on social media.
But, if not fb friends the wife may not see the message. If you’re on a fb group together you could tag her in a comment to check messages , or do you have her WhatsApp?

user87382294757 · 06/06/2019 12:40

It might be quite funny to comment on the actual post / pictures.

TheSecondMrsAshwell · 06/06/2019 12:57

You can report a photo that violates your privacy direct to Facebook

I'll be interested to read what the reply is.

Frownette · 06/06/2019 13:00

757 wasn't trying to be nasty, just didn't see that the OP appears to be anti social media photos and doesn't trust the husband's personality. It was done without her knowledge as well and seems a bit honed in on her.

Oh well, hope you get a resolution soon OP and the photos get taken down.

user87382294757 · 06/06/2019 13:02

I thought going to the wife might sound dodgy- implying there was something going on, might be taken the wrong way. It seems the OP knows the wife though and has chosen to do that, guess they know how it would be taken.

Might have been another way to publicly mention it by writing under the post though! I guess the wife would see it also.

Soola · 06/06/2019 13:23

It’s a google review not a Facebook review.

Why not read the thread properly?!

Soola · 06/06/2019 13:24

My above comment was to @user87382294757 who has posted complete nonsense as they haven’t read the thread properly.

user87382294757 · 06/06/2019 13:58

Well can they not comment on Google reviews then? Confused

Pinotjo · 06/06/2019 14:00

What's happened since, I'm dying to know

ISmellBabies · 06/06/2019 14:06

What a totally weird thing to do. Why even take those photos unless creepy motives, and then why on earth post those ones to a review? There's something wrong with the guy. I'm not surprised you decided to go through the wife tbh, he sounds like someone to avoid.

MsTSwift · 06/06/2019 14:17

I would think you were really weird if you contacted me about something dh had done. Speak to him I am not his keeper

RosaWaiting · 06/06/2019 14:20

MsTSwift normally I'd agree with you, but in this case the OP knows the wife quite well and it gets around contacting Mr Creep directly...and it might be the best way to put him off and get him to take the photos down.

Soola · 06/06/2019 14:20

Some weirdo’s love the trouble they cause and he could well enjoy getting off to a woman contacting him and either being upset with him or getting angry at him taking sly photos of her and posting them online.

If he has a fixation on the op then in his twisted mind he may see the contact from her as her wanting to communicate with him because she likes him regardless that she is actually complaining of his actions.

At least by contacting the wife he knows that the op doesn’t want anything to do with him.

user87382294757 · 06/06/2019 14:44

I'm probably 'speaking nonsense' again but would have thought it would have been an option to contact google reviews to remove the pics.

LazyDaisey · 06/06/2019 16:02

Just have google take your photo down. Femme is wrong - a privately owned pub or restaurant absolutely isn’t the same as A public street or a park and reserves not only the right to kick you out for whatever reason they want but also to prevent you to take any photographs in their establishment.

In the U.K., if any photo is used for commercial purposes including self promotion and stock photography, then the photographer must have the model sign a model release. It doesn’t matter that he may own copyright of the photo, he isn’t allowed to use someone’s face to promote (and even self promote) without their permission.

Even a wedding photographer will have a clause in their contract that you must give permission of you (the model) to the photographer to use your face as part of the photographer’s self promotion/marketing.

So yes, google will swiftly take it down.

Soola · 06/06/2019 16:19

@user87382294757

Yes of course google can take the photo down but that means mr creep gets away with not being told that what he has done is unacceptable.

Why are you so reluctant not to have him brought to book?

He needs to be told in no uncertain terms that

  1. He shouldn’t take photos of people/women without their permission/knowledge.
  1. He shouldn’t upload the photos to be published on the internet without the permission of the woman.
  1. He has deliberately cropped the photos to show only the woman and his reason for doing so must be questioned.

His wife is the best person to speak to him directly about this.

sonjadog · 06/06/2019 16:52

I think the advantage of telling his wife is that it brings it firmly out into the open and clarifies that you can do whatever you like. No manipulating you, no secretive contact between the two of you. Yes, in a way it should be unnecessary to involve his wife, but I think it sends a very clear message to him what who you are and what you stand for.

candlefloozy · 06/06/2019 16:56

How bloody weird. I think there's one of him at every school!

user87382294757 · 06/06/2019 17:00

I just think it's a bit OTT. Maybe google cropped it or something. Who knows. It't not some pervy pic, just a pic of a head / face in a public place. Why make such a drama of it. Think it is a bit embarrassing for the OP of it turns out to be something like this and she is going round suggesting the woman's husband is a perv or something. Might not go well. But there we go.

EAIOU · 06/06/2019 17:02

Did you get a reply OP?

sonjadog · 06/06/2019 17:03

It´s not a pic. It´s four pics. Read the OP.