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How do I deal with a Weird creepy dad from school?

111 replies

SoConfused2019 · 04/06/2019 14:32

My brother calls me at the weekend giggling asking when was the last time you went to a certain local pub by ours. Bit random I thought then he couldn't stop giggling and eventually told me that theres a google review of the place and see photos of me on there too.

I quickly jump on google to check it out thinking he's joking and he's not, it was a kids party of someone in my sons class from last year or even before. I saw the name and recognised it right away, our kids are in the same sports team but i've barely spoken to this guy. his wife see regularly as our children are in the same class but its always her at the school, i'm actually creeped out by it as they do seem to be a facebook family - whatever they're doing there are updates and photos throughout the day! Im completely the opposite.

There are at least 4 photos of me alone, no other mums in them at all, 1 with another child who wasn't mine in the background, but for the most part i'm sitting there not noticing he's taken them, im looking away, on 1 of them im dealing with my own child who was upset but hes cropped him out and just left me. he's then added them to a google review to say the party was great and the pub was fabulous. i'm a little weirded out by this though, and I definitely don't want my photos on google without my permission!! I also dont want it to become a thing as from what I can gather of him he's very sarcastic and if he knew this had got to me would probably refuse to take them down. Can I report them in anyway?

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eddielizzard · 04/06/2019 19:25

Creepy. Good call contacting the wife.

GemmeFatale · 04/06/2019 19:33

In the UK the photographer owns the rights to photos not the ‘model’. If they were taken in a place you could expect a right to privacy your permission might matter, but in a public house during an event, I doubt google would care

JasperTheFriendlyGhost · 04/06/2019 19:47

That’s weird Confused

streeeemline · 04/06/2019 20:22

Fucking weird. I agree re contacting his wife.

Soola · 04/06/2019 20:54

Have you had a reply op?

NerdyBird · 04/06/2019 21:21

Photos are also covered by GDPR, if they show your face. Also if you were at an invitation-only party or private area of the pub you'd have more of an expectation of privacy than just a normal trip to the pub.

SoConfused2019 · 04/06/2019 22:41

No, no reply from her yet.
I sent it through messenger on Facebook and it’s been delivered but not showing as been read as of yet. She may only read messages when at her computer though so may here tomorrow when she’s at work.

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IhaveaBigBum · 05/06/2019 08:55

Shamelessly placemarking lol. I can't wait to see what she says!

Soola · 05/06/2019 17:56

Has she read your message yet, op?

Skyejuly · 05/06/2019 17:58

I would have messaged her aswell!

AlwaysCheddar · 05/06/2019 18:44

Did you screenshot them?

Isawthesignanditopenedupmyeyes · 05/06/2019 18:49

How odd, I wonder if she will reply, it’s probably opened a huge can of worms....

SoConfused2019 · 05/06/2019 21:42

Hi all,

Not marked as read still... I was late this morning on school run so missed her but im aiming to get there tomorrow in person to see her. I know she's always in a rush to get to work though.

Im tempted to just message him in the hope he has messenger on his phone. at least that way she could see I tried to get her first with the timestamp on its.

and yes i did screenshot them. so did my brother unfortunately and is looking forward to putting them On a birthday cake at the make your own stand in Asda. Hmm

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Soola · 05/06/2019 21:47

Don’t message him. He may want contact and then twist it that you are after him.

Can you not put a message on her Facebook page saying

Please check your messenger.

PointlessUsername · 05/06/2019 21:52

What a weird thing for him to do.

JingsMahBucket · 05/06/2019 22:17

@GemmeFatale and @NerdyBird I was wondering how this would play out in terms of GDPR vs. artist’s rights.

LoafofSellotape · 05/06/2019 23:49

Don't message him. Do what a pp suggested and put a message in FB to check messenger. I rarely check my messages on there,it doesn't show on my phone unless I go looking which I rarely do.

CoraPirbright · 06/06/2019 08:10

Do you have any other way of contacting the mother? We have a list of other parents emails/mobiles etc - do you have that? I wouldn’t contact the husband!

AwakeNow · 06/06/2019 08:26

That is creepy! hope his wife checks her fb soon. Good call contacting her, it definitely would be concerning to hear about a dh/dp doing all that.

MsTSwift · 06/06/2019 08:39

Think it’s odd advice to approach wife. It’s not her that put the photos up. She doesn’t control him. What’s she got to do with it?

foreverhanging · 06/06/2019 08:43

Did they reply op?

HelenRivington · 06/06/2019 08:47

Any news?

Soola · 06/06/2019 10:11

@MsTSwift

Think it’s odd advice to approach wife. It’s not her that put the photos up. She doesn’t control him. What’s she got to do with it?

The op is on familiar terms with the wife and doesn’t know the husband.

The husband has done something sinister so the op is sensible in not taking it up with him directly as it could be that he wanted her to contact him.

His actions do involve his wife as he has targeted another woman and she should be aware of that.

user87382294757 · 06/06/2019 11:58

Sounds like creating drama to contact the wife, he just put some pics up of a kids party. Like you are saying there is more to it than this! Hmm.

LoafofSellotape · 06/06/2019 12:06

user87382294757

Read the thread properly,you'll see that's not what's happened at all.