DH keeps waking the baby then sulking

[Firsttimemummy19]

Baby is only 4 months and I'm really trying to establish a little pattern with regards day time naps and it's not easy.

I've explained to DH several times how important naps are for the baby and how we need quiet to try get him off to sleep but almost every-time baby has just nodded off my DH makes some sort of loud noise, like speaking really loudly, dropping something, switching the hoover on !!, sneezing etc. The baby is a light sleeper so each time he startles him and wakes him up meaning I've got to start the lengthy process again or just give up and have a cranky baby.

DH is acting the victim and says he needs to make noises and it's not natural etc, tbh I'm finding him really selfish. Even at bedtime when I'm trying to get the baby to sleep,DH will come up with us and still make noises when he could choose to stay downstairs and make noises all he wants but he would rather be with us. He's driving he mad!

Is it me?!

^ which just proves that all babies are different and require different techniques to settle them. None of them are right or wrong.

DH can't settle him because he never does. Give the baby to DH to settle and then go out for a couple of hours for coffee with a friend or something. He will eventually have to learn.

How much effort has he put in to learning ways to settle the baby? I’ve had EBF bottle/dummy refusers that preferred to feed to sleep, but DH could still settle them with a sling and white noise on his phone and walking about a lot. Took a bit of trial and error to start with though.

Most of you haven't read my posts so it's tiresome keep repeating myself. I don't insist on silence!!!!!
Yes it's a loud starling sneeze.
No I'm not going to express so DH can feed our baby, they are my boobs, I'll feed him thanks.

On that note,I'll leave you all too it 🤷🏻‍♀️

OP I've PM'd you

Many people get woken up by loud noises and i would not want to have to sleep through a vacuum cleaner etc.

Seeing as babies don’t nap forever, why do they have to get used to sleeping through noises? Why not give them the peace that they need!

We were quiet in the house for our dcs’ naps and I would be pissed off if dh made no effort to keep quiet.

They also managed to nap outdoors and in the sling where I couldn’t control the noises around them....

And then they grew out of naps!

Before I had my DC I remember visiting some friends who had a newborn. They had speakers all over the house and it was playing loud opera music. I was amazed to see their baby peacefully sleeping through that lot, but took away a valuable lesson about how adaptable babies are.

Please don't drive a wedge between yourself and your DH.

The baby should be able to adapt around you, not the other way around