WTF? It’s 7.40pm and a teacher has just randomly turned up at my house

[birmanbaby]

To give me new starter forms for DD who is starting reception in September

I already have a DD at the school so if they’re trying to save on postage she could have given them to her.

It’s a bit weird no?

DO you’re children have different surnames to one another? Such as different dads?

Their fraud database might have picked up two different surnames living at the same address.

I’m a teacher and used to be Head of the EYFS in my previous school. We visited the houses of every child and chatted to the parents/ carers about their worries/ expectations etc. It was a way of building a good relationship with the family and showing the child that we’re all working together to educate them so they settle quickly when they join. Also we had a bit of a nosey to see the home environment and behaviour of the children!! We booked it in advance though! Not turning up unannounced at night!!!

I am wondering whether you were given an appointment to come into school to meet the new class teacher but didn’t? This happens at my school and that is where you would receive your envelope/paperwork...

I'd ring the school and tell them what happened and see what they say. Did she definitely say she was a teacher? From her questions though, it sounds pretty much like she was checking you lived there. I would have been weirded out if that had happened to me!

I would want to meet my child's teacher even though it's highly unlikely I'd be able to attend any day time events because of work. I'd still want to meet teacher though and attend parent's evening.

Really!! England is weird. No teacher would be permitted to turn up at a child's home unannounced in Scotland. Home visit's can and do happen but only appointment. And what's all this address checking carry on, Christ, even applying for a mortgage doesn't require a home visit to prove you live there. Never heard anything so stupid in all my life. In Scotland, you go to the catchment school generally unless there is a really really good reason that requires a placing request. Lastly, as her parent you need to be contacting the school in person and meeting this teacher as god knows who she is. Sorry, it's plain creepy.

Is it not possible that's it's not a conspiracy or weird or suspicious? Just a package that needed to get to you, staff saw address and thought, I'll pop that in because I drive past there? I'm not 100% why it's such a big deal. It was just after 7.30, they knocked so you didn't wonder if Hedwig was delivering and then they went. They didn't come in and make themselves toast.
Bloody typical MN over reaction and outrage at nowt

Lastly, as her parent you need to be contacting the school in person and meeting this teacher as god knows who she is.

Do they not have DBS checks in Scotland then?

In Scotland, they still ask you to demonstrate that you live in catchment - though a council tax bill is usually the option rather than a visit. Do people say the postman visited you when he/she drops a letter off?

@birnambaby
I'm in agreement with you, apart from parents evening -if you can make it - what other reason is there to meet a teacher? If there's issues the school will be in touch. Poor teachers having to put up with interfering parents. As a single working mum of 4, I couldn't use my holidays for school assemblies (boring anyway) MN perfect mummies really need to calm theirselves.

I’d feel sorry for the teacher having to do school business at 7.40pm. I agree most likely an address check and what with all this GDPR business may have been told not to put an envelope with childs details on through a letterbox

Ive done this before for nursery because the school does admissions. If the phone number provided doesnt work then you have to send a letter, if theres no response to a letter you have to wait 2 weeks to remove them from the list before offering the next person a place.

People register their children at birth then move etc and dont unregister so if i have one afternoon of ppa to sort the admissions list out it can end up taking half a term to sort the list. Now if parents dont answer/respond to voicemails then i go round and knock - 9 times out of 10 the child has moved and i can remove them immediately. Saved me weeeeeeks of frustration

As a teacher I’ve delivered all sorts of things to children’s houses such as letters, homework (only if they’ve asked for extra if they’re ill etc) coats accidentally left at school On a Friday. I hope the parents thought I was helpful rather than weird!

I don’t think it’s actually all that weird tbh.

@TheCherries, OMG yes! I bet that’s it!

DDs do have different surnames.

@bookworm4, yep they are overworked enough as it is, I play sports with a few primary teachers, I mentioned the not meeting the teacher thing today on our WhatsApp group. They said the best thing ever was when they stopped parents coming in the playground in the mornings and DC had to go in on their own!

There you have it. I would suggest writing a letter to the school thanking them for dropping the pack over and saying your little daughter looks forward to joining her big sister (name her) in fact write both their full names down.

That will help stop any further investigations being carried out wasting yours and their time.

The reason I raised it as a possibility is that happened to a neighbour of mine. Best nip it in the bud asap

Could be a check you actually live there, especially if school is sought after. Have sympathy for the teacher if she was genuinely delivering forms for that reason.

Newschool I don’t go to PTA events/sports day.dont do drop off .I collect from Afterschool

This means I fortunately avoid the school gate politics and the PTA cabal

I’m contactable and fully engaged,and in contact with school by phone,email and if required I would attend during day

I went to parents evenings/assemblies etc for my children think oh came to about 2 parents pms at senior school and that was it. So infant/junior teachers would never have met him and I doubt he knew any of dcs teachers. Thinking about my school days my parents never went to parents pm or assemblies they had their own bu. siness and could not take time out. They worked long hours and My mother came to a careers evening in my last 6 months at senior school and that was it for whole of my school life.

Poor teacher! That can’t be in their job description.

It's to catch out those who live out of catchment, it's not unusual at all. Early morning or evening visits, it's a prosecute able offence.
Doesn't matter that she has a sibling at the school,
I think its good they do this, otherwise children like your own could miss a place because of fake addresses.

Why is it always the mother who gets the flak. Dh is a teacher but when my two were at primary school he worked in another city 50 miles away. PLus his subject is one that involves a lot of extra curricular especially at christmas time. His normal get home time was 7.30pm, when he had after school stuff on it was even later. The only time he got to go to anything at school was the few months he had off sick following a car accident and folowing a tonsillectomy.

Because if a man can’t attend school event because of work,he’s v important/hard working/has work commitments. He embodies a commendable work ethic and cannot be expected to interrupt his busy day

If a woman can’t attend a school event because of work,she’s an avaricious husk who only cares about work,doesn’t care about her poor crying kids. This mum is advised to quit work or go PT. then she’s sagely warned no one lies on a death bed thinking wish I’d worked more

If it’s a village school then yes this was probably an address check by a teacher who lives locally.