WTF? It’s 7.40pm and a teacher has just randomly turned up at my house

[birmanbaby]

To give me new starter forms for DD who is starting reception in September

I already have a DD at the school so if they’re trying to save on postage she could have given them to her.

It’s a bit weird no?

I cannot for the life of me imagine any teacher agreeing to run an errand like this (in the evening as well) for the office staff. I don't know how old the dd you are saying said it was a teacher, but even my mid-junior kids at school seldom differentiate between the adults who work there. It would just be " a teacher said," not "one of the office staff/TAs."

Does seem odd. I wouldn't be put out by it but I wonder why?

We had an evening visit from the Infant and Year One teacher. Our home was on her way home, she decided to save some time and admin by popping by. I gave her tea and some pizza and between us we worked out a plan. Lovely woman, she's since given up teaching as the paperwork is soul destroying but we're still friends.

Do teachers care enough to do this with their evening?

I’ve done similar before. I only live a mile from my school. Many of the children live very near me. I’ve dropped all sorts off on my way home before.

Fresta if you read the original post properly you will see that the forms are for the daughter that is about to start reception so of course the OP won’t know what the teacher looks like!

Its hardly midnight is it?

Rogue OP already has a DD at the school. She doesn’t know what her teacher looks like.

The OP said she didn't know what her other daughter's (the one already in primary school) looked like. Even if the OP works full time it's still surprising that the OP has never met her teacher.

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I do work full time. DDs dad does parents evenings. No I don’t go to PTA fayres/concerts. I drop outside the school in the morning and don’t do pick ups. I’ve met other teachers before but I haven’t met this years teacher yet. I don’t have a need to. I’m not sure it’s that shocking!

I’ll ask DD in the morning if she was a teacher or office staff!

Not meeting your child’s teacher, when the academic year is nearly over, is shocking . Plenty of parents work full time, but still manage to take time off for parents evening, school events etc. That level of disengagement with a child’s education would ring alarm bells if I was a teacher I’m sure. I think that’s a more likely explanation for a brief home visit.
Are you really so uninterested in how and with whom your daughter spends most of her waking hours?

I don’t think my husband met any of my kids teachers throughout their whole school years. He was always very involved just not in the acedemic side of things. He trusted me to do it.

He would watch the kids playing sports or preforming in concerts or whatever though.

I can’t remember anyone ever commenting on it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

That level of disengagement with a child’s education would ring alarm bells if I was a teacher I’m sure

The child’s father goes to parents evenings, so she doesn’t have parents totally disengaged with her education. And some employers are more flexible than others when it comes to booking time off for school events, I’m sure OP won’t be the only parent who can’t make them because of work commitments.

Would you be as shocked about a father who’d never met the teacher or who never went to parents evenings or school events because he was working?

Newschoolnewname No, it's only Mother's who are expected to do everything, a Father not doing school runs, parents evening because he works is perfectly acceptable, a Mother is expected to do both.

Schools themselves don’t allocate/deny places

They do if they’re an academy.

No. The most bizarre part of the story is that a “teacher” has access to s child’s home address and thinks it’s appropriate to just “pop around” in the evening at what is presumably the children’s bedtime.

I really don't see what's wrong with someone knocking at your door in the early evening to drop something off.

Not sure why you think it's a problem.

There are many children I’ve taught where I’ve only met the father at parents evening.
There is one family where I have taught all 5 children and never met the dad once.

Not so odd at all.

If you want a form to get home using a sibling already at the school isn’t always 100% reliable.

I’ve known forms get lost, delayed etc. It can cause endless problems including children not getting in.

So you’d just had a bath - you don’t need to get the bone china teaset for a teacher at the door. We’ve got/had children, don’t always look out best, lead rushed lives.

Sibling priority depends on what is in the entrance criteria. Some things have to be there, others are decided by the governing body. They may take advice from the LA, diocese or ignore it when setting the criteria.

I assumed the OP meant she has never met her older daughters teacher, seeing as the the youngest doesn't have a teacher because she hasn't even got a place at the school yet!

Maybe you need to read the thread properly rogue

I’ve often dropped off stuff when I lived in the same neighbourhood as the school. One of my specialities was returning toys that had got stuck on roofs and in trees and bushes. I wouldn’t have thought twice about dropping off a very important form and handing it over to the person.
Not odd for OP not to recognise the teacher, sounds like she’s splitting the parenting role effectively. I did similar with a SAHP and me working from 7-6.

I don’t think it’s odd that a parent hasn’t met their child’s class teacher because their work commitments mean they can’t make it to any school events.

What I think is odd is that the OP says she “doesn’t need to”.

Strange time if not pre-arranged. I would be concerned that a teacher cannot go at any other time if true. Also that a dog could be aggressive.