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Women who don’t wear makeup, what do you honestly think about women who do?

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ifigoup · 07/05/2019 19:42

I wear makeup every day apart from rare days when I’m not going to be leaving the house at all. In my line of work, it’s more common for women not to wear makeup than to wear it, and I often wonder what those women who don’t wear it think of me. (I have almost zero interest in what men think about women’s choices of makeup, dress etc.)

When I see women not wearing makeup, I occasionally think, “Gosh, she looks a bit tired”, or “Her skin looks a bit sore”, but my overwhelming thought is either nothing whatsoever, or vague jealousy at women who can put their public “work” selves on without feeling the need to wear makeup.

I don’t wear super-heavy makeup, but you’d definitely know I was wearing it: I like a 50s style with winged eyeliner etc., and sometimes bright lipstick. It’s part of my “look”, and I feel a bit naked without it.

That said, I do realise it’s not unproblematic that I feel unfinished without it on. It bothers me that I know I objectively look better with it (because if I ever don’t wear my signature eyeliner, for example, people always ask if I’m feeling ill). It bothers me that men are allowed to look as shit and haggard as they like and nobody suggests they should pretty themselves up, yet women who look shit and haggard often become objects of pity.

If you’re a woman who never or rarely wears makeup, what do you think of women who always do? My assumption is that you either don’t care, or that you probably feel a bit sorry for us for having to put “war paint” on to face the world. Or maybe you feel like women who wear makeup are a bit superficial.

But am I wrong? Do you actually feel intimidated, or suspect makeup wearers are judging you for not wearing it? Or something else entirely?

(I know this sounds a bit like stuff a journo would ask, but I promise I’m not the Daily Mail and am just curious in my own right.)

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lololove · 07/05/2019 21:18

I don't wear make up at all. It's not because I don't want to because I would like to be able to accent things (for example, I have beautifully long natural eyelashes so I'd like to do things with my eyes) but because I physically cant.

I can't because I have hyperhidrosis and have since I was 14 years old. It can be deepest darkest winter and snowing outside and I can be bright red and sweating profusely. Its deeply unpleasant and humiliating because it causes people to say things /look at me. I've been followed round the shops because they think I'm a shop lifter when it's December and im bright red and sweating visibly. I have taken (and do take) medication but there's no medicine that will make it stop 100 percent.

Personally I don't look at other women and think anything at all about them wearing or not wearing make up. I don't notice most of the time tbh.

greatandpowerfulozma · 07/05/2019 21:19

@yesqueen thank you for answering my questions. Smile

Toner still confuses me though. So it’s cleanser to clean off your cleanser?? And certain ones are also moisturiser you put on before your moisturiser? Confused

Singleandproud · 07/05/2019 21:20

I work with teenagers, one day a girl (15 year old) was telling me how she couldn’t go out the house without wearing a full face of make-up. It made me really sad that she felt like that and she certainly isn’t the only one. I purposefully haven’t worn make-up to work since that day.I don’t know whether the students notice but I hope they realise make up isn’t essential.

As for grown women I have no opinion on what they chose to put or not put on their faces.

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ReganSomerset · 07/05/2019 21:20

I'm impressed by their ability to organise their mornings and their determination to get out of bed earlier than strictly necessary.

kalinkafoxtrot45 · 07/05/2019 21:21

I love makeup and have since I was a little girl. But as I get older I find I’m wearing less and just keeping it very simple for everyday. A little foundation to even skin tone, dab of powder on nose, eyebrows, mascara, a little lipstick. 5 minutes tops, I’ll redo lippy after eating but mostly I prefer not to think about it for the rest of the day. Can’t be bothered faffing around or doing any of that contouring stuff, and I hate how fake nails and lashes feel.

StevieNicks1976 · 07/05/2019 21:22

Come on, OP - engage in the conversation you started or we'll think you're a shitty Daily Mail journo!

If someone has skillfully applied make-up, I'll be slightly envious.

If they have false eye lashes, I won't be able to stop staring at them.

Whoopstheregomyinsides · 07/05/2019 21:27

I’m jealous of those who don’t wear it because I hate the faff of putting it on- I don’t even wear a lot but when I don’t bother I get “ooh you look ill whoops”! Charming. So I keep wearing at least foundation and powder

MiddleClassProblem · 07/05/2019 21:30

I don’t wear make up. Don’t like the smell or the feel. I don’t wear hats either. Don’t like the feel or the static hair it gives me. I don’t wear jewellery with gems in. Just not what I’m drawn to. If I saw someone in a hat, why would I give a shit? If I saw someone with a gemstone necklace, why would I give a shit? It’s the same with make up or anything that someone chooses to wear...

pinkboa · 07/05/2019 21:31

Don't care unless it's badly done then it's hard not to look.

I don't believe I look polished with make up... I look polished because I put myself together.... I prefer no make up.... I invested a long time ago in my skin care.

DefinatelyAWeeGobshite · 07/05/2019 21:36

I do wear makeup, fairly minimal on day shift and some more when I’m out for the day/night with friends/husband.

I’d say more than half the week I’m makeup free and if I’m night shift that week I don’t wear any makeup even if I’m out for the day with the kids.

There’s a few in my work who wear a lot of makeup, it looks great on them but my only thought is - I wonder how long it takes! Actually I asked one of the girls I work with and she says it takes her a good 45 minutes just on makeup, she’s beautiful without it too but insecure if she doesn’t have it on.

ClaireElizabethBeuchampFraser · 07/05/2019 21:37

Like yourself it doesn’t really cross my mind. I will admit to being shocked recently at the effort, time and layers required in makeup today. My young friend recently got ready at mine for a night out and I was surprised at how different she looked and the time involved (not to mention the tools, makeup etc with primer and contouring etc, not to mention the washi tape for eye makeup.) another friend recently did my makeup practising for a special event of mine and I honestly couldn’t reconcile me with makeup as me. I am on the spectrum and my two (also autistic) children were horrified and asked me to wash it off as I didn’t look like me. I opted to go for a very natural look to the event (barely there look) and both children and myself were happier with that.

Both of my friends are beautiful young woman, they look stunning without makeup and don’t need it by any means. They look beautiful with the makeup too, they just look like different people. But then my friends don’t wear makeup every day, just on nights out or special occasions.

Can I ask do you find you get regular breakouts with wearing makeup all the time? Even wearing very little makeup at the weekend my skin is a mess today (despite properly removing/ cleansing etc).

Andromeida59 · 07/05/2019 21:39

I wear makeup on occasion. The only time I'll think about someone else wearing make up is if it's particularly striking.

YesQueen · 07/05/2019 21:42

@greatandpowerfulozma it used to be people used toner as an astringent to tighten/close pores
Now it's mostly acid types (which are chemical exfoliants which remove dead skin cells) or hydrating ones (which feel nice and add another layer of moisture)

happymummy12345 · 07/05/2019 21:43

I've never worn makeup, never will wear makeup. But I don't have an opinion on it at all.

headinhands · 07/05/2019 21:45

When I see women not wearing makeup, I occasionally think, “Gosh, she looks a bit tired”

Do you think all men look tired? (The men who don't wear makeup.)

GrumpyOldMare · 07/05/2019 21:45

I really don't care or notice most of the time. If you like wearing make up for whatever reason,it's up to you. It can look lovely.

The only time I really notice is if "you" look as if you are "caked" in it. Foundation I think it is.

It's not for me, I don't like the feeling of it on my skin, it feels icky.

If people think I look tired/pale/ill with my naked face, that's possibly because I am at that moment in time.

JoeElliotsMullet · 07/05/2019 21:45

If I notice a nicely made-up face I will admire and be a bit jealous of the owner's skill and effort.

If I notice sharpie eyebrows and bad contouring and glittery foundations that just makes them look clammy then i think oh that's a shame.

If I notice red or very pink eyeshadow (how and why is that a thing?) I will think oh no she has been crying/has conjunctivitis and then realise... oh no, it's actually her makeup.

I don't wear make up very often. I am too busy judging everyone else who does Grin

MrTumblesSpottyHag · 07/05/2019 21:47

I don't really think about it tbh. The only time I give it more than a passing thought is if I know that people actually can't go out without it. So I find it really sad and unhealthy that my DSIS has missed things or made her DC late for stuff because she cannot leave the house without makeup on.
Personally I don't wear it because a) I have pretty good skin
b) I don't think it's good for your skin to have stuff plastered over it all the time
c) I'm too lazy/would rather be doing something else with my time (mumsnetting!)

MrTumblesSpottyHag · 07/05/2019 21:52

I did once spot a woman at the pool while I was watching DC swim. She had FULL glam on- big hair, overlined lips, massive false eyelashes and full on contoured face. She was there training to be a swimming teacher. In the water. With splashing children.
I almost wanted to hang around to see what she'd look like afterwards but DC's lesson finished just before she got started 😭
I have to admit that I did think to myself that she looked ridiculous for the job that she was doing.

Sofagirl · 07/05/2019 21:53

I appreciate other people’s efforts and beauty - it’s the amount of time people take over hair styling that really makes me impressed

I don’t like it when women put makeup on when they’re on the bus or tube

Definitely not classy!

ifigoup · 07/05/2019 21:59

Thanks for indulging my curiosity, everyone. It is basically as I thought which is that no-one really cares. I’m good with that.

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vintanner · 07/05/2019 22:13

Never really notice tbh, only if the makeup is ott then it's like omg in my head.

I go out without makeup if I want to and wear it if I want to.

MollyYouInDangerGirl · 07/05/2019 22:23

I dont really think about it at all, occasionally if I'm in for an early meeting and someone comes in with a full face of make up I might fleetingly think "she must have got up early" but that's about it.

orangejuiced · 07/05/2019 22:46

I love make up. I put on a full face every day for work and less at the weekends. I wear it because I like choosing the colours blending the shades of eye shadow etc. It takes me ten minutes in the morning, I only top up on lip stain during the day.

If I'm going out I'll spend longer on make up but that's because I really enjoy it, I'll add more shades to my eyes and be a bit less natural than for work.

I don't spend a fortune on it because I choose palettes carefully and read reviews etc and most lasts ages. I sound a bit ott Blush

I never judge someone who does or doesnt wear make up, whatever floats your boat!

ifigoup · 07/05/2019 23:20

People who don’t wear makeup, do you do much body grooming of other kinds? Dye your hair, wax your pubes etc? I don’t, as I guess I only have a really limited capacity (am lazy) for body enhancement, and “spend” it all (effort, I mean) on makeup.

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