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Women who don’t wear makeup, what do you honestly think about women who do?

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ifigoup · 07/05/2019 19:42

I wear makeup every day apart from rare days when I’m not going to be leaving the house at all. In my line of work, it’s more common for women not to wear makeup than to wear it, and I often wonder what those women who don’t wear it think of me. (I have almost zero interest in what men think about women’s choices of makeup, dress etc.)

When I see women not wearing makeup, I occasionally think, “Gosh, she looks a bit tired”, or “Her skin looks a bit sore”, but my overwhelming thought is either nothing whatsoever, or vague jealousy at women who can put their public “work” selves on without feeling the need to wear makeup.

I don’t wear super-heavy makeup, but you’d definitely know I was wearing it: I like a 50s style with winged eyeliner etc., and sometimes bright lipstick. It’s part of my “look”, and I feel a bit naked without it.

That said, I do realise it’s not unproblematic that I feel unfinished without it on. It bothers me that I know I objectively look better with it (because if I ever don’t wear my signature eyeliner, for example, people always ask if I’m feeling ill). It bothers me that men are allowed to look as shit and haggard as they like and nobody suggests they should pretty themselves up, yet women who look shit and haggard often become objects of pity.

If you’re a woman who never or rarely wears makeup, what do you think of women who always do? My assumption is that you either don’t care, or that you probably feel a bit sorry for us for having to put “war paint” on to face the world. Or maybe you feel like women who wear makeup are a bit superficial.

But am I wrong? Do you actually feel intimidated, or suspect makeup wearers are judging you for not wearing it? Or something else entirely?

(I know this sounds a bit like stuff a journo would ask, but I promise I’m not the Daily Mail and am just curious in my own right.)

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CrumpetyTea · 10/05/2019 09:18

I rarely notice tbh but

  1. Some women have a good touch and can use their makeup to really enhance their looks and I am really envious
  2. too much makeup and I generally would make totally unwarranted assumptions about the woman /her job etc (and try and fight the prejudices) 3)Statement makeup like yours- or say Goth makeup - sometimes I admire it but it does always strike me as a lot of effort and basically creates a disguise I also am confused by women in say a gym who seem to take as much time to put their makeup as it does me to shower/dress or even do my work out!
GabrielleNelson · 10/05/2019 09:27

How did you manage not to know anything at all about makeup? Are you female??

No wonder young women are deeply confused about gender and desperate to identify out of 'womanhood' if others think knowing about makeup is an essential part of being female.

I know next to nothing about makeup because I find it deeply tedious and was lucky enough to grow up in a time before social media, selfies and all the other awful stuff young women now are pressured by. My mum didn't wear it, my other female relatives didn't wear it, beyond a dab of powder and a quick application of lipstick.

Micah, your friend would have had a case under the Sex Discrimination Act, surely? There could be no comparable feedback for a man. I feel quite certain that a man turning up for interview with a full face of makeup on would be ruled out straight away, if he didn't identify as female.

NeverSayFreelance · 10/05/2019 09:50

I think varying things.

  1. That woman can do whatever they want and good on them for doing so.
  1. It's an art form in itself and one I have no hope of ever achieving for myself. I don't even know what make up goes where Blush
  1. It's sad that some women feel vulnerable without make up. All women are beautiful and do not need to hide behind make up - but if that make up gives you extra confidence in yourself then by all means wear it and own it like the queen you are.

I wish society didn't expect women to be made up - but I don't judge people for doing it. It's a personal choice.

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YesQueen · 10/05/2019 09:51

@bluebluezoo I wear factor 50 under makeup
If I was going swimming or somewhere hot, I would wear no makeup (or for holiday then eye makeup but no foundation)

@BertieBotts not per day! £10 for the lot which lasts however long it lasts, you don't replace foundation/eyeshadow daily!

floribunda18 · 10/05/2019 10:07

People with full face make up during the day, I think they are probably vain.

I am vain. What of it?

ImMeantToBeWorking · 10/05/2019 10:27

I don'e wear makeup on a daily basis because I work in a male dominated industry. Most women in my field don't wear make up.

If I see someone who does I think fair fucks to them, I would rather an extra 20mins or half an hour in bed than a full face of makeup.

If I was going out at the weekend I would wear it, but not just to the shop or anything like that!! The effort of it like!! Plus I an not great at doing it either! lol

TheBitchOfTheVicar · 10/05/2019 12:12

If I ever get talking to a friend/acquaintance about it, they invariably say, 'but you don't need to! You're so lucky', or similar.

But I think to myself, neither do you. I just don't understand it.

AlaskanOilBaron · 10/05/2019 12:40

I am vain. What of it?

Grin I'm with floribunda

Sewrainbow · 10/05/2019 15:59

Can't say I thi k about it or even notice unless trowelled on like cement!

Sometimes I wonder what some women think of me when I usually don't where it, but I just can't be bothered to do it everyday and whilst I do sometimes feel a bit more together with it, I don't think it would do my skin any good to where it regularly.

Pannalash · 10/05/2019 16:06

‘skin looks a bit sore’? Hmm FFS

FiremanKing · 10/05/2019 16:10

No one/society does not pressurise me to wear make up!

How patronising.

I wear it to enhance some features, disguise others and enjoy the process of buying cosmetics, applying them and the end result.

It’s like I’ve painted a picture when I’ve finished, a great sense of achievement! Grin

I wear it to please me and no one else. Oh ok I do also don’t want to scare the horses! Wink

BarbedBloom · 10/05/2019 16:12

I like wearing and playing with makeup. Takes me five minutes in the morning to quickly put on my cushion foundation, mascara and tinted lip products. I don't reapply during the day. I only do highlight/blush/eyebrows etc for an evening out.

I wear SPF as a base, if it is a hot day I set my makeup with powder and setting spray and it is fine. However I don't wear it if I am going swimming. I spend a lot of time on skincare so I am happy enough to go without makeup if I can't be bothered.

I don't judge other people either way. Each person makes their own decision

GabrielleNelson · 10/05/2019 16:34

I wear it to please me and no one else. Oh ok I do also don’t want to scare the horses!

Threads like this always include remarks like that. Women without makeup aren't frightening or ugly. I genuinely find it worrying that so many women think they aren't good enough unless they've got makeup on. And at the risk of sounding like a broken record, this is only an issue for women and girls. Hardly any men wear makeup. They may perhaps have a grooming regime but they don't seem to worry that they can't leave the house with their naked skin showing. They don't get turned down for jobs because they didn't spend an hour applying makeup that morning.

BertieBotts · 10/05/2019 16:37

Oh right. You said "For a full face" so I thought that was like the cost breakdown per application :o

ladypete · 10/05/2019 16:52

How “made up” are we talking?

I do wear makeup, but have a different thought on each of the following (for example). I’d be more likely to pity someone with terribly applied makeup, and admire someone who had done such a good job you could barely tell it was on. This obviously changes for an event or evening look where you might want to look made up.

Just my thoughts anyway.

Women who don’t wear makeup, what do you honestly think about women who do?
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FiremanKing · 10/05/2019 16:57

Women, divide yourselves into ever decreasing and more divisive sub categories so that we, your patriarchal overlords may more easily control you

What is this ^^ garbage? Every man I’ve ever had a discussion about me/women wearing make up has preferred no make up or as natural as possible make up.

More feminist nonsense.

EmpressLesbianInChair · 10/05/2019 17:00

I wear it to please me and no one else. Oh ok I do also don’t want to scare the horses!

Right....

I don't want to scare horses either. So when I encounter them when I'm out running, I don't get too close and always give way if our paths are crossing.

As yet no horse has panicked at the sight of my makeup-less face.

FiremanKing · 10/05/2019 17:20

EmpressLesbianInChair

It’s a phrase. Love how you’ve taken it literally! Grin

YesQueen · 10/05/2019 17:22

I don't know, my horse has a definite HmmHmm expression if I wear something a bit odd or smell different!

Weepingwillow5 · 10/05/2019 17:27

I don’t think about it - don’t notice unless they’ve over done it .

Occassionally I wonder whether they have a negative opinion on my lack of make up . It doesn’t last long - I am happy in my own skin.

GabrielleNelson · 10/05/2019 17:36

I am too, Weepingwillow5, but it would worry me if anybody was losing out on work because of a lack of makeup or heels, or being judged as 'unprofessional' and 'lacking in self-respect'.

EmpressLesbianInChair · 10/05/2019 17:42

FiremanKing

Yes, I know!

FiremanKing · 10/05/2019 17:56

EmpressLesbianInChair

Oh! Sorry.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 10/05/2019 18:21

What happens if you get too hot or exercise? Does it come off with sweat? I don’t wear makeup to exercise. Do you carry it around with you to reapply? I might take a lipstick with me for a special night out but otherwise no I don’t carry it around with me. Do you wear it every day and ig not, when can you go without?. I don’t wear it if I don’t feel like it. Do you feel ugly on those days? No. Does it cost a lot?. I probably spend about £50 per year on actual makeup, more on skincare. Do you wear suncream in Summer?. Yes. Factor 50 on sunny holiday, factor 30 in summer U.K., factor 15 at all other times. “How do you wash your face?” With cleanser for makeup and facial soap and water when no makeup. Does it rub off on clothes or when you cuddle kids... No. I’ve (very rarely) ended up going to bed with my ‘full face’ on and my white pillowcase is fine but I wear quite good quality products and it isn’t piled on with a trowel.

Over the course of a year I definitely have MANY more makeup free days than made up days. In the Easter holidays I didn’t wear make up once!

HoozTurnIsIt · 10/05/2019 18:21

floribunda Nothing wrong with vanity, it's refreshing to hear someone admit it though!
I find it hard to identify with the idea that other people are looking at me. I seldom look in a mirror except to put a brush through my hair in the morning but I find it interesting that some people, men and women, will always glance at themselves if they pass a mirror.

Every man I’ve ever had a discussion about me/women wearing make up has preferred no make up or as natural as possible make up Yes same here.

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