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Women who don’t wear makeup, what do you honestly think about women who do?

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ifigoup · 07/05/2019 19:42

I wear makeup every day apart from rare days when I’m not going to be leaving the house at all. In my line of work, it’s more common for women not to wear makeup than to wear it, and I often wonder what those women who don’t wear it think of me. (I have almost zero interest in what men think about women’s choices of makeup, dress etc.)

When I see women not wearing makeup, I occasionally think, “Gosh, she looks a bit tired”, or “Her skin looks a bit sore”, but my overwhelming thought is either nothing whatsoever, or vague jealousy at women who can put their public “work” selves on without feeling the need to wear makeup.

I don’t wear super-heavy makeup, but you’d definitely know I was wearing it: I like a 50s style with winged eyeliner etc., and sometimes bright lipstick. It’s part of my “look”, and I feel a bit naked without it.

That said, I do realise it’s not unproblematic that I feel unfinished without it on. It bothers me that I know I objectively look better with it (because if I ever don’t wear my signature eyeliner, for example, people always ask if I’m feeling ill). It bothers me that men are allowed to look as shit and haggard as they like and nobody suggests they should pretty themselves up, yet women who look shit and haggard often become objects of pity.

If you’re a woman who never or rarely wears makeup, what do you think of women who always do? My assumption is that you either don’t care, or that you probably feel a bit sorry for us for having to put “war paint” on to face the world. Or maybe you feel like women who wear makeup are a bit superficial.

But am I wrong? Do you actually feel intimidated, or suspect makeup wearers are judging you for not wearing it? Or something else entirely?

(I know this sounds a bit like stuff a journo would ask, but I promise I’m not the Daily Mail and am just curious in my own right.)

OP posts:
Judystilldreamsofhorses · 07/05/2019 20:58

This is a really interesting thread, OP.

I am a makeup wearer, not a huge amount of face or eye makeup, but I absolutely always wear red lipstick - it’s just part of my look, and I wouldn’t go out without it. I never wear makeup at home, think I look fine without it, but once it’s on I am ready for my day. (Also, I love makeup, I love buying new things, reading about products online or in magazines, and plotting what I will buy next.)

It takes me 15 minutes from getting out of the shower to have makeup on and dry/styled hair, and i only ever touch up lipstick during the day.

Cailleachbeag · 07/05/2019 20:58

I don't wear make up because I dislike how it feels on my skin. Anytime I do wear it, I always feel like a bit of a fraud and think 'everyone knows this is not my face'. It doesn't feel truthful if that makes sense?! I'm aware that probably makes me sound a bit odd.

But I don't judge women who wear it or feel that 'untruthfulness' applies to them. I usually admire their skill in applying it!

WineGummyBear · 07/05/2019 20:59

I give it very little thought.

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PickAChew · 07/05/2019 21:01

I couldn't give a shit, but I might inwardly smirk at the occasional comedy slug brow.

drspouse · 07/05/2019 21:03

I feel a bit jealous as I used to wear light makeup that I liked and had pretty much perfected but it now makes my eyes really itchy.

Drogosnextwife · 07/05/2019 21:03

I used to wear make up every day, now I only wear it a few times a month. I look at women who wear make up and think I wish I could be bothered doing that every morning.

BertieBotts · 07/05/2019 21:03

If I really think about the idea of wearing make up every day I think people must have a lot more money than me. And waste less time on the internet.

wizzywig · 07/05/2019 21:05

I notice if women arent wearing makeup but i dont judge them for it. But i admit, i do sometimes think, with a smidge of xyz you'd look so much better.

KennDodd · 07/05/2019 21:05

I think women just about always look better without it.

happyhillock · 07/05/2019 21:06

I used to wear make up every day but now i can't be bothered only wear it now when going out,

MeltedEggMum · 07/05/2019 21:06

Firstly I probably wouldn't even notice. If I did notice I would probably be reminded how much I dislike the feel of it on my own face and vaguely wonder how other people manage to not rub theirs off by midday. I also think about costs and feel glad to spend my money on other things like chocolate.

Is that judgemental? Mostly I just don't care.

Dippypippy1980 · 07/05/2019 21:07

That they have more time in the mornings than I do😊😊

Newbie1981 · 07/05/2019 21:07

In just grateful I don't have to go through that rigmarole daily, such a ball ache! not because I'm amazing looking or anything, I just never have apart from a tiny bit on a night out.

I also think skin tends to age with loads of makeup but if just a bit every day then I don't really have an opinion

Adversecamber22 · 07/05/2019 21:08

I don’t think much about make up apart from the fact I’m allergic to a lot of it so buy only Clinique. A doctor told me when I was going for a work medical that it was exceptionally bad for skin.

I suppose the one thing that reading through this thread has made me wonder about is that there people who will never leave the house unless made up and I’m glad I don’t feel the compulsion.

wildcherries · 07/05/2019 21:10

I notice if the orange is too much ... and I will never understand the painted on eyebrows. But I couldn't care less what other women do, it's their choice.

I have been judged before for not wearing makeup. It's not a nice feeling, and people have asked if I'm tired. I just answer that generally yes, but that's to do with the chronic pain, and makeup won't hide that ...

Fraxion · 07/05/2019 21:10

I don't take notice of anyone's makeup unless it's particularly bad like the hideous eyebrows mentioned before but each to their own. I used to never go out the door without makeup then I had my daughter and didn't have the time to fanny about doing my face so I stopped wearing it for a long time. I now wear very little and only when I go out. Luckily I have been blessed with nice skin.

Unescorted · 07/05/2019 21:11

It doesn't register. I don't have time to worry about how other people choose to look.

If you asked me what I think about wearing make up , then I think it is a waste. A waste of time, money and resources (rare earths and fossil fuels).

81Byerley · 07/05/2019 21:11

I often think "I wish I had the skill and patience. Mostly I think "Why haven't they rubbed eye make up all over their faces?" (I'm constantly rubbing my eyes)

floraloctopus · 07/05/2019 21:11

It's their choice just like not wearing make up is my choice.

Babyg1995 · 07/05/2019 21:12

I wear make up most days it definitely makes me look better and feel better when I have my make up done some women look great with and without it when I don't wear it I get Alot of oh you looked knackered or are you not feeling well comments 😂

DontDribbleOnTheCarpet · 07/05/2019 21:13

Like a few others, I only notice extremes. Even then I don't give it much of a though, I just notice.
Mostly, I think that if I have the right to not wear makeup then I have to defend the right of other women to wear it, because it isn't the makeup that matters, it's the choice.

bluebluezoo · 07/05/2019 21:13

I don't wear make up because I dislike how it feels on my skin. Anytime I do wear it, I always feel like a bit of a fraud and think 'everyone knows this is not my face'. It doesn't feel truthful if that makes sense?! I'm aware that probably makes me sound a bit odd

Same for me. In my teens and 20’s i enjoyed playing around with “looks”- anything from goth to glitter. But only when heading to a nightclub Grin

These days i generally wonder how people can be arsed to get up and faff with make up. Plus all the eyebrow waxing and eyelash tinting stuff that seems to go with, and the reapplying. Must take up so much time.

I also tend to think people look far, far better without make up.

rubyroot · 07/05/2019 21:14

Not a lot- apart from great that they have the confidence to go without make up. Previously I wouldn’t be seen dead at work without my make up on. However, now I have my little one I need to make every second count so the time I spent doing make up is spent working in the morning and then I can get home and spend the evening with my kid. I’ve surprised myself and now I don’t care- or I’ve let myself go! Wotever Grin

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