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Women who don’t wear makeup, what do you honestly think about women who do?

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ifigoup · 07/05/2019 19:42

I wear makeup every day apart from rare days when I’m not going to be leaving the house at all. In my line of work, it’s more common for women not to wear makeup than to wear it, and I often wonder what those women who don’t wear it think of me. (I have almost zero interest in what men think about women’s choices of makeup, dress etc.)

When I see women not wearing makeup, I occasionally think, “Gosh, she looks a bit tired”, or “Her skin looks a bit sore”, but my overwhelming thought is either nothing whatsoever, or vague jealousy at women who can put their public “work” selves on without feeling the need to wear makeup.

I don’t wear super-heavy makeup, but you’d definitely know I was wearing it: I like a 50s style with winged eyeliner etc., and sometimes bright lipstick. It’s part of my “look”, and I feel a bit naked without it.

That said, I do realise it’s not unproblematic that I feel unfinished without it on. It bothers me that I know I objectively look better with it (because if I ever don’t wear my signature eyeliner, for example, people always ask if I’m feeling ill). It bothers me that men are allowed to look as shit and haggard as they like and nobody suggests they should pretty themselves up, yet women who look shit and haggard often become objects of pity.

If you’re a woman who never or rarely wears makeup, what do you think of women who always do? My assumption is that you either don’t care, or that you probably feel a bit sorry for us for having to put “war paint” on to face the world. Or maybe you feel like women who wear makeup are a bit superficial.

But am I wrong? Do you actually feel intimidated, or suspect makeup wearers are judging you for not wearing it? Or something else entirely?

(I know this sounds a bit like stuff a journo would ask, but I promise I’m not the Daily Mail and am just curious in my own right.)

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dreichuplands · 08/05/2019 14:42

I wear some from time to time but I give it almost no thoughts, either on myself or someone else. I couldn't be bothered wearing it everyday and I can't be bothered judging someone else who does.

FudgeBrownie2019 · 08/05/2019 14:47

I feel rather sorry for people who are so obsessed with appearance that they waste so much valuable time on make up etc that could be spent doing something far more interesting or important

I feel rather sorry for people who need to smugly pronounce bullshit like this as though they're superior humans. If you've got time on your hands to think such unkind thoughts about others entirely unconnected with them, you're obviously lacking something in your own life.

dreichuplands · 08/05/2019 14:50

I don't spend the time freed up from not putting makeup on doing anything life changing, just sleeping, drinking coffee and checking my phone.

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Catchingbentcoppers · 08/05/2019 14:56

I don't spend the time freed up from not putting makeup on doing anything life changing, just sleeping, drinking coffee and checking my phone.

You mean you don't spend that 15 mins rescuing abandon puppies @dreichuplands? 😉

bibbidybob · 08/05/2019 14:59

Never worn make up and I'm mid 40s. I honestly don't think anything about women wearing make up. I just don't see the point, so don't wear it!
I've had a few comments from make up wearing women... dh's friend's wife once said "bibbidy could look really attractive with make up on" Hmm oh gee thanks.
"You're so brave going out with no make up" er....Why? Because I look so ugly without make up?

UnderTheSeaWithMe · 08/05/2019 15:04

Sniping, judging and criticising each other. While we tolerate this behaviour, women are never going to achieve equality in the world. You wouldn't get men carrying on like that.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 08/05/2019 15:05

Generally, I wonder how on earth women with makeup and perfect hair find the time!

Less than half an hour after DH gets out of the shower (so I can get in) I am downstairs. That’s, shower, hair wash, skincare, make up (can’t bear foundation so a light powder, blush, eyeshadow, eyeliner and mascara), clothes on, blow dry hair, jewellery on, nag the teen boy to get a move on and I’m ready to make my lunch for work.

I’m intrigued by all the “touching up” people talk about! My makeup doesn’t need any “touching up” during the day except if it’s a “special” occasion and I’ve put lipstick on then that will need touching up but that’s all. I don’t take my makeup out with me.

redstapler · 08/05/2019 15:09

I last wore makeup when I got married 15 years ago. I give almost no thought to what other women wear on their faces other than cringing at very obvious tide lines which I think look awful.

floribunda18 · 08/05/2019 15:12

I probably spend more time going to the toilet during the day than I do putting on make-up. Valuable time my arse. Literally. I'm really grateful for it on days when otherwise I'd look like a neurotic panda.

Gabrielknight · 08/05/2019 15:13

Don't really think anything tbh. Unless it's plastered on n looks ridiculous. I sometimes think about the time it must take n how much some of it costs. But I don't care tbh

alltheeastereggs · 08/05/2019 15:22

Honestly I admire women who look like they've got their s**t together, whether that's make up, shiny shoes, nails done or whatever. The ones who are not picking porridge out of their hair or catching the bus with wet hair.

Rather big headedly I think I look "too pretty" wearing make up during the day, like "who are you trying to impress?"

Think I get taken more seriously with no make up & a few wrinkles (healthcare related public sector job) I do dye my hair blonde. I wear flat shoes (for comfort) rather than any statement.

dumdumdeedum · 08/05/2019 15:33

I don't wear it often maybe for a wedding etc. I look much better with make-up. I'm just lazy. I often think people who wear heavy make-up daily must be morning people.

GarlicGrace · 08/05/2019 15:45

Nothing! But I had to work on that. Have been 'groomed' to the hilt for decades and felt insecure if I went any further than the corner shop with no makeup. Then I realised this was a bit barmy, so started going to work and eventually out in the evenings (shock! horror!) without it. Found it made very little difference so why bother?

Now I'm a total slob Grin I admire really well-done makeup and would surreptitiously examine how the hell you manage to get winged eyeliner in the right place. I think women who've made as much effort as I used to make look nice, but am rather pleased I now know it isn't necessary.

GarlicGrace · 08/05/2019 15:46

alltheeastereggs I think I look "too pretty" wearing make up during the day, like "who are you trying to impress?" - I love this! Good for you.

floribunda18 · 08/05/2019 15:47

Samantha Brick, there.

mogloveseggs · 08/05/2019 15:49

Each to their own. Dd wears lots (not for school). She's very very good at it though and it may well be a career choice. She very occasionally makes me up. I always look nice, but it feels wrong these days.

GarlicGrace · 08/05/2019 15:49

floribunda18 😂😂

floribunda18 · 08/05/2019 15:49

In case anyone has forgotten, Samantha Brick:

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2124246/Samantha-Brick-downsides-looking-pretty-Why-women-hate-beautiful.html

Just too beowtiful for yow.

QueenBlueberries · 08/05/2019 15:51

I don't generally think about it, I don't wear make up but if someone has nice make up that really suit their skin tone/look I'll think 'that looks nice'.

I have to admit though to judge a bit when someone wears too much make up. Or those mile-long fake eyelashes (when not on a night out). Or those who have snail-like massive eyebrows... Wow I do judge way too much.

RomanyQueen1 · 08/05/2019 16:03

Tbh, I only ever judge if it's applied wrong or wrong colours used. because I think if you are going to wear it everyday then you should be getting it right.
I only wear it when going out and have had to do some youtube research recently as will be wearing it more soon, due to new work.

I think lots of women look absolutely lovely in make up and if it gives them confidence and makes them feel good then who is anybody to judge them.

KittensinaBlender · 08/05/2019 16:06

I mostly don’t notice when faced with an individual although I do sometimes ponder the effect of all those chemicals and pigments on a persons skin day in and day out.

It also bothers me to think about all the plastics and chemicals that end up floating in the environment for all the potions, unguents and make-up that society seems to deem necessary for women (mostly) to look “presentable” but I don’t attribute that to a singular person and understand why people feel pressure to conform.

I’m fairly crunchy in my outlook and it comes with a hefty dose of not caring what other people think about my looks.

riotsnotdietsx · 08/05/2019 16:28

Okay I only read the first load of posts but does nobody feel sad for women feeling they have to spend all this time putting paint on their face?
I do.

Happyspud · 08/05/2019 16:37

Riots yes.

aintnothinbutagstring · 08/05/2019 17:09

Normal level of makeup, individual choice, don't judge. Full on Rupaul jobby with contouring, fake lashes and Scouse brows, and you aren't about to perform drag, yes I will inwardly judge, not sorry.

ENormaSnob · 08/05/2019 18:21

I really don't give a shite.

Not sure re the comment of being intimidated? I may have misconstrued this but I am definitely, 100%, not intimidated by make up wearers. Or none make up wearers tbf. Really unsure how someone may think that would even be a response tbh.