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The secrets of overweight people

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ColouringPencils · 22/04/2019 22:15

I mean this in a light-hearted way, but I guess it might also be helpful to us to see where we're getting it from.

I'll start:

I always serve myself the largest portion, and often nick a few extra bites in between the cooking and serving stages.

I eat a full meal whether I am particularly hungry or not (then often have seconds).

I gave up sugar and doubled my cheese intake (then I went back on sugar too).

Speaking of which, no meal is not improved by a generous topping of grated cheese.

I could quite happily drink a bottle of wine a night, although I don't let myself. On my 'good' nights I drink hot chocolate/ couple of beers and eat crisps instead.

Sometimes if nobody has seen me eat my first slice of toast, I'll put a third one in. This is especially the case when it's white bread, the 'only one' I could buy in the corner shop.

When DH is away I love to read and eat chocolate in bed.

Anyone else got any good tips to help me continue to sabotage my weight loss efforts?

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Racerback · 23/04/2019 11:21

When I'm full on sweet things I can switch to savoury and start again, and vice versa.

Oh god, this is so me. Like so many on this thread, I never feel full. Or at least, only for a few seconds. There's always room for pudding.

I'm down in the healthy weight range now, but I'm in a state of constant vigilance. Food is fucking everywhere...

Handsoffmysweets · 23/04/2019 11:24

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StealthPolarBear · 23/04/2019 11:27

I just can't believe I had decades where I didn't realise that wasn't normal. Day in, day out.
I am also seriously worried about diabetes. And my lovely godmother has just died of bowel cancer. And still I binge...

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StealthPolarBear · 23/04/2019 11:28

In fact while I'm on this thread I'm thinking about what I'm having for lunch and the Easter eggs in the fridge. Hands up if you're the same!

Oliversmumsarmy · 23/04/2019 11:28

Handsoffmysweets

I have been to the doctors multiple times.

There advice was to cut down on all the things I hate and don’t eat.

I have had my thyroid tested but apparently that was normal (although I have read the NHS normal might not be actually normal)

I was referred to a dietician who I said first off that I couldn’t eat wheat or dairy.

His options were for breakfast
“Wheatabix” with semi skimmed milk.

I repeated that I couldn’t eat wheat or dairy and he genuinely seemed surprised that wheatabix contained wheat and semi skimmed milk was dairy.

He then suggested a round of cheese on toast.

With a sandwich for lunch.

You couldn’t make it up.

I sat there thinking this guy might sort out my eating habits and show me where I was going wrong and with out a qualification in nutrition I felt I was the most qualified nutritionist in the room.

HazardGhost · 23/04/2019 11:30

Yes...! I have a belly for sweet things and a belly for salty snacks one belly might be full but the other is starving! And by the time i eat through 6 packets of crisps I've burned off the sweet fullness and require more chocolate. But dang that sweetness is lingering so I need a few more salty snacks. On and on I go....

Defender90 · 23/04/2019 11:33

Ah my friends!

I never eat breakfast - prefer the extra time in bed.
I love bread, crisps, chips, wine.
I walk nowhere.
I love wine.
I go to a PT every Friday, and while my fitness is improving, I'm still very obese, and struggle to find motivation to change.

StealthPolarBear · 23/04/2019 11:34

Lol Oliver. That's pathetic!

LillithsFamiliar · 23/04/2019 11:40

Stealth I've been reading this thread and it's made me hungry. Plus I've been thinking about lunch since I got up this morning because it's an amazing pasta leftover.
My secret to being overweight is eating carbs and being too sedentary. I know if I cut out carbs and go walking, I lose weight.

Hearhere · 23/04/2019 11:51

The honesty is strong on this thread!

Hearhere · 23/04/2019 11:53

Most of this is totally outside of my experience, I find it very easy to stay slim, should I just fuck off and shut up?

ContinuityError · 23/04/2019 11:55

Pies are my weakness - pork pies, steak pies, Cornish pasties.

I don’t buy them because I know I’d eat huge amounts in one go.

Although DH bought some cheap Frey Bentos tinned ones the other day and even I couldn’t eat them.

WhoKnewBeefStew · 23/04/2019 11:56

Booze and chocolate - simple

CarrieBlu · 23/04/2019 12:01

I drink full fat coke. Bottles and bottles of full fat coke, all day long. First thing I drink in the morning. It started when I went teetotal. Still teetotal after 3 years, but can’t stop with my beloved Coca Cola!

I eat everyone’s chocolate and snacks and then have to secretly replace them.

I try —great big ladles— little spoonfuls of whatever I’m cooking...at every single stage of the process.

I don’t exercise. Ever. My old job kept me VERY busy and I just took being active (and as a result, slim) for granted.

I am hoping to change some of these habits Blush

CarrieBlu · 23/04/2019 12:02

Strike through fail Hmm

Ivy44 · 23/04/2019 12:06

Another vote for the diet merry go round.

BMI gets up to 26, diet and exercise to get it down to 23. Take foot off pedal and pounds pile on. BMI back up to 25.2, my food diaries have just arrived and I’ve booked myself on 3 spin classes this week. Here we go again.

My partner is taller than me and big but not fat - I also need to make sure I am eating smaller portions than him.

Ivy44 · 23/04/2019 12:07

Pounds pile on because, like others, I can’t resist picnic food - scotch eggs, pork pies, sausage rolls etc. I will always have a car park picnic before going home for dinner.

StealthPolarBear · 23/04/2019 12:08

Thread quietens down over lunchtime :o

Oliversmumsarmy · 23/04/2019 12:11

All mine went on when I was pregnant with Ds. Started off at 10st gave birth at 17stone 11lbs.

Got down to 13 stone and stuck there then menopause arrived and I jumped almost over night (within 2 weeks) to 15stone 4lbs.

I swing between 15stone 4 and 15stone

StealthPolarBear · 23/04/2019 12:12

I am back on it today. Logging food. Plan to exercise tomorrow. I think il always have to be on top if this, I'll never self regulate. That said the more you use willpower the more natural it does seem.
I never eat cheese and onion pasties unless eg mini ones at a party. Same for croissants. Bit so light and flufy, I could eat six without noticing.
Actually the other day I did leave some toast as I was full. It's progress.

vickibee · 23/04/2019 12:17

I am a fatty who has completely changed eating habits in last two months and have lost 19 lbs. I have cut out chocolate, biscuits, crisps, pastry and all that is considered bad. I have been eating 3 healthy meals a day with more fruit and veg
My habits were so addictive if I stopped for fuel I would buy a big bag of sweets and scoff the lot through the day. I have failed a bit over Easter because I have had a buttered hot cross bun. My habits are waning now and I am getting used to going without this stuff so I guess it is about retraining your mindset. All this was after a warning from my GP who has put me on Orlistat

DennisSkinnersMolotov · 23/04/2019 12:35

Bread. And butter. And peanut butter. And crumpets - soaked in butter so you have to mop up the little butter pools on the plate with the last bite of crumpet. And cheese on toast with salt and black pepper. Mashed potato sandwiches on buttered white bread with ketchup... Potato waffles in a sandwich with cheese and salad cream...

A whole baguette or tiger loaf and half a pack of good salted butter - heaven.

I'd easily forgo meals for bread or toast and butter. The odd bowl (bucket) of crunchy nut cornflakes if feeling adventurous.

I have issues with carbs.

WhatNowRandy · 23/04/2019 12:37

I have no consistency. :( Some days a small meal, when I was feeling hungry, will leave me feeling full. Other days I could eat non-stop and never feel full. I also don't really have a "comfortably full" setting at all, which I think is thanks for the long time of bulimia. Either I'm not full yet, or I'm uncomfortable and want to purge. Some days and weeks I'm eating very healthily, or even unhealthily little. Some days and weeks I dread to think how many calories I'm consuming with the non-stop snacking.

I think it's a good advice in general to address the mental side of things, but I no longer know what else I'm supposed to "address". I've had a lot of therapy wrt my eating disorder the the complex PTSD that preceded it. Honesly, I'm not sure any of it has helped at all, except now I know very well what all my problems are and can talk about them ad nauseam. I've pretty much given up on trying to "address" the various reasons why I'm overweight, and am trying to put my energy on not having my life permanently on hold "until I lose the weight".

crosser62 · 23/04/2019 12:47

Even the word “lunch” triggers me to eat no matter what time of day.

PandyCuff · 23/04/2019 12:55

Having read this thread, I am at a complete loss as to how I am 25kg over weight

The descriptions on here make me feel sick. I don't eat crisps or pies or takeaways of any kind. I don't drink fizzy drinks/squash or alcohol. I don't eat food whilst I am cooking it. I walk and cycle alot

My only downfall is chocolate. I can eat a massive bar in one go. So, maybe I mean it makes sense that I am over weight...but then, how are you lot even able to get out of a chair??