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The secrets of overweight people

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ColouringPencils · 22/04/2019 22:15

I mean this in a light-hearted way, but I guess it might also be helpful to us to see where we're getting it from.

I'll start:

I always serve myself the largest portion, and often nick a few extra bites in between the cooking and serving stages.

I eat a full meal whether I am particularly hungry or not (then often have seconds).

I gave up sugar and doubled my cheese intake (then I went back on sugar too).

Speaking of which, no meal is not improved by a generous topping of grated cheese.

I could quite happily drink a bottle of wine a night, although I don't let myself. On my 'good' nights I drink hot chocolate/ couple of beers and eat crisps instead.

Sometimes if nobody has seen me eat my first slice of toast, I'll put a third one in. This is especially the case when it's white bread, the 'only one' I could buy in the corner shop.

When DH is away I love to read and eat chocolate in bed.

Anyone else got any good tips to help me continue to sabotage my weight loss efforts?

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Hoolihan · 23/04/2019 13:27

My top tips:

*Eat a biscuit every time you go to the kitchen.
*Buy cheese straws from the supermarket bakery section and eat them in the car on the way home.
*Eat your children's pizza crusts, birthday cake and Easter Eggs.
*Always finish off the leftover sandwiches after a meeting.
*Eat because you're happy, eat because you're sad, most importantly eat because you're bored.
*Buy sweets.
*Sit down a lot.
*Drink beer, absolutely loads of it.
*Work with people who love baking.
*BREAD AND BUTTER.

OrangeSunsets · 23/04/2019 13:28

I wish I ate like some people on here to explain why I am 5 stone overweight!

I used to be quite slim and went to the gym at least 5 times a week. I would run 5km and do an exercise class or run 10km and do weights. If I ate more than 1600 calories per day I gained weight!

I gained weight whilst pregnant and i’ve never been able to lose it. Even if I only have 1200 calories a day I don’t lose much and I end up starving and eating something extra.

I do like my wine. That doesn’t help! I have it up for a month in January and still didn’t lose! Sad

OrangeSunsets · 23/04/2019 13:29

*gave it up

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gubbsywubbsy · 23/04/2019 13:34

I'm about 3 stone overweight .. I track my food on mfp everyday and often only eat between 700-1200 cals a day .. I cannot lose weight despite on top of that doing around 10-20k steps a day and the gym ....... oh and I'm vegan .... it fucks me off that I can't get rid of it .. I'm sure everyone thinks I'm lying 🙄🙄

StealthPolarBear · 23/04/2019 13:35

There aren't that many calls in wine!

Butteredghost · 23/04/2019 13:35

Something I think about is that I can eat almost what I want (using some of the secret tricks above) and weigh 90kg. Now that's a bmi of 30 for me so it's not good but equally could be much worse and doesn't impact me in terms of moving around, etc.

If I totally starve myself and suffer on 800-1000 kj a day, I weigh 75 kg. Bmi is 25. So yes it's better, but it's still borderline overweight! I still look fat and ugly. Movement/exercise ability/energy levels is exactly the same.

I'm not sure if its worth it really.

Butteredghost · 23/04/2019 13:38

Oh I just remembered another fat secret. I'm an insomniac and am up half the night often. I eat toast and biscuits at 4am. DH is asleep and doesn't know I get up, let alone that I have a whole meal overnight.

dustarr73 · 23/04/2019 13:39

Im fat but as i got older i find i cant eat the same amount of food.And i dont drink as much as i did.I dont drink coke that much.

My downfall is i dont exercise or eat regular.Sometimes cooking everyones dinner,you just dont be in the humour for your own.So you just eat crap.

JaneEyre07 · 23/04/2019 13:40

I'm down 3 stone, another 5 to go.

I think my stomach is so overstretched from years of over-eating that it no longer functions as it should.

You name it, I can eat it. I am never "full". And now I'm diabetic as a result. I try to stay lower carb but it's so so tough.

vinegarqueen · 23/04/2019 13:43

Ah the chocolate. I was an extremely fat teenager. Not able to eat an actual kilo these days, but I do remember buying those Cadbury Easter eggs that were an egg within an egg and scoffing it all in an afternoon whilst reading and wondering why I couldn't lose weight Confused. Rinse and repeat for as long as the shop had them on sale.

SherlockSays · 23/04/2019 13:44

This is one of those threads where the people of MN could NEVER eat more food than 2 small, healthy meals a day but yes, they are still overweight.

I'm overweight - I just fucking love food. Although I am addressing this at the moment and almost back down to my smallest.

3luckystars · 23/04/2019 13:47

@bibbitybobbityyhat

Re: Basal metabolic rate
I would really interested to find out mine. Thanks for your post.

dustarr73 · 23/04/2019 13:50

@SherlockSays No.Some posters have said that.I think people "forget" what they really eat.So they have a coffee and "forget"the pack of biscuits with it.Or have a hot chocolate with all the trimmings.Thats loads of calories there.Empty calories.Thats the problem.

LizzieSiddal · 23/04/2019 13:54

so by that rationale, anyone who isn't overweight is there purely by luck or some other higher force at work!
It isn’t luck, I weigh myself at least once a month. If I’m putting on a few lbs, I cut down on portion size and sugary stuff and lose those few pounds. I’m 53 and have never been over weight.

I did however grow up with my parents often commenting on my weight and shape to the extent I thought I was fat and was obsessed with my weight until I met DH. He made me see I was average weight for my height and not fat at all.

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 23/04/2019 13:54

I've got four kids and had my last three very close together. I've always gained about a stone after each pregnancy and found it hard to lose. I don't feel I overeat at all. I can't stomach big meals and almost always leave food. However, I do like a takeaway and a bottle of wine most weekends and I probably pick at chocolate too much between meals. This has seen me settle at 15 stone and size 14, I was 10 stone and a size 10 before kids.

SingingSands · 23/04/2019 13:59

Oh I do that too - keep "tasting" what I'm cooking, then still have a full portion when I serve it up, so basically have two portions.

Also crisps. ALL the crisps. I can't stop at one bag, the portion seems too tiny.

And cheese with everything.

Emilydickensonsdogs · 23/04/2019 14:03

This is a refreshingly honest thread. There will always be those who gain weight for medical reasons and I do think genetics influence your weight, however for most it’s just extra calories that the body stores.

yeahbutwhy · 23/04/2019 14:03

If you don’t have to chew it, it doesn’t have calories right?
Picnics and bounty’s count as one of your 5 a day?Grin

I kid myself that I don’t eat that much because I skip breakfast and jst have a coffee(medium latte from costaBlush), then lunch is a small pasta salad then dinner is a plate the same size as my 6ft4 husbands, then the fun starts!!! Crisps and chocolate and ice cream in the evening.

My problem is I see food as a treat rather than fuel, I think I deserve it for whatever particular reason I choose that day! I need to change the way I think about food but I just love it too bloody muchGrin

WhatNowRandy · 23/04/2019 14:04

Random musings: I'm not well adjusted to how I'm actually living!

SIL and I both like baking. We tend to bake the same kinds of recipes. SIL has four children and I do not. When she bakes a cake, it gets divided between four people, whereas for me it's just DH and I eating half a cake each, unless I have visitors coming. SIL says she's lucky if she gets a look in on baked goods usually, before the teenagers descend upon them. For me... well DH doesn't really even have a sweet tooth!

As to the "how do you lot get out of a chair" question - I'm size 16, so not exactly unable to move around despite being overweight. I guess the periods of attempting to be really disciplined cancel some of the crap eating out?

Ivy44 · 23/04/2019 14:18

It’s defini hormonal too. The week before my period, I can’t stop eating carbs. I’ll have a predinner snack of a fish finger sandwich - no matter how much I eat, during my premenstrual week, I just don’t feel full.

Ivy44 · 23/04/2019 14:22

I know I have to do something about it though. One of my mum’s friends is morbidly obese, she has type 2 diabetes and is now so big that she is in a wheelchair and may have to have her foot amputated. Horrific. She is convinced that it is something genetic that the doctors have missed and nothing to do with her food intake and gets annoyed with her GP and specialist as they keep insisting that she needs to lose weight.

NewMum19344567 · 23/04/2019 14:28

I'm a fan of eating healthy Infront of everyone, saying I don't know how I gain weight then going in the fridge every time I make a drink and slicing 10000000 slices off a block of cheese Blush

missmouse101 · 23/04/2019 14:36

My job sees me going from house to house for appointments. I have a whole tuck shop in my boot to select from as I go. Wotsits, toffee crisps, space raiders all feature here. When I need the loo in between, I may need to use one at McDonald's/KFC/Caffe Nero.... Usually home for supper......! Blush I love food, I really do.

BogstandardBelle · 23/04/2019 14:38

Lots of the above plus...

Tell yourself that as long as foods are top quality, they are less fattening. So a cheese board from the fromagerie, Bellota jambon at €120/kg, steak from the best butcher in town, €50 a bottle wine, chocolate from the best chocolaterie, dessert from the best patisserie (we live in France) - go ahead and eat / drink as much as you like because it’s «proper» food. Not like that nasty, processed,

DH falls into this one all the time. You couldn’t pay him to eat supermarket doughnuts or drink cheap beer but expensive treats? Bring it on: he’s just being a gourmet and appreciating the finer things in life.

bluetongue · 23/04/2019 14:45

I have a few weaknesses.

TV. I’ve got into the terrible habit of firstly eating all my meals in front of the TV and secondly needing to have a snack of some kind to watch TV. I watch lots of telly Blush

Then there’s my extremely sweet tooth. For so long I resisted buying sweet biscuits for the house but I’ve started getting them again and it’s a terrible habit. The only way for me to not eat something is to not have it in the house. Still, when I bought some fruit the other day and cut an apple to have as a snack the apple was rotten inside. A biscuit would never let you down like that Grin

Lastly, nice food or meals are my reward to myself. Not sure what I can replace this with but I need to find something.