Need to pull myself together for the children

[Simonfromharlow]

My husband left me 10 days ago. I feel so down. I'm being a shit mum to my kids as I can't pull myself together. This is so hard. I don't know how to cope.

I’ve reported my own post because if someone in RL who knows me sees it, they’ll know its me IYSWIM.

I wanted to share the extraordinary level of twatishness with you 😄

Haha it was def worth a share!

Remember your doing the stuff that counts.

It’s your values the children will learn. They will get their security from you. It’s you they will trust.

Mine are practically adults. We all know who has made the difference to who they are.

Gah! You’re!

Got my first driving lesson in years tomorrow. Excited and nervous!!

Cry freedom...
Way to go, you could be mobile soon .

I hope so!

Grass is greener seems to be the situation here too, I also think he thinks that women will be interested in him, whereas in reality it's me who's got men asking me out! (I haven't said yes but nice to be wanted)

Ooh good for you @stucknoue!!! Definitely nice to be wanted!

They start to wear skinny jeans at this point.

XH informed me that he was ‘a player’ and was just different.

At 53. In his skinny jeans.

Massive twat.

Oh but his face when I told him I had met someone. And that it had happened before he had moved out.

And that we are still going strong these years later.

Him? Not so much. 😂

😂😂

Driving lesson in 40 mins 😱😱😱

Good luck!

Laughing hard at the skinny jeans 😂

Good luck!

Just read this thread and I am so sorry this has happened to you. One day in the not so distant future you will look back and realise that the day he left your new life began. Until then keep doing what you are doing.

Just read this thread too; OP, you sound like you are taking all the steps in the right direction for you and your boys. I hope your driving lesson goes well, I'm sure you'll be passed in no time!

Thanks so much everyone!! I'm feeling a little stronger every day!

The driving lesson was really good. He said I did really well. Just need to polish up on manoeuvres!

So glad your driving lesson went well.
I am supporting you over the Internet and am so proud of you ❤️
There will be huge highs and lows, I always went into hibernation when a relationship failed but you can't do that with shared children.
You are doing brilliantly.

Thank you!

I love reading this thread can't believe how much support you can get from total strangers.

Keep it going as it is your own personal journey and at times of utter crap (and believe me there will be a few) you can read back and see just how far you have come
❤️

I can already read through and see that I'm in a better place than I was when I started it!! Which is a good reminder as sometimes it doesn't feel like it!

Hi Simonfromharlow, Just wanted you to know you are not alone.He left me just over 2 years ago. Turned out there was another woman although right then I didn’t know. I didn’t eat or sleep for many months. Lost so much weight and lived on coffee. When I finally managed to sleep it would be for less than an hour each night and each time I woke up I would get that butterflies in my stomach feeling when it would all hit me. I would go from feeling like I deserve so much better than him to crying on the bathroom floor wishing I could go to sleep and never wake up. He did some really awful things to us which I can’t go into too much incase someone recognizes me. He had no contact with me or dd for ages.She was just shy of turning 9 when he left. Dd and I were anyway close but it was her who got me through it. Even now, every time she strokes my head, hugs and kisses me I remind myself i’m so lucky because he doesn’t have that. I’ve been through so much and I had no idea I could be this strong. As so many others keep saying, it does get better. The hurt will lessen bit by bit. Now I don’t hate him. I am not going to let what he put us through mess me up.

The thing that gets me is he has convinced himself it was mutual and genuinely believes it.