Need to pull myself together for the children

[Simonfromharlow]

My husband left me 10 days ago. I feel so down. I'm being a shit mum to my kids as I can't pull myself together. This is so hard. I don't know how to cope.

Probably! At least my son is only little and won't remember having daddy there for his birthday so this is still normal to him.

He's having a lovely birthday of course! He loves his present and is currently playing happily in the garden with his big brother

Oh how lovely!!

And a gig happy birthday from me #virtual hug ❤️

#big lol

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Got some frozen mojitos for a little treat tonight! Feeling a little blah so thought it might be a nice little pick me up!

Sorry you are going through this. He sounds awful and you are better off without him as hard as that is. Xx

He wasn't all bad during the relationship and we did have alot of lovely times but since he left he has shown a thoughtless, selfish and cold side that I hadn't seen before. Just another man following the midlife crisis script!

One day I will see he did me a favour I expect!

So definitely a mid life crisis - also he is now looking in and probably has loads of time on his hands to stew on things and think he is hard done by.
Bloody typical to rewrite your relationship - but good on you to know that there were good times.
He will be a very different person for a long time to come whilst you are sorting out the end of your marriage.
Time is a great healer and in years to come he may revert to the man you liked and you can positively co-parent together. ❤️

I don't know what is going through his head but I'm not prepared to let him drag me down anymore. I'll drag myself up by my fingernails if I have to!

I'm sure we will get on better in the distant future, as we do share the young children. Maybe when the hurt is gone. But now I want to stab him or maybe run him over in my learner car. I'm sure my instructor would be down with that haha

But hell - loathing and hating the prick is good in my world 😂

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So he just came to pick up the kids and was acting like my best mate. Did I want a lift to work? How is my job going?

Did he forget he just asked me 7 days ago to lie so he can get a quick divorce. Unbelievable.

Ergh. What a prick.

I witnessed my dad do the same thing to my mum some 30 odd years ago. One minute he'd be an arsehole, the next he's be all matey. Don't fall for it! You are stronger than that's you are doing amazing! 👍🏻

Thank you!

i hope you don't feel the need to share your life events with him now.

things will get better OP

No I only really talk to him re the kids now. I found it very difficult initially but now it makes it easier.

@Namechange1990x I'm hoping so! Im really really hoping so!

But now I want to stab him or maybe run him over in my learner car. I'm sure my instructor would be down with that

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Having a slightly pathetic day today. Just got a Load of my eldest's old clothes down to look for some joggers for my youngest. I couldn't stop crying, almost every item in that bag had some kind of memory. I only wanted some joggers not an emotional avalanche haha.

There weren't even any bloody joggers in there after all that!!!!

Did find an amazing coat though!

Every cloud Simon! Keep looking for the silver linings.

Having a crap today I blame the rain and my hormones! Hopefully an early night will sort me out!