What would you NEVER let your kids wear in public?

[JoeyBartonHanson]

Can be anything

Good luck to some of these controlling parents when their children become teenagers

What's wrong with Adidas and Nike?
Is that political?

Or too expensive?

Prison uniform.

It would be interesting to know what posters parents wouldn't let them wear. It might make some sense of the abundance of uprightness

Jeez let's hope the Nike/Adidas hater doesn't end up with a ds like mine who wears size 13/14 shoes, depending on the brand.

He has around 8 pairs of trainers currently and they are all Nike, except from one pair that are Adidas.
He previously has wanted other names but they stop at size 11/12 so he has very little
choice.

He has just turned 16. He went into a size 13/14 when he was in year 9 aged 13/14.
I was panicking in case they kept growing but thankfully stayed the same.

So it's either Nike or Adidas for ds, or go barefoot

@ourkidmolly the only time she wears t shirt and leggings is to her Theatre school or to gymnastics. Both of these clubs have a uniform policy so it's club t shirt and black leggings.

DD's casual wear is skinny jeans and sweatshirts or a t shirt and dungaree shorts with leggings. Sometimes nice smart shorts with tights or leggings. Lots of knitted or jersey dresses with ankle boots for when we go out.

Lots of DDs school friends wear designer stuff which I don't buy into. They are very into fashion and a t shirt and leggings won't cut it. Lots of Boden too although not as much now they are getting older.

DS's friends are also into designer stuff. He hates non uniform day because of all the showing off of expensive gear ( £150 t shirts for example) They used to be all in Boden when they were younger.

I'm aware we live in a bit of a bubble. We don't have to go far to see that our kids don't dress the same as kids from other areas. Even the hair styles are different. Kids here tend to wear it longer.

To the people imagining my DS having to constantly get changed let me explain.

At 13 he goes out alone but only if I know where he is going, what he is planning to do and who he is meeting. I don't let him roam the streets aimlessly.

So if he is meeting a friend to go to the cinema or to Nando's he wears smarter stuff.

Meeting friends to go to the country park for a bike ride - joggers fine.

Meeting a friend for a game of tennis ( this is what he is doing this morning ) - joggers fine

Going to the skate park/bmx tack - joggers fine.

If he comes back home in his joggers and we are then all going out to lunch or to visit people he changes into jeans.

It's really no big deal. He knows that certain occasions require a certain dress code.

I really dislike anything impractical on babies, I recently saw skinny jeans for newborns in primark?! Since when has that been something that a newborn would want to wear?

I cant get my head round alot of this.

Whats wrong with joggers or sports stuff.

As long as its clean...

I dont do inappropriate slogans but other than that....

Dd wears leggings and those new look cropped jumpers . All the kids her age do. Its an inch of stomach. Wow.

formerbabe. Mine are beyond teenage years. It was always an expectation that they would follow certain clothing rules. They are (except our youngest student one) in jobs that require an understanding of appropriate dress.
Our son wears uniform to work but has a dress code for outside of working hours. Jeans are not (theoretically) permitted, for example. He has a couple of pairs for holidays and doing mucky jobs but wouldn’t go out in jeans.
None would be seen dead in slogan clothing, shiny polyester clothing, jogging bottoms except on the side of a rugby pitch or for dance warm ups etc.

I find it quite horrible. It's one thing having a personal taste/style preference when they are little and you are responsible for choosing all their clothes, but to say to an older child that they are forbidden from wearing something in case they are perceived as "common" (which lets face it is the only possible objection people could have against sportswear or baseball caps) is the worst kind of snobbery. Why would it be so awful if people thought your kids were common?

I just think you can overly control your children. One of the things they can have a degree of autonomy over is their clothes. It doesn't mean that they will grow up not understanding 'office wear' requirements. There's a huge amount of snobbery on this thread. I like the way Princess Anne's children's children dress....like everyone else. Same big standard brands etc. Saw them in a magazine and thought yes that's just normal. Not perfect. Ready for play. That's what's important.

@longestlurkerever

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Our son wears uniform to work but has a dress code for outside of working hours. Jeans are not (theoretically) permitted, for example

Not permitted by who?

formerbabe His employer.

They are (except our youngest student one) in jobs that require an understanding of appropriate dress

Isn't that all jobs? Even if you were a road sweeper, there would be an expectation that you wouldn't rock up in a suit or swimming trunks!

Can employers really dictate what you wear outside of work?
How would people even know who he worked for

I also find the Mumsnet obsession with personal appearance weird and potentially damaging. It's the last thing I want my dds to think is important.

Even the royals wear jeans

I don't even notice what my two wear. They buy their own stuff and wear whatever they like. One doesn't live at home anyway so I don't see what he's dressed in.
Not going to get involved when they are 19 and nearly 18.

There’s such a difference between what your child wears when you have total say over it, e.g up to about 6 or 7. At about 7 pretty much all the boys I know pretty much refuse to wear anything but joggers because they like to be comfortable. At that age you still get a bit of a say in that you can buy nice joggers, such as H&M skinny ones with nice tops which look ok. I can just about get my 9 year old into jeans or chinos if I give him some warning that we are going somewhere which isn’t jogger suitable. I wouldn’t buy him sports branded joggers etc but I have got over my football kit issue. It’s such standard 9 year old wear that I can’t get worked up.

My teen on the other hand is 16 and wears joggers most of the time including some hideous Adidas ones. What am I meant to do? Tell him he can’t? That would be ridiculous. He’s old enough to know what to wear for certain occasions e.g he’s currently at his Saturday job in black jeans, a smart tucked in shirt and leather Chelsea Boots. Does him wanting to wear horrible joggers and trainers make a difference to my life? No it really doesn’t. As a Little boy he wore mainly Boden & Vertbaudet but branded sports wear and joggers, whatever.

The only thing I've never liked is proper outfits for tiny babies...but that's just because it looks so uncomfortable.

It's nothing to do with me worrying about people thinking they are common. It's about respect.

If we are taking the kids out to a nice restaurant and I'm dressed smartly I expect them to dress nicely out of respect for me.

If they are invited to a party they show respect by dressing smartly for the occasion.

If they are visiting relatives , they show respect by not turning up looking like they've come straight from the playing field!

Maybe it's my age. I'm 49 and was brought up to have these values.

My mum is even stricter than me. She came to take the kids out for dinner and DD was wearing a sort of play suit type thing from H&M - a full length summery jersey trouser suit . One of her favourite outfits. My Mum asked her to change because she thought it looked she was wearing pyjamas.

I'm probably a bit behind the times but my kids don't seem to mind at all.

Also, what possible reason do you give for banning something like sports wear, if it's not the occasion itself that warrants the dress code? Football kits are not worn by people like us? What does that say about their friends who do?

Any mega branded clothes. I resent paying money to advertise your company.... Surely if you want me to walk about with an advert for your brand on my chest YOU should pay ME Addidas????

But as someone else said, saying something like "we need to dress appropriately for x special occasion" is totally different from saying "you cannot be seen in public in that" which is what this thread asked.