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Housewarming gift price range?

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NoCanoe · 13/04/2019 17:10

I originally offered to buy a gift once my friends were settled and knew what they wanted. There had been talk of wanting to replace dinner plates, bed linen , towels etc.

They now have said they will forgo the non essential items in favour of something more practical.

That's fine. But because I never stipulated a budget at the time when it was a general idea, Im now being presented with an invoice far greater than anticipated.

Im just wondering if Im out of touch with price range these days, or am I being taken advantage of?

Id like some idea of what you'd consider normal price range before I say how much I am actually being asked for.

I do feel I have no option but to honour the commitment. But I'm a bit miffed.

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OhDearGodLookAtThisMess · 16/04/2019 07:38

So, no response from them to your powerful reply?

OneToThree · 16/04/2019 07:42

Well done. Learning to say no is a great thing.

Charley50 · 16/04/2019 08:45

Well done OP! Respect! SmileThanks

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user1474894224 · 16/04/2019 11:13

I'm so pleased this had a happy ending. Well done.

Wellfuckmeinbothears · 16/04/2019 11:16

Well done OP, so pleased that has had a positive outcome Cake

iwantavuvezela · 16/04/2019 11:25

Well done OP - you have handled this magnificently

Keepaddingpets · 16/04/2019 16:06

@NoCanoe Please let us know how they reacted to your message.

Kez200 · 16/04/2019 16:14

Id have expectes them to say they had finally decided on x, and leave you to buy it within the acceptable budget.

If there had been talk of stuff I would expect it to fall in that range.

NorthernRunner · 16/04/2019 16:23

Just read the whole thread and wow OP good for you. I think I could learn a lot from you. Well done and keep that money for yourself.

Caraboss · 16/04/2019 16:41

I'm glad that you've not sent any money, your self esteem is worth more than sending them any token amount.

If it had been a case of getting carried away after seeing the perfect curtains, then they'd have handled it differently.

If you find yourself looking back on the friendship and noticing things you've ignored until now, try not to be annoyed with yourself. You've shown them kindness until they forced you to see how greedy, manipulative and self - centred they are.

FilledSoda · 16/04/2019 17:46

You should be really proud of yourself honestly.
It's easy for us keyboard warriors to be indignant on your behalf but you actually had to stand up to these people on your own.
I think it's one of those moments in life that literally changes you , you're a stronger person now as result
Well done Thanks

BlondeBumshelll · 16/04/2019 18:48

Just read the whole thread and I am so glad you didn't pay! I was rushing through it shouting noooooooooo as I really thought you were going to pay it.

Well done, now don't fall for sympathy texts from her!

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NoCanoe · 16/04/2019 21:35

Thanks for the support. Yet again. Smile

There has been no contact made so far at all.

Feels a bit strange not to have regular contact,tbh. But Im not dwelling on it.

Im aware its early days, so Im not taking anything for granted. But Im hopeful.....

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EdtheBear · 16/04/2019 23:12

Op I'm glad you've seen the light and saw off these users. I don't think you'll hear anything else from them.

Hope you are doing ok emotionally xx

NaturatintGoldenChestnut · 16/04/2019 23:21

See, they didn't even apologise for being arseholes to you.

Rabbitmug · 17/04/2019 00:24

Just read the whole thread, wow OP you're incredible! Power to the People xxx ❤️

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NoCanoe · 17/04/2019 14:20

Had a reply. The salient part is (amongst general chit chat and updates) is...

Don't worry about the curtains!
And...
It doesn't have to be all or nothing, ya know? Your 100 will still be very gratefully received and will be a great help, hun. X

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LegoPeopleEverywhere · 17/04/2019 14:21

Shock who said anything about £100?!

PassMeTheWine · 17/04/2019 14:21

Cannot believe the cheek of them!
I wouldn't even reply x

caughtinanet · 17/04/2019 14:22

Is the friendship even worth £100 to you?

They have shown you their true colours

PassMeTheWine · 17/04/2019 14:22

Good point lego.. Maybe they've been reading this thread Shock

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NoCanoe · 17/04/2019 14:22

And now I'm torn again.
Because 100 was meant for her and I'll feel a real mean selfish bastard if I dont at least honour that part. Even if my heart is no longer in the gift.

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NoCanoe · 17/04/2019 14:23

I mentioned the 100 !

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Bluntness100 · 17/04/2019 14:24

Oh wow, so they are still coming after you for the 100. What's actually wrong with these people, have they no shame. They aren't even pretending they want a present anymore, just straight up asking for the money,

Please just don't respond op. And don't give them th cash. It's all they want off you. They are not decent people.

Happynow001 · 17/04/2019 14:33

Full marks to them for persistence! They've gone from a nominal (normal but unvoiced) £sum to £550 then £350 to £100! Absolute cheeky grifters!

You've done so well OP but they obviously know their target (you!!) very well and will keep pushing until you hand over your hard earned cash! Don't do it because, if you do, they'll know that really nothing's changed and will still have you in their sights for "loans", "gifts" forever.

Pull up the drawbridge and block their numbers/email etc so they can't keep pushing your buttons. This couple will not stop and, I'm sorry, your boundaries are too low.

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