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Whoops - upset MIL with a photo 🙄

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 15:55

Name changed.

We all went out for Sunday lunch today. MIL, FIL, SIL and her three children, DH and I and our toddler. We don’t get together much so people were taking photos.

We were at a buffet, an all you can eat type place, where you gonand help yourself to whatever.

When we got home (to our place) I put the photos from my phone onto the computer so everyone could see and choose any they wanted me to send. Four of the photos had various ILs in the background walking back from the buffet eating their food as they went along. One of them admittedly is a little comical as it has FIL, SIL and two of SIL’s children in a line all eating and walking. The photo is of my son and MIL though, they are just in the background.

Anyway, MIL went mad and said I was “making a show of her” which DH tells me means embarrassing her. She was still in a huff when she went home.

This isn’t my fault is it? If they can’t wait to get back to the table to start on their seconds, it’s not my fault!

(Didn’t even see MIL’s photographs. She wouldn’t show us!)

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Lollypop701 · 07/04/2019 15:59

Did you put the photo she didn’t like on social media etc? If it was just a photo on your phone, how are you making a show of her?

SelkieRinnNaMara · 07/04/2019 15:59

did you put it on facebook?

CoffeeConnoisseur · 07/04/2019 16:01

When you say you put the photos ‘on the computer’ do you actually mean on social media?

If not then she’s a bit bonkers, but I’d just delete the photo.

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 16:02

Nono not on Facebook! Just on my desktop to show everyone in the room because it was a bigger screen and saved passing my phone round. Plus MIL sometimes wants them printed out.

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Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:03

I'm sorry, but I'd just laugh!

TheSpottedZebra · 07/04/2019 16:04

Did she not want her picture taken in general? Or was it just that one that upset her?

pinkyredrose · 07/04/2019 16:05

How is that embarrassing for mil? I must be missing something.

AwdBovril · 07/04/2019 16:05

So you took a photo of something, a completely normal thing, that happened (that she did) in a public place, basically? And now she's embarrassed about the thing that happened? Eh? She's barmy...

Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:05

Did you happen to laugh when you spotted it? I'd have had to try very hard not to.

UrsulaPandress · 07/04/2019 16:05

But MIL wasn’t doing anything was she?

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 16:06

She loves having her picture taken with the grandchildren (as long as she is “ready” and she was!) It was the background people that she didn’t like. I was facing the big serving bar thing do a few of my photos had that in.

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Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:06

It was the MIL and the son.

Was it about them scoffing on the move, or did she not like that particular photo of herself?

CoffeeConnoisseur · 07/04/2019 16:06

So is it the people in the background that she’s not happy with? Confused Did she explain? Was it a terrible photo of her?

Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:07

It's funny sometimes what photos capture in the background.

Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:09

She's probably thinking to herself - what sort of neanderthals have I reared.

Don't worry, tell her it's a beautiful photo of the two of them, but if she doesn't like it, you'll delete it. Then share it here so we can all have a giggle

AwdBovril · 07/04/2019 16:09

I suspect the issue is that she was a) getting second helpings, & b) couldn't wait until she sat down before tucking in. Both things were are her issue, though, if I'm correct in my suspicion. And now you've got evidence of her unladylike behaviour, the horror!

Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:10

She wasn't the scoffer - she was posing for the photo.

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 16:10

UrsulaPandress She was just smiling next to my son.

pinkyredrose What upset her was FIL etc walking back from the buffet already eating before they got to the table. Walking and eating. They were caught in my photos.

Whatad A few people laughed at the four in a line one. It would have been funny even if they weren’t eating and walking, just carrying plates and walking, because they are all in a line like a dance troupe iyswim. Hard to explain without the photo but I daren’t put it here 😱.

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AwdBovril · 07/04/2019 16:11

Aha... x-post. She doesn't like to share the photo with interlopers (other family members). Still barmy.

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 16:13

Yes, that’s it. She thinks it looked bad and she’s embarrassed. She looks fine in the photo. I could cut it down but I think she’d still hate it now.

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Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:13

Ah don't worry. I expect FIL will be told to not act like he's never seen food before when in polite company. Lol. Oh to be a fly on the wall!

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 16:15

Whatad Probably! And SIL. The kids could be forgiven I guess!

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Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:16

I'd be mortified if I was caught in such a pose (not MIL, the entourage). It's like feeding time at the zoo or something lol.

Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:18

It's funny, just tell her it's deleted and 'sure wasn't the food amazing - no wonder everyone was tucking in!'

iklboo · 07/04/2019 16:19

How is a line of people in the background making a show of her though?