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Whoops - upset MIL with a photo 🙄

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 15:55

Name changed.

We all went out for Sunday lunch today. MIL, FIL, SIL and her three children, DH and I and our toddler. We don’t get together much so people were taking photos.

We were at a buffet, an all you can eat type place, where you gonand help yourself to whatever.

When we got home (to our place) I put the photos from my phone onto the computer so everyone could see and choose any they wanted me to send. Four of the photos had various ILs in the background walking back from the buffet eating their food as they went along. One of them admittedly is a little comical as it has FIL, SIL and two of SIL’s children in a line all eating and walking. The photo is of my son and MIL though, they are just in the background.

Anyway, MIL went mad and said I was “making a show of her” which DH tells me means embarrassing her. She was still in a huff when she went home.

This isn’t my fault is it? If they can’t wait to get back to the table to start on their seconds, it’s not my fault!

(Didn’t even see MIL’s photographs. She wouldn’t show us!)

OP posts:
Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:21

I have a mother where everyone is making a show of her. She's Irish. Blush

RedDogsBeg · 07/04/2019 16:21

How is what other people are doing in the photo showing her up/embarrassing her? Odd.

Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:22

I have spent a lifetime making a show of my mother apparently! Grin

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Palominoo · 07/04/2019 16:23

Can't you edit the background out and replace it with The Beatles crossing Abbey Road?

Whoops - upset MIL with a photo 🙄
mummmy2017 · 07/04/2019 16:23

Four of them too greedy to sit down first, so using fingers.
I'd not want that broadcast either...

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 16:24

iklboo because it’s her family I guess.

That’s an interesting point but MIL is always mortified if anyone in the family does anything that could be construed as embarrassing. She always thinks it reflects on her.

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Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:26

This one is great.

About the Irish keeping up appearances. Bear with it, because there's a brilliant one liner in it towards the end.

Arachnidplant · 07/04/2019 16:26

Am I the only person who really doesn't like it when bad pictures of me get shared around? My dsis and DM do this and it drives me mad. They say "it's a lovely picture of you". I'll be the judge of that, thanks.

If the picture of MIL made her feel that uncomfortable you should have just deleted it.

Palominoo · 07/04/2019 16:28

Arachnid plant - the MIL wasn't objecting about her visage, she was offended by her relatives in the background.

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 16:28

Arachnidplant Nothibg wrong with the picture of MIL. She’s one of those people that always looks the same in any photo you ever take of her.

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IncrediblySadToo · 07/04/2019 16:28

🙄

Ask her where she left her SOH.

Everyone knows the bits on the way back to your seat taste nicer 😊

Arachnidplant · 07/04/2019 16:30

But mil didn't like it. And she's in it.

I think if the tables were turned and it was the op who didn't like a photo mil had taken and MIL was refusing to listen then the responses would be pretty different.

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 07/04/2019 16:30

I wouldn’t share the picture around but I would point out that you are not the person making a show of her!

Palominoo · 07/04/2019 16:30

I'm afraid that I would be as petty as her and from that moment on I would not take a photo of her again. If she objected I would remind her of her tantrum.

Chocolateisfab · 07/04/2019 16:32

Photo or it didn't happen!!

Palominoo · 07/04/2019 16:32

The Op was not sharing the photo around! She was using her PC to show all the photos she had taken so that they could be viewed more clearly on a big screen rather than on her phone.

Then the subject in the photo could say if they wanted the Op to send them it or not.

Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:33

I have an aunt who combs her hair and touches up her make-up before we're allowed to photograph 'the model' as we call her. It is comical.

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 16:34

Chocolateisfab I so wish I could!

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Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:35

Same aunt has told me to pose for photos by putting one foot in front of the other and to turn to the side a little. We all knock great craic out of her.

Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:35

Just block out the faces OP! Go on!!! Please?????????

ChicCroissant · 07/04/2019 16:38

Can you edit the photo so it just shows her and your DS?

Her reaction may be a little extreme, but if you say it is funny that does make me wonder if she has a point tbh! But you could crop the munchers out to reduce the potential for embarassment!

wizzywig · 07/04/2019 16:41

Im thinking of that phil collins song "i cant dance"

XXcstatic · 07/04/2019 16:43

I think if the tables were turned and it was the op who didn't like a photo mil had taken and MIL was refusing to listen then the responses would be pretty different

This. It's a dick move to refuse to take down/crop a photo someone doesn't like, no matter how unreasonable they are being.

kaytee87 · 07/04/2019 16:46

Did I miss where op said she wouldn't crop or delete the photo?

Whatad · 07/04/2019 16:47

The OP is not doing anything bad! Her photo just happened to capture MIL's family behaving badly which embarrassed MIL. I'm sure she's going to crop it or delete it.
Women of a certain age are not used to anything less than perfectly posed photos.

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