Whoops - upset MIL with a photo 🙄

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We all went out for Sunday lunch today. MIL, FIL, SIL and her three children, DH and I and our toddler. We don’t get together much so people were taking photos.

We were at a buffet, an all you can eat type place, where you gonand help yourself to whatever.

When we got home (to our place) I put the photos from my phone onto the computer so everyone could see and choose any they wanted me to send. Four of the photos had various ILs in the background walking back from the buffet eating their food as they went along. One of them admittedly is a little comical as it has FIL, SIL and two of SIL’s children in a line all eating and walking. The photo is of my son and MIL though, they are just in the background.

Anyway, MIL went mad and said I was “making a show of her” which DH tells me means embarrassing her. She was still in a huff when she went home.

This isn’t my fault is it? If they can’t wait to get back to the table to start on their seconds, it’s not my fault!

(Didn’t even see MIL’s photographs. She wouldn’t show us!)

I hate myself in photos, so I avoid them at all costs. I don't appear to have a good side lol. But I would see the humour in this if all my ducklings were being gluttonous in a pic, while I was ironically trying to look pretty.

I can’t put the photo here sorry!

Take the photo down from where? I don’t think people have read the thread.

Is she an English lady OP?

You happened to take a chance photo of the in-laws’ bad table manners. Except they weren’t at a table 😄. MIL is shooting the messenger because she is embarrassed about it.

Does MIL eat her way back to the table too?!

I bet none of them ever do it again!

Yes English, from the North West, not far from Ireland if that is what you’re thinking because of the phrase she used. I’d never heard it before.

whatad are you my cousin? We have an aunt who refuses to have a photo if she’s is “not camera ready” . She’s bonkers in lots of ways but we all love her anyway

Do you really not understand the term "making a show of".
You must be very posh indeed.

Op, in future send all photos of MIL to James Fridman, my favourite pbotoshopper

facebook.com/jamesfridmanpage/?locale2=en_GB

Could well be - is her name Anne?

I think it's particularly Irish phrase, and the North West of England would have massive Irish influences.

Palominoo 😂

Well that’s the next hour sorted!

She's a typical irish mammy so! She'll get over it. Don't be worrying. She's just a bit annoyed a nice pic has been "ruined" by the background. See if you can edit it for her and you'll be her favourite dil ever!!

I don't understand her logic - making a show of her? The only people viewing the photos were the people in the photo and you, DH and MIL not an audience in the Albert Hall.

And if anyone was making a show of her it was her family not you.

I think it's particularly Irish phrase, and the North West of England would have massive Irish influences.

I'm in south east England and it's a pretty common phrase around here. I'm really surprised you've never heard of it, OP 🤔
Anyway your MIL sounds a little unhinged.

Am I the only one thinking why were they walking and eating? You're in a resteraunt! Other people will be waking back and forth so really both hand should be holding the plate ready to jump out the way of a wayward kid!

"Making a show of someone" is Liverpudlian. (generally). I can hear it being said now!

Obviously your MIL is more embarrassed that you (an in-law) have photographed "their" side of the family unable to wait the short distance from buffet to table before tucking in. Clearly she thinks/knows it's not generally considered good manners but if you only circulated the picture to the family members who were there then it's not that bad.

I suspect she thinks you either are, or think you are, somehow "above" them (socially) so she is extra touchy about anything that infers that, whether intentional or not.

Did you really need dh to translate the phrase 'making a show of her?'

thatwouldbeanecumenicalmatter If she’s anything like my MIL, every photo is viewed as a potential brag to others. She couldn’t show this photo so got annoyed.

Also making a 'show of yourself' is commonly used in the NE - I've heard that phrase plenty of times growing up

iwantatattoo Yes! I’d put the photographs on the bigger screen and thought she meant something to do with that, like a slide show! I have never heard the phrase before.

bunchoftulipsanddaffs ah right thanks - she's still bonkers to think its the OPs fault 😂

I'm in Scotland and "stop making a show of yourself" is a common phrase.

I do also think that she probably was trying to keep up appearances and might view you as a bit posh or something. Are you a bit posh?

YANBU it's obviously her issue with food, nothing to do with you.

As an aside how do people walk and eat?! I saw a lad walking down the street eating crisps today, it baffles me

I'm sure FIL and SIL were told on the way home 'I was ashamed of my life' 'the state of ye' 'have ye no manners' 'could ye not wait to sit down' 'i'm a disgrace now in front of that nice woman'.

LOL. Bless her. Her heart is in the right place. She was probably trying to impress you and her family let her down - just say something like 'oh I always photoshop the background out of photos - it's you and ds I wanted to capture'. Then show her the end image.