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Whoops - upset MIL with a photo 🙄

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 15:55

Name changed.

We all went out for Sunday lunch today. MIL, FIL, SIL and her three children, DH and I and our toddler. We don’t get together much so people were taking photos.

We were at a buffet, an all you can eat type place, where you gonand help yourself to whatever.

When we got home (to our place) I put the photos from my phone onto the computer so everyone could see and choose any they wanted me to send. Four of the photos had various ILs in the background walking back from the buffet eating their food as they went along. One of them admittedly is a little comical as it has FIL, SIL and two of SIL’s children in a line all eating and walking. The photo is of my son and MIL though, they are just in the background.

Anyway, MIL went mad and said I was “making a show of her” which DH tells me means embarrassing her. She was still in a huff when she went home.

This isn’t my fault is it? If they can’t wait to get back to the table to start on their seconds, it’s not my fault!

(Didn’t even see MIL’s photographs. She wouldn’t show us!)

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Whatad · 07/04/2019 17:28

I almost died and apparently while almost dying, the doctors told my dm that I was very undernourished so they would have to give me a blood transfusion. Apparently my dm declares 'Well she was never undernourished in Ireland! and looked accusingly at my ex Angry'
Didn't matter that I was dying. It mattered more to her that there was a suggestion being made that she might have starved me lol. Despite the fact that I was now 38 years old Grin

stophavinkidsthen · 07/04/2019 17:29

Once again, another name change with such specific info the post could only be one person, why bother changing your user name in the first place

Whatad · 07/04/2019 17:31

I think she even went into a rant about what I was fed as a child. It didn't compute with her that the fact I was undernourished at 38, had nothing to do with what she fed me when I was 10 lol.

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Pythone · 07/04/2019 17:32

why bother changing your user name in the first place

It's not for the sake of the current post, it's so that people who recognise you can't then go and read all your other posts!

TheInvestigator · 07/04/2019 17:36

@stophavinkidsthen

If someone in the family sees this, they will know it's her. If she kept her usual name then they could advanced search it and see what else she's been posting... poaai my personal and private things which she doesn't want them to know about.

Changing names means they will know it's her, but it's all they can see. No posting history.

slipperywhensparticus · 07/04/2019 17:38

Why are people telling OP to take the photo down? It's not on anything except the PC?

Whatad · 07/04/2019 17:43

My DM is like this with the one and only DIL she has. The fine china, the good cutlery etc. gets brought out in honour of DIL.

I think she's just embarrassed that her very down to earth family let her down in her eyes.
Funnily enough, when I bring a man in it's 'muck in now - there's no airs or graces in this house! And she manages to make a show of me lol'.

YourSarcasmIsDripping · 07/04/2019 17:45

Ah she's one of those people where everything is about her. Everything about other people is about her too. She sees her DH, DD and grandchildren as an extension of her. Every achievement,good thing etc,is due to her. By extension when they look silly and daft she'll also see it as an extension of her. She couldn't possibly have a husband,daughter and grandchildren that would ve so rude and unmannered that they'd eat while they're walking, so obviously this was an evil plot by you to embarrass her.

Short answer :she's bonkers. Ignore the drama llama.

Whatad · 07/04/2019 17:46

Though whenever I've been dating posh men, my mother refuses to meet them lol.

Whatad · 07/04/2019 17:49

I think that the OP is possibly a bit posh in the MIL's eyes and may think that you look down on her. That you fell in love with her son is irrelevant, because of course you would - the sun shines out of his behind! Why wouldn't you! I'd say MIL is lacking in confidence a bit. Be kind to her, especially since you don't see her that often.

But you've given me a giggle today anyway. She's probably a lovely woman.

ilikemethewayiam · 07/04/2019 17:51

Does she often behave irrationally?

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 17:52

I’m not posh. I’m from the south though and MIL thinks that’s posher than the north.

Oh well, I won’t take photos in future if it’s gling to cause trouble. They weren’t even for me!

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Whatad · 07/04/2019 17:56

Don't worry, of course take photos if you like or if she requests them, just be aware that she might not think that she's 'good enough' for you, or that you look down on her.

At least you don't have to see her too often.

lablablab · 07/04/2019 18:06

The mil has made a show of herself with her batshit overreaction! What a strange thing to get upset about?!! Is she usually so dramatic??

shitpark · 07/04/2019 18:16

I don't understand your reaction or the reactions of posters on here. If she doesn't like the pic of herself, then you'd be extremely cruel to show it to people. It doesn't matter if she is right to wrong, or behaving in a way you don't understand.

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 18:18

shitpark Oh, who did I show it to?

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MortyVicar · 07/04/2019 19:21

Applecrumble79

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 19:36

MortyVicar ???

Is that a name change fail?!

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Palominoo · 07/04/2019 19:41

Sbitoark have you read the thread properly?

The MIL is not huffing about having her photo taken.

She had a strop because on the background of the photo she noticed that members of her family were walking in a line with their plates and earing before they sat down.

The op was being KIND by transferring the photo's from her phone to her PC so that it could be used as VIEWING Only by the MIL and the rest of the family who went on the meal so they could ask the Op to send any photos they liked.

The op has done NOTHING wrong.

Palominoo · 07/04/2019 19:43

Can't be arsed to correct my spelling mistakes.

My post above was aimed at SHITPARK

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 19:48

Thanks Palominoo, I think some people just don’t read the thread and think I put the photo on the internet or something! Believe me no one would be interested in pictures of my MIL and family. Normally 😁.

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MortyVicar · 07/04/2019 20:03

I have no idea what happened there!! It was a proper post and everything Grin
I was going to ask....how did the other ILs react to the photo? Hopefully they just laughed because it was a funny picture.

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DestinationPub · 07/04/2019 20:14

MortyVicar The children thought it was hilarious, FIL not so much! I think he knew he’d be in trouble once he realised what the issue was. The children didn’t understand it was a bit “feeding time at the zoo” as a pp put it, it just looks funny all in a line...

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DestinationPub · 08/04/2019 14:29

SIL rang last night. MIL went ballistic on them on the way home. FIL actually threatened to stop driving if she didn’t shut up. In fact he dropped MIL off at home and stayed at SIL’s for ages instead of just dropping and going home as he normally does.

She didn’t continue to blame me but did say I’d think they were common. So it is to do with insecurities. Odd as she always been the type to not give a damn, the type to make a scene to get her own way actually.

Why would someone change like that?

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Palominoo · 08/04/2019 14:35

She’s probably pissed off at something else that she can’t vent at for whatever reason and has redirected her grievance at the photo incident.