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Money stolen from son’s wallet.

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 16:49

So my 11 year old son just discovered that £300 has been stolen from his wallet in bedroom. All his hard earned money, Christmas money, birthday money. There was only £20 left? It’s driving me crazy. I know a friend has been in his room and my younger 8 year olds friend. Their doesn’t seem to be any other explanation? I have said I will give him the money back as he is so upset but it’s driving me crazy! Didn’t sleep last night and don’t want to think badly or think their friends took it! What would you do? 😢

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WooWooCocktail · 19/03/2019 16:54

Call their parents. Right nwo

WooWooCocktail · 19/03/2019 16:55

The parents should be able to find the money as there’s no way 11 year olds could spend that much that quick. They need to know. If they come up with nothing then honestly call the police.

dementedpixie · 19/03/2019 16:59

When were the other children in the room? When was the last time he had the money out? Could he have been counting it and sat it down somewhere rather than putting it back in the wallet?

LovingLola · 19/03/2019 16:59

When did he last know for sure the money was there ?

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:00

I don’t know when it happened though? It could have happened between Jan and now. They have had many play dates in that time but I only know of 2 children who were in the actual bedroom during this time. They don’t seem the type. It’s jyst so strange. There was a time we left the house and my youngest didn’t fully close the door behind him. We came home, I panicked and checked the house- all seemed fine. Surely a burglar would not take some money and leave £20? He would have taken the wallet plus more? I feel i cannot ask the parents 😥

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:01

He thinks it was there Fri? But I don’t think he is sure. Tbh he doesn’t really know

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dementedpixie · 19/03/2019 17:02

Have you searched the rest of the room? Is the wallet in plain view or in a drawer?

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:02

I have checked his room and younger brothers room( he would not have taken it!) but nothing

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LovingLola · 19/03/2019 17:04

So really you have no clue when he last had the money ?
In that case you can’t contact the other parents...

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:04

The wallet is on the shelf. His friend came round yesterday and called him rich? He got his wallet out and said oh I only have £20? That seemed strange? He shouted downstairs to ask if I had seen the money?

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ScreamingValenta · 19/03/2019 17:04

Whereabouts in his room did your son keep the wallet?

Is he sure he hasn't hidden the money for safekeeping and forgotten where he put it?

Back in the dark ages when I was 10 I thought I'd lost £20 birthday money and found it months later in the bottom of my wardrobe.

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:05

What on earth would you say to the parents? You are basically accusing their child?!

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Pinkyyy · 19/03/2019 17:06

I'd contact the friend's parents.

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:06

He knows what’s there and saves his money. I have no way of knowing when it disappeared which is driving me crazy!!

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Pinkyyy · 19/03/2019 17:07

"Hi, DS has had £280 go missing from in his room. Could you please check that it didn't accidentally go home with your DS."

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:09

I feel awful as I have asked him “did you see your friend in your room?” Etc . I don’t want him to mistrust his friends. I feel now that he does 😥

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:10

Pinkky, I just couldn’t do that 😥

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OKhitmewithit · 19/03/2019 17:11

Why wasn’t it in a bank?! It may be harsh, but there is a lesson in that.... unless you hadn’t told him to bank it.

NigelYerABawbag · 19/03/2019 17:12

In the nicest possible way are you certain he hasn't spent it himself and doesn't want to face up to frittering it away? Buying stuff for other kids etc. Just because my younger cousin once did this, it turned out he was trying to make friends and was spending large amounts of money on sweets/magazines etc for other kids who he wanted to hang out with.

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:13

He has definitely not hidden it. I searched both the boys rooms. I am thinking is it my husband teaching a lesson, is it the younger son? Ahh hate myself! Think I am just going to have to forget about it or risk losing friends or worse family 😭

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:14

He doesn’t spend on anything is 11 and never goes out without us. If he is at a play date he is at other people’s house and does not take the wallet? It doesn’t add up?

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:15

He has amazon cards and Argos vouchers still that he saves. There is no way he could use the money for anything?

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TinklyLittleLaugh · 19/03/2019 17:17

Why would your husband do something like that?

SimplyPut · 19/03/2019 17:18

Surely your husband wouldn't do such a thing?

dreichuplands · 19/03/2019 17:19

You can't contact the friends parents because you have no clear idea when the money was last around. If there have been a many other play dates then someone else could have snuck in.
Does your ds remember showing the money to any of his friends?
It may turn up via the parents of another dc because let's face it you would notice if your dc had that amount of extra money and started to try and spend it.
Are you sure he hasn't just put it somewhere else/done something else with it and is now panicking?

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