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Money stolen from son’s wallet.

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 16:49

So my 11 year old son just discovered that £300 has been stolen from his wallet in bedroom. All his hard earned money, Christmas money, birthday money. There was only £20 left? It’s driving me crazy. I know a friend has been in his room and my younger 8 year olds friend. Their doesn’t seem to be any other explanation? I have said I will give him the money back as he is so upset but it’s driving me crazy! Didn’t sleep last night and don’t want to think badly or think their friends took it! What would you do? 😢

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BlueMerchant · 19/03/2019 17:19

How upsetting to think you've let these 'friends' in your house and they've done this to your son. He will feel so betrayed. I would like to say I would be straight round telling the parents although i don't know how I'd bring this up. I wouldn't be happy at all if someone came to my door accusing my DC. In all honesty, due to the amount of money( I know stealing is stealing and if it had been a £1 it's still theft) I'd involve the police and let them go knocking.

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:20

OKhitmewithit

Yes you have a point. I have asked him to bank the money. He was enjoying seeing it mounting up and how much he had saved. I am kicking myself and he has learnt a lesson too. It’s just so frustrating wondering where it has gone.

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dementedpixie · 19/03/2019 17:22

Have you checked pockets of clothes in his wardrobe?

WFTisgoingoninmyhead · 19/03/2019 17:23

There is nothing wrong with accusing someone of taking something, if his friend has it, you need it back. Do you have a cleaner or window cleaner, have windows been left open at all?

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:24

dreichuplands That is the thing ... I cannot accuse anyone if I am not 100% clear.

He definitely hasn’t put it somewhere 😢

I know it was between jan and now and the children that have been in the room since. So in my head I’m thinking it has to be one of the two but can’t be certain?

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SleepingSloth · 19/03/2019 17:24

That's a horrible situation.

If it was one of the friends and they took it back in January, it could be long gone by now so even if you involved the other parents, it may not help. Also there being 2 possible children who did this complicates it.

I'd be very annoyed but I think I'd have to live with it. I'd agree to replace the money, if you can afford to but the money would stay with me from now on.

I remember a friend stealing something from my room when we were about 8 or 9. We got it back by asking the parents to see if it had 'accidently' got taken home with my friends things. It was an easier situation because I knew it had been in the room with us whilst she was at my house and then it was gone so it could only have been her. I remember feeling really disgusted that my friend would steal from my house and I know my mum felt really awkward about the situation.

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:25

I have checked everywhere.

No cleaner or window cleaners😥

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dementedpixie · 19/03/2019 17:27

Have you asked your dh if he's seen it? Could he have banked it for your ds?

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:28

SleepingSloth Similar thing happened to me. A friend stole something from me that was very precious and her mum matched her round to my parents in the night and made her apologise! 😳

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beenhereages1 · 19/03/2019 17:28

I do think the "rich" comment from the friend is a little odd? Although I suppose a £11 would think £20 made someone rich

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:29

My younger son had not taken it. I have asked ( in my heart I knew he hadn’t/ wouldn’t)

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:30

He said the rich Comment was a joke? I don’t understand it though ?

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SoupDragon · 19/03/2019 17:31

He has amazon cards and Argos vouchers still that he saves

You do check the expiry dates for these don't you?

(Which doesn't help with the missing money. I'm not sure what you could say to the friends' parents though)

SoupDragon · 19/03/2019 17:32

Why would he comment on being "rich" unless he knew about the money?

LovingLola · 19/03/2019 17:34

Realistically you have zero idea of what has happened to the money.
Any ‘evidence’ you have is purely circumstantial.
And how do you know with 100% certainty that only 2 children have been in your 11 year olds room since January?

OKhitmewithit · 19/03/2019 17:35

It’s a tough tough lesson, but as an adult, you lose it, you lose it. He’ll never do anything careless again. Part of this is the chance of recovering it though.

So I think I would speak to the parents of the other kids. It doesn’t need to be aggressive accusations, just ‘look this has happened, if you notice anything blah blah’

As a parent I’d rather know if my child had embarked on a life of crime. I’d be thankful it wasn’t 10 years later and the police knocking.

beenhereages1 · 19/03/2019 17:35

That's what I wonder soupdragon?

LovingLola · 19/03/2019 17:36

Why would he comment on being "rich" unless he knew about the money?

Maybe the Op’s son made that up? Unless the op heard him saying it?

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:36

SoupDragon

Yes I do check. Strangely I suggested a money counting ATM machine from Argos so he could count his money and withdraw as he pleases. Which he declined and wished he bought!

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Baconislife · 19/03/2019 17:36

I would literally phone the parents of any visiting children and say.......
" £280 pounds has gone missing from the house.
We have looked everywhere and can not find it.
In order to claim for it on the house insurance, I need a crime number, so I'm going to have to report it to the police.
I'm informing you so you are not taken off guard if the police come to speak to your child"
Then I would just wait and see what happens

LeSquigh · 19/03/2019 17:39

I agree, the comment about him being rich is odd. That child presumably knew about the money to call him that? Is the child one of the two that had previously been in there?

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:41

SoupDragon

The comment about rich? I don’t fully understand? It is odd. I questioned this with my son. His response was his friend says he had nice things in his room? He really doesn’t?
I know children in his class discuss how much money they have but my son always says he hates that type of talk?!

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SoupDragon · 19/03/2019 17:41

Could you say "this is really embarrassing but DS has lost £280 from his room. Please can you check that X hasn't taken it as a joke as they were exchanging banter about him being rich"'. They weren't really exchanging banter, I know, but it gives an excuse. Doesn't help with the other Friend though.

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mumof2littleguys · 19/03/2019 17:42

LeSquigh

Yes the child was one of the 2😢

There was a few of them round. We have a downstairs loo. I saw him coming down from upstairs and said oh what were you doing using the loo???

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VelvetPineapple · 19/03/2019 17:44

I think it’s ok to ask parents as long as you don’t accuse. Just say your DS has had £280 go missing from his savings some time in the past six weeks, and as it’s such a large amount you’re contacting the parents of friends who’ve been in his room during that period to ask if they know anything. Could they please ask their DC if they’ve seen it, or picked it up by accident, or if they have any suspicion about who might have taken it.

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