I am very much no longer young

[StealthPolarBear]

I am turning forty this year and am having a mild and amusing mid life crisis.
Lots if little things, but the latest is that I've just tried to brush away a stubborn eye brow hair that was lodged just under my eye... It was a wrinkle.
I have also developed joint pain, in my thumb of all places.
Please tell me this is as bad as it gets :o

I'm very late 40s and most of the time I feel chipper BUT I have ball of foot atrophy, so I've turned into a comfortable shoe obsessive. I had to go to a fancy bone specialist podiatrist, as I have some weird bone issue in one foot and I happened to mention the constantly sore balls of feet and she said I had no fat pads left at all, just skin covered bone grinding into the ground!!!!!

I used to wear heels and I almost have to take a day off work now if I wear heels out of an evening. I am an expert gel pad fitter, shoe assessor and shoe locator, as I can't bring myself to wear flats all the time. Even the flats have to be 'cushiony' if I'm going to wear them for any length of time..... sigh!

With the power of my 15 x magnifying mirror I can see the rogue chin hairs & a particularly odd one that grows out of the side of my nose, but I epilate the fuckers and have told DD that if anything ever happens to me and I'm still alive but can't epilate - she has to do it.

I looked in the bathroom mirror today & to my shock saw 2 dark long hairs on my face!

Happily they turned out to be cat hairs!

Seriously though I'm 42 now & I feel more attractive than when I was in my late 30s.
In my late 30s I was recovering from a psychotic breakdown, obese & had lost a lot of hair due to meds.

Now some of my regrown hair is white but I get it highlighted blonde regularly.
I've lost weight & wear fashionable clothes.
As I've lost weight my aches and pains are improving.

I do take a lot of meds which help me feel in general quite content although I know if I didn't take them I would definitely get ill again but that's nothing to do with my age!

I'm 45 and am having a hard time letting go of 'my youth.' However, I was looking through the Damart clothes catalogue the other day thinking, "That looks comfy. That looks stylish." !!!

I felt great at 40 but somewhere around 41/42 my face changed completely. I no longer had a baby face.

now at 44 I feel oddly tired, though I do work out and I don't have the aches and pains that seem to be common in my age group. 40 does seem a long time ago...

OP the pain in the thumb, could it be repetitive strain injury? Seems very specific.

Unless I am regulatly giving thumbs up I don't see how :o
She says, typing on her phone with her thumbs... OK you might have a point

I get an achy thumb since I got the bigger iPhone.

See, it’s not old age - it’s a techie injury!

I love the dream about the folded jumper!!

I find as I'm aging I just can't be arsed with alcohol, it makes me feel awful. Anyone else?

With you on drinking ssd. I have almost given up altogether. Have just as much fun when I go out but don't feel like I'm one step closer to death the next day. I'm not sure why I didn't realise this was possible a lot longer ago!!!!

Grey pubes.

I turned 40 in Dec. Kill me now.

Ive started to indulge in sudoku!
I wouldn't dream of wearing heels
A good book and slice of cake is a real treat

Me too.

And the highlight of a visit to Tate, the Royal Academy or any of London's world-class galleries and museums is the gift shop followed by a cup of tea and a sit-down.

I'm also saving the second part of Monty Don's Japanese Gardens for when I feel like treating myself. I spent many happy weekend nights watching his Around the World in 80 Gardens series. And I fancy him too.

I'm 44.

Ooh @stealth I've got a living grandparent too and I'm 52!

45 here.
Did a jigsaw at the weekend on my own with DS.
That's sad, but not as sad as the fact that I got a sore back (can hardly put socks on) from doing it as it involved much bending.
I am now pretending that the back strain i.e 'jigsawers back' was caused by excessive power tool usage.

I bought big pants by mistake & they are brilliant! So comfy!

My advice is have kids at 40. For a while it makes you feel very young indeed and even if it doesn’t you don’t have time to look in the mirror anyway... but then, suddenly, you are about to turn 50 and your child is nearly 10 and your whole face looks like it’s been run over by a cart horse. Am seriously thinking about getting a puppy to take my mind off it.

Sorry but 43 this year.... and I’m determined to grow old disgracefully.... so shirt dresses and heeled courts (I work in my feet all day) and eye cream to hopefully dissuade the “laughter lines” from becoming deeper.... and if people don’t like it.... don’t look.... we only live once so enjoy it

Jigsawers back 🤣🤣

missyfafa

Turned 51 yesterday so now in a new age bracket (51 - 60)! Today had a consultation about my arthritic hip and knees. Things can only get better. 😋

2 words:

Chin pubes

Re the underwired bra's I think we could be on to something, take it off and my boobs will pull the wrinkles out of my face and I can fashion the bra into a sort of macrame style planter! Win win!

At 54 I'm into proper granny territory - gardening, knitting, birdwatching etc
Cardigans once despised are definitely useful for the menopause and the lack of eyesight means I think I'm still ravishingly attractive. My pubes seem to be developing a strange bald patch and then resort to sprouting the odd one out from behind my knee.
I also have the painful thumb joints.
On the plus side I think I'm turning out to not give a toss what anyone thinks anymore, which is remarkably freeing.

This thread is why I love MN.
I no longer feel alone

If pants don’t come up to the belly button they aren’t worth having.

(42 and a half)

People said throughout my 30’s how young I looked, never looked my age, what a natural beauty ( never wore make up or did my hair).

Abruptly stopped at 45.

Now five years on all my friends who spend time on hair and make up are getting the compliments. Up shot is....just takes a billion times more efffort to even look passable.

"just takes a billion times more efffort to even look passable."

beyond what's necessary at work, not sure I can be arsed.

I stopped wearing underwired bras in my 20s, but that mostly because one of the wires escaped and buggered the washing machine. I'm still angry about the bill 20 years later

I'm 42, i don't think I look my age, despite being old AND fat, but i bloody feel it. Aching joints, grey hairs, so much chin hair I have actually started to shave them off in the shower 🙈 I go to bed at the same time I used to go out clubbing. But you know what, I fucking love it!