I feel selfish to want to remember my DD

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My Dd died when she was 9 days old.
She was very sick & I have no illusions that she would have made it.
She would have been 21 today.
They are forgotten. I see her & miss her

Thinking of you OP

That is so sad. I'm so sorry.

You're not selfish, you're a mum!

Remember your DD, I'm sorry you endure such a loss

I'm very sorry for the loss of your lovely DD.

That’s hard. Feel for you OP x

It’s not selfish at all! Your DD was a monumental part of your life, regardless of how young she was when she died, and you’re her Mum. I’m so sorry and thinking of your on this painful anniversary.

So sorry for the loss of your beautiful daughter - you are absolutely right to want to remember her as such a special time

I’m so sorry. Would you like to tell us about her? What was her name?

so sorry for your loss 💐

It's not selfish to remember a loved one, it's human. Would you like to tell us about your daughter? What's her name?

Not selfish at all! You are her mum and you love her.

I'm so sorry . Would you like to talk about her? I'd love to hear about her.

Her name is Poppy . I chose this picture because I like the tall poppy. That’s how I imagine her - head tall , striding out into the world

Yes, it’s hard for you but not terribly important to others. Could you buy a present for her - a new white rose for the garden, an engraved glass or vase, a painting or a special piece of jewellery you wear for her?
Could you afford to sponsor a child in her memory through an organisation such a Action AId or similar?

That is a beautiful image. So v sorry for your loss xxx

She is your child, it’s completely understandable to think of her particularly as it is her 21st birthday. Were you able to mark the occasion some how? I’m so sorry for your loss OP. Would it help to tell her more about her. Understand if you’d rather not x

Im very sorry for your loss
It's not selfish to remember her, you will always be her mum and she will always be your daughter. The passage of time will never change that.

What a beautiful name.

If you’d like to share anything else about your daughter I’d love to hear it. I understand if you’d prefer to keep it private though.

I hear you. Mine died at birth, and her first day of school, her first Holy Communion and every birthday have all been marked by me and me alone, even though those days never really existed.
When a baby dies, so many people are lost. Not just the baby, but also the child, the teenager, the young adult, so many.
It's painful, but I also feel that our children deserve to be missed and I take some pride in remembering her. Do you have a place where you can go to remember her?

So sorry for your loss💐 I don't think that's selfish at all. How can it be wrong to remember someone you cherished so dearly just because they were only with you a short time. You carried her for nine months, you loved her - and she will be with you forever in your heart. You sound like a lovely Mum.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and your Poppy.
The years don't diminish pain , I find but just help us to live with it.
Sending hugs and a bunch of poppies

I'm sorry. Do you feel like you were given sufficient opportunity to grieve when you lost her? Have you had counselling?

I can't 'understand' what you're feeling as I haven't had to go through the same myself, but I empathise. What can you do now that might help? Perhaps you could organise a fundraiser for a children's hospice, or similar, every year around the time of her birthday to have something positive to focus on?

Happy birthday darling poppy.
My darling Joey’s first birthday has just passed. I’m so sorry.

You are not selfish

Poppy is a beautiful name.

Thinking of you both.

Not selfish at all, your DD is so important to you

I'm so sorry 💔