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I feel selfish to want to remember my DD

86 replies

ChelseaLoseAgain · 24/02/2019 19:44

My Dd died when she was 9 days old.
She was very sick & I have no illusions that she would have made it.
She would have been 21 today.
They are forgotten. I see her & miss her

OP posts:
PhilomenaButterfly · 24/02/2019 20:36

Happy birthday Poppy. Flowers

cwg1 · 24/02/2019 20:37

Happy Birthday, Poppy Flowers

why1stheRumgon3 · 24/02/2019 20:39

My beautiful baby girl died when she was 15 days old. I think about her everyday. You are not selfish at all.

RainbowMum11 · 24/02/2019 20:49

Not remotely selfish at all to remember your Daughter on her 21st xxx
What is her name? Xxx

RainbowMum11 · 24/02/2019 20:50

Sorry, just seen your post - Poppy is such a beautiful name xxx

Morgan12 · 24/02/2019 20:50

Happy birthday Poppy Flowers

That picture is beautiful OP. Made me smile.

SukiPutTheEarlGreyOn · 24/02/2019 20:52

Thinking of you and your much loved Poppy. Flowers

ilikemethewayiam · 24/02/2019 20:55

Do be afraid to talk about her OP, keep her memory alive, she deserves that. Her short life meant so much to the many who’s lives she touched.

Betsy86 · 24/02/2019 20:55

What a beautiful picture! Happy Birthday Poppy Flowers

ilikemethewayiam · 24/02/2019 20:56

*don’t

Petalflowers · 24/02/2019 21:01

Flowers for you.

Beautiful poppy picture.

maybelate · 24/02/2019 21:02

Thinking of you OP. Happy 21st birthday Poppy x

kateandme · 24/02/2019 21:03

not selfish at all.do whatever you need to do for her and yourself.dont spend more time feeling sorrow over peope who cant or don't want to remember,it will only make the sadness worse.
be gentle to yourself today.xx

puppy23 · 24/02/2019 21:04

Not selfish in the slightest, she deserves to be remembered and you deserve to grieve. Sending love

Annonymiss123 · 24/02/2019 21:04

Happy birthday Poppy. Flowers

Sorry for your loss OP.

MarieIVanArkleStinks · 24/02/2019 21:04

How heartbreaking. She will always be your daughter; you will always be her mother. As a mother who lost 5 babies through miscarriage, it saddens me that there is such a taboo surrounding infant loss; to the extent that those who mourn are isolated in their grief and even believe they are selfish for wanting to acknowledge it. Please rest assured, you're not. She is not taboo. She was your much loved little girl.

I can't think of a more painful situation in life. Sending you love, OP and all others who find themselves in this sad, sad situation.

ItWentInMyEye · 24/02/2019 21:09

Thinking of you all on your daughters birthday Thanks More than ok to remember her on significant dates, any date for that matter! Think about her, talk about her, love her, remember every detail of her beautiful face. Xx

Tink1990 · 24/02/2019 21:09
Flowers
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ChelseaLoseAgain · 24/02/2019 21:11

@MarieIVanArkleStinks
An amazing & emotional post.
I cry on my own because it feels like I don’t have a tangible ‘loss’.
I beat myself up every single day that i did something wrong.
But please- WE have to realise that any loss isn’t down to us - it’s nature

OP posts:
EssentialHummus · 24/02/2019 21:12

I'm so sorry OP Flowers. Thinking of you and Poppy.

CloudPop · 24/02/2019 21:15

Happy birthday Poppy - loved for every moment she lived and ever since

yogafailure · 24/02/2019 21:18

Happy birthday Poppy and Thanksto you OP. No one who is loved is ever forgotten x

TheRealHousewifeofCheshire · 24/02/2019 21:19

I am so sorry for your loss this is heartbreaking. You do right to remember your daughter Flowers

Paddy1234 · 24/02/2019 21:23

She is your daughter
Happy Birthday Poppy ❤️❤️